posted on Jun, 4 2020 @ 09:57 AM
a reply to: Flyingclaydisk
When I worked in archives, the bulk of day to day work was with genealogists.
Occasionally, distant branches of family would converge in our area and once they were aware of each other they would exchange their research
findings. This is usually really helpful and saves time on duplicating work.
For the most part they would be delighted .
We heard stories from people who had contacted them out of the blue with requests from abroad about possible connections, leads etc.
Generally, these things are pretty harmless and kind of accepted as part of doing family history.
Every now and then we heard that someone was horrified that they'd been found and didn't like the thought of someone looking them up even they were
looking for information on the same things.
I can offer no explanation other than families break up over time for a variety of reasons which they may or may not wish to remain personal.
They may want to find more than they give out.
The records we kept were public in nature and there's a big difference between looking up old paperwork and direct contact.
She doesn't sound like a secret type so as the above poster suggested, try a phone call and hope for the best.
Hope that helps a bit.