a reply to: TheToastmanCometh
Sorry to say this, but something about this sounds fishy.
What actually happened, you don't tell us. You're being INCREDIBLY vague and avoid details like the plague. Not a good sign. You can't do this and
then talk about trust.
Also, 'emotional damage' is not a thing. 'Mental damage' - I don't think so, unless this individual bashed your head in with a crowbar or something.
What I gather from this, is that NOTHING actually happened, beyond someone having a different opinion or saying something you didn't like, and you
wanting to summon all the powers of victimhood to destroy some innocent, upstanding man's (it was a man, right?) whole life and reputation just
because you two had a tiny argument or debate, because of feelzzz?
Am I right? Am I wrong?
It sounds to me like nothing PHYSICAL happened.
So where's the abuse? What was said, exactly? I don't take one side of a story and treat it as a fact, there are always at least two, often three
sides to a story - your side, their side and the truth.
If you 'stood up', then can it even be called 'abuse'? This is so vague and has no details whatsoever, it could mean basically anything.
Maybe if you tell us the WHOLE truth, ONLY truth and NOTHING but the truth - no 'feelz', no 'opinions', no 'bias' - just what ACTUALLY, factually
happened, we are in a position to give you more sympathy.
(I would still have to hear their side, your grandma's side, and even then, I would still have to piece together what probably went down and still not
know the full story, but it'd be a start - to be able to honestly and authentically award any sympathy)
Again, my apologies if I am wrong, but this just smells fishy and sounds a _LOT_ like a typical story where a woman is blaming some innocent man and
trying to destroy that man just because the man DARED say something un-feministic, dared be right when the woman was wrong, dared to point out the
woman's mistake or 'mansplain', and so on and so forth. Women have been using shaming language, like 'abuse', 'creep', etc. not to mention all the
CARDS, that I have become a bit less trusting and cynical about this sort of stuff.
If someone punched you, yes, this is definitely abuse. If you CLAIM someone punched you, but no one actually did, JUST to kill someone's reputation or
get them in trouble, and your grandma saw that, then no, that's not OK and you don't get my sympathy.
How do you even 'destroy someone's trust', and why is that somehow unlawful? It is not mentioned in Black's Law Dictionary.
Trust is something YOU build based on your experiences - if he is not trustworthy, then he should not be trusted. It can't destroy your ability to
trust or build trust or assess trustworthiness of other people. If you disagree, then could you explain and elaborate, how would it even be possible
for someone else to destroy YOUR trust? How?
This just smells so fishy, something is being hidden here, and I don't like it. What's your agenda for not telling the details of the story? Can you
entertain the idea that your grandma might be right? What is a good excuse in your opinion to destroy someone's reputation, if they didn't do anything
physical to you?
Are men even allowed to debate anymore without some vicious !@%&"* wanting to destroy their probably well-earned reputation?
How many honest, innocent men have to be dragged down, jailed or murdered for people to ask some QUESTIONS before they reward any self-appointed
'victim of abuse' (the signs of which are non-physical.. err, that's not abuse) with tons of sympathy?
Maybe I am too cynical after living in this world for so long, but could you please elaborate on your story and explain EXACTLY why this man's (I
assume) reputation SHOULD be destroyed (what a weird way to go about it anyway, why not just report him to the police and let LAW handle it, instead
of trying to destroy them - are you any better if you're just destroying people and their reputations instead of going about it the proper route?
Could it be that nothing serious enough happened that would warrant a warrant (sorry, couldn't resist a pun) - I mean, maybe police wouldn't take it
seriously if you go claim 'a man destroyed my trust'..?)
Something is definitely weird about this - at least reveal WHAT HAPPENED, or maybe don't try to destroy someone's reputation.