What would cause you to marry more?

originally posted by: Doctor Smith
Neither good looks nor a great personality would be enough for me to marry them. Why would I want to join someone to my hip? If they could hang with me for a few years and we found that we were compatible maybe I would reconsider.

I've found out that even If they are ugly on the outside..... They have just as much of a chance of being ugly on the inside also. So you might as well go with the good looking one to at least get the outer shallow beauty.

I'll be damned if that isn't a very interesting perspective.

a reply to: selfharmonise

If I'm a horrible person I never meant to be.

I wouldn't marry more.

Orrrr....put in the work that is that couple years with no expectations because expectations are pre meditated resentments....

And all good things come with time....

Its the tendency to leap for instant gratification that gets people...

originally posted by: carsforkids

originally posted by: Doctor Smith
Neither good looks nor a great personality would be enough for me to marry them. Why would I want to join someone to my hip? If they could hang with me for a few years and we found that we were compatible maybe I would reconsider.

I've found out that even If they are ugly on the outside..... They have just as much of a chance of being ugly on the inside also. So you might as well go with the good looking one to at least get the outer shallow beauty.

I'll be damned if that isn't a very interesting perspective.

It's really not that interesting...

You're just trying to be nice....

What they said is super basic really.....:/

a reply to: GoShredAK

Are you saying I'm a kiss ass? Without saying you are wrong you
do have the right to be.

No not at all....just kind hearted at the core....

Not passive or a kiss ass...

More like mature enough to spare others embarrassment at your own expense...

Marriage is for men who are tired of making their own decisions!

a reply to: GoShredAK

Thanks amigo.
We just had an off topic 4.5 where I'm at Fontana Ca.

originally posted by: vonclod
Marriage is for men who are tired of making their own decisions!

Oh hoho now there's a sexist comment making it impossible
for me not to comment after I said I wouldn't comment but
couldn't live up to it at all.

Scrupulous duplicates :/

originally posted by: vonclod
Marriage is for men who are tired of making their own decisions!

And those men become pu$$y whipped b!tches who rightfully get cheated on....

Let's get real in this discussion...

a reply to: carsforkids

A very humanistic question, have we not all married or close to asked the same? If not to those close why not here or anywhere. Not sure why any would judge such a valid and all encompassing topic, clearly not just for hetero sexuals- a very asexual topic.

To start in the younger years attraction and sexuality are a huge part and honestly always will be. But, they do not last.
The basic attraction and great sex even the fun or outrageous/exciting types will only last so long. Marriage is for those that find someone they can be vulnerable with equally, even lasting love has this requirement. You must be able to see the broken heart, need, anguish, despair, the deep and humble side, longing, giving, selflessness and selfishness and still want to hold tight to that person, make love to them. This person you will wake up with at 3 am to feed your infant child, hold them smelling baby vomit, look at a negative bank statement and work together to fix it not blame. When that hot #10 comes along after you have not slept or had sex in weeks, as much as you would like to dip in that you decline because you know losing all you have would bankrupt your soul. But really the thought of being any more cause of pain in this crazy world to that rock you found would kill you more than anything. All this knowing tomorrow you will likely argue over some arbitrary crap, like what your friend said, or what was for dinner and you would miss that. That is your intended spouse. Do not miss them chasing that magazine #. A partner that knows and understands you will have flaws as you do. That is not the point. But, you likely will find that point together. Good luck to you. Ignore the negative, none of us actually got a hand book. Cheers to you for asking.

-M

a reply to: byGRACE

Can't deny the life experience you have expressed here kind soul

originally posted by: carsforkids
I think maybe I should disclose that I
am heterosexual I'm a womanizer only because I absolutely adore
woman.

Funny, I adore women and as a result I am NOT a womanizer.

Your statement is similar to saying you eat beef because you adore cows.

Ok lets try..

Your wife is a total opposite of the women in those magazines by the look, she might be slim and more balanced in her life than girls you dream of. She listen you and value you, not like the girls you previously dated. She is a keeper but time to time you stop wondering why her and why not the one you dreamed of, sadly if you dont start seeing her as the one who is for you and you are only for her, your relationship won´t last. No woman wants to compete with past loves of their spouse. When she leaves you, you wake up what a mistake you made not keeping her.

Mic drop......

a reply to: GoShredAK
Cheers to you, and thank you.

a reply to: byGRACE


I had to break away from reading when I got this far .

You must be able to see the broken heart, need, anguish, despair, the deep and humble side, longing, giving, selflessness and selfishness and still want to hold tight to that person, make love to them

My wife suffered the loss of her mother in the worst way it could
happen to anyone. Before she was even one year old her mother
rode off on the back of motorcycle and never came back. I couldn't
help but fall deep for the beautiful person she turned out to be.
I swore no one would ever hurt her like that again. And no one did.

Despite growing up with what must have been some pretty ugly
feelings I myself could only imagine. So what you wrote there really
struck hard across my heart. I have to recover now.

a reply to: Ksihkehe

Funny, I adore women and as a result I am NOT a womanizer.

If you would allow me to correct that. It should read I was a womanizer.
My wife changed that. I was just trying to be honest.