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"Ultimately, each individual has the freedom to decide whom they date or are interested in dating, and thus this research does not attempt to make any statements concerning whom an individual should date or consider dating".
quite a few people of all sexual orientations date for the sole purpose of sexual intercourse and those types will indeed date trans people but, again, for fetish reasons or worse.
It is almost as if trans people are between a rock and a hard place within the dating scene.
originally posted by: TheRedneck
a reply to: InTheLight
quite a few people of all sexual orientations date for the sole purpose of sexual intercourse and those types will indeed date trans people but, again, for fetish reasons or worse.
Huh? That makes no sense. If you agree that people date for reasons of sexual intimacy, it naturally follows they are only interested in those with the expected genital arrangement.
It is almost as if trans people are between a rock and a hard place within the dating scene.
Yes, they are. But that is not something that can be changed. One cannot decree who must date who.
TheRedneck
originally posted by: ketsuko
a reply to: InTheLight
I'll be it's not as true as you would like to think.
If all it takes is a pretty face and outward seeming, then why was I never attracted to men with light hair? Ever? There are plenty of good looking ones out there. Brad Pitt is pretty good looking, but he's not sexy good looking to me. His hair is wrong, and even then ... I don't know.
Not necessarily, some people are looking for the fetish sexual encounter and so it naturally follows 'anything goes'.
Of course, one cannot decree who must date who, but nobody is saying or doing that here.
The underlying point is rejection due to prejudice, fear, hate etc., which is the dehumanizing factor.
Some people go further and use violence against trans people.
originally posted by: InTheLight
originally posted by: ketsuko
a reply to: InTheLight
I'll be it's not as true as you would like to think.
If all it takes is a pretty face and outward seeming, then why was I never attracted to men with light hair? Ever? There are plenty of good looking ones out there. Brad Pitt is pretty good looking, but he's not sexy good looking to me. His hair is wrong, and even then ... I don't know.
It all depends on what else you are looking for besides looks. Don't forget it really is all chemistry (until one learns one's romantic interest is a trans person - it seems from that study), so it's a toss up.
originally posted by: ketsuko
originally posted by: InTheLight
originally posted by: ketsuko
a reply to: InTheLight
I'll be it's not as true as you would like to think.
If all it takes is a pretty face and outward seeming, then why was I never attracted to men with light hair? Ever? There are plenty of good looking ones out there. Brad Pitt is pretty good looking, but he's not sexy good looking to me. His hair is wrong, and even then ... I don't know.
It all depends on what else you are looking for besides looks. Don't forget it really is all chemistry (until one learns one's romantic interest is a trans person - it seems from that study), so it's a toss up.
Looking for something besides looks implies I'm getting to know someone which counters attractiveness to some degree. I'm talking about the animal side of things which is, indeed, chemistry. And the chemicals of a transperson are going to be the chemicals of their biology, not the chemicals of their mental gender for starters even if it is messed with by the hormones to some degree.
I'll bet they don't "read" right to most people as a result.
I was just reading transwomen dating experiences and I can tell you that some hetero men don't bother reading the profile and end up finding out their date is a transwoman, then having a hissy fit or worse. Meanwhile, they were interested and attracted to the transwoman up to that point.
originally posted by: TheRedneck
a reply to: InTheLight
I was just reading transwomen dating experiences and I can tell you that some hetero men don't bother reading the profile and end up finding out their date is a transwoman, then having a hissy fit or worse. Meanwhile, they were interested and attracted to the transwoman up to that point.
Then that's on them. They should have read the profile.
Not everyone advertises their "uniqueness," though.
TheRedneck
originally posted by: TheRedneck
a reply to: InTheLight
Then what was your point?
TheRedneck
originally posted by: Agit8dChop
I want to date women.
Not men who became women.
Not women who want to become men.
Its not just their physical attributes or being shunned from society. There's clear mental challenges happening in the persons mind if they want to chop off their god given sexual organs and pretend to be the opposite sex.
I'm sorry,
men are born with penises and testicles
women are born with vaginas and ovaries
no politically correct is going to change nature