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originally posted by: stosh64
You get the ignorance award for the day.
Do you really believe if somehow guns were removed from the equation that we would instantly be some utopia?
JAG nailed a major factor, parenting, but there is much more.
Pharmaceuticals being given to our adolescents almost as a babysitter anymore, along with the good old electronic babysitters. The state telling parents what is and is not allowed when it comes to raising your child. The agendas being pushed through schools labeled as 'education'. Shall I continue?
But you want to blame an inanimate object, a tool, as the root of evil.
originally posted by: 3NL1GHT3N3D1
Parents are working longer hours than ever before. How can you raise your kids when you hand them off to strangers to raise them for you while you slave away for 40+ and 50+ hours per week? Instead of putting our time in with our kids we hand them off to the state to be taught and told how to act. The family unit has been systematically dismantled over the past few decades to the point where we are today.
It's a societal issue more than anything else. Modern society is having some pretty severe side effects on the human race.
originally posted by: discourse
a reply to: JAGStorm
I agree with you mostly but whats this about it being disrespectful to wear pajamas outside? I do this and I have children. Have you ever been on a collage campus?
I remember when if you were a good hacker and got caught, you got an easier sentence and a good job if you went work for the government, if you were good enough to get recognized anyway.
I remember back in the 80s when they blamed kids behavior on music
originally posted by: rickymouse
Then the kids that are problematic discovered others that have their same opinion on the net where they reinforce their wrong beliefs. A kid who feels something is wrong with society goes online and links to others with those wrong beliefs, and bickering in society makes them choose a side instead of just being neutral.
originally posted by: JAGStorm
We do not have a gun problem, a violence problem, a race problem, a homeless problem, a drug problem.
We have a parenting problem.
Somewhere along the line, the pendulum swung too far.
Parents were scared of disciplining their kids in any way. Not just spanking, but even a harsh word. Too many people are single parents. I'm not just talking about single moms, I'm talking about families that can't afford it to have one parent at home.
My mother once told me that teens are not normal if they don't "go crazy" at least once. I thought that was weird until I had teenagers.
As a parent, that was the single scariest time in my entire life, and I've had some scary moments!
Absolutely nothing has changed with teens, it is the parents that have changed! The way parents let their kids talk to them, treat them.
ZERO RESPECT. Parents letting their kids wear pajamas out, ZERO RESPECT. Kids out all hours of the day and night. This is not normal!!!
If you don't learn to respect yourself you will never have
respect for other people. That starts with the parents, if you don't respect yourself your kids will never respect you. I've gone through this test.
Trust me, respect yourself.
On a side note, our kids are not getting the connections they desperately need. Teens/young adults are grumpy, but they need us.
I've had my kids friends over for dinner in the past. They did not want to leave the dinner table. They expressed how much they enjoyed eating and talking and being together and it was something they did not do at their houses. Everyone eats on the run. That was so so sad. Not even a shared meal together!
originally posted by: queenofswords
a reply to: JAGStorm
You nailed it. I will even include grandparenting. Grandparents aren't what they used to be either.
Bullies. I do know that they take up all of the parking spots in the street daily and their dogs can roam free "unleashed" to defecate anywhere they want to
originally posted by: Oleandra88
a reply to: UpIsNowDown
The impression we have in Europe (impression!) is that most American middle and upper class parents are helicopter parents soft padding their kids.