posted on Oct, 14 2018 @ 05:10 PM
Here's a rundown of my family. It's a long one folks, lol.
Mother - hasn't spoken to me for almost 4 years.
On Christmas Eve she told me she would be bringing her new dog (her 2nd) over to meet my 6 month old son. The dog is a Staffordshire bull terrier. I
said no and didn't want the dog in my house.
Christmas day she turned up with the dog. I didn't let her in. She stormed off and returned 5 minutes later, throwing the Christmas presents we gave
her at my wife. She the went home and defriended me, my wife and mother-in-law on Facebook. She hasn't spoken to me since.
Also, her boyfriend is a convicted felon. He did live in America at the time and was jailed there, then deported to the UK where he was born.
Father - Only see him twice a year at best.
He remarried and took on her 3 kids. He didn't even turn up for my kids birthdays. Last year, he wasn't going to visit at Christmas and was
planning on bringing the kids presents a few days later. He only came for Christmas when I told him he either came before or not at all. Basically,
his new wife keeps him busy with her family.
Brother - Hasn't spoken to me for around 3.5 years.
He takes our mothers side on everything. He did keep in touch after she stopped speaking to me but refused to come to my boys 1st birthday party. No
gift, no card Just stopped contacting. He's never worked, smokes, drinks, gambles and does drugs. He uses our mother for money. He also spends his
time with our mothers boyfriend, drinking and doing drugs which she turns a blind eye to.
My Aunt (Mothers sister) - She visits regular.
She doesn't talk to her sister anymore after trying to arrange a surprise party for her birthday. Apparently she found out and for some reason went
mental. Now they don't talk. My kids call her Auntie as they don't have anyone else and she does spend a lot of money on them. She doesn't have
any other family.
She's on her own, disabled and we do what we can to help her, but she doesn't make it easy. Her husband walked out on her 15 years ago. Moved to
another country with just a suitcase. He just couldn't take her nagging anymore. She is very negative and thrives on other peoples misfortunes.
She doesn't like me as I stood up to her bullying my wife.
A couple of examples of her behaviour;
While planning our wedding, we went to a wedding show. Her mother and my mother came along. For some reason, in the middle of the hall, in front of
about 4 thousand people. She started shouting at my wife. Something to do with her not getting a say in any decisions. She initially said she would
pay for everything, then most of it, then just a few things and then just the invitations. We paid for everything ourselves. My wife was in tears,
I had to console her while her mother was escorted out the show. She threatened several times to boycott the wedding for various reasons until I told
her to grow up or stay away.
We then found out she was spending thousands on her house. New windows, new bathroom, landscape garden etc. It was her money so I cant object but she
said she couldn't afford to help with the wedding.
My wife and I were buying a car. This was our first as we couldn't afford one before. Her brother agreed to drive us to the showroom. For some
reason, her mother came as well. We were going for a used car as that was the best we could afford. We bought one we liked and spent our savings on
the deposit, with a 4 year finance plan. Her brother then said he could do with a brand new car but couldn't afford it. Her mother said 'I'll pay
for it'. And did. In full. Again, I cant object as it's her money but it just seemed a bit strange. (He no longer speaks to her)
A final example. She now pleads poverty and tries to get us to pay for her shopping. We have before when its just a few items.
One day, she came to visit. She is only round the corner from us. She didn't stay long and left again. After she left, we realised she left a piece
of paper on the chair she was sitting on. It was her bank statement. I wont disclose what we seen, but it was more than we would ever imagine.
She's never mentioned it, and we've never mentioned it. But we believe it was intentional. Why? Who knows.
Brother-in-law (and his wife) - No longer speaks to us (or his mother), mainly due to his wife.
He and my wife were close growing up. Remaining close into their 20's. When we announced our wedding, we asked if his then girlfriend would be a
bridesmaid. Big mistake. She complained about everything and tried to cause as many arguments as possible. Teaming up with my mother-in-law to
criticize every decision we made on the wedding. Then, they announced they were getting married, the wedding date would be a few months after ours.
Everything became about their wedding.
Here's a few highlights since.
They argued at our wedding, causing a huge scene. Supposedly because he was not giving her enough attention and talking to our guests.
She had a major argument with my mother-in-law over something that has never been explained, at her hen night, prompting her family to arrive at my
mother-in-laws home the next day to try and attack her.
She encouraged him to apply for a new job, which he got. He was made redundant a few months later. She kicked him out for losing is job and her
family forcibly removed him from their joint home. They got back together several months later.
She was sacked from her job for falsifying records over a period of years. She got caught when she boasted about it.
She delighted in telling me and my wife how poor we were and how well off she was. Eventually it was revealed she was using her grandparents credit
cards and wiped them out.
She walked into a hospital, telling them she was a danger to herself and others. She was referred to counselling and was cured after 2 sessions.
She damaged her ankle and knee while trying to attack my brother-in-law. He locked himself into a room and she tried to kick the door down.
She has spent the last few years switching from a walking stick, support boot to a wheelchair and back again. Also walking unaided on several
My wife's gran passed and the funeral was far away, we all had to take a flight. My mother-in-law, as she is disabled, was offered assistance by the
crew and helped onto the plane. My sister-in-law went mental, claiming she was more disabled but had forgotten her walking stick.
At the funeral, she introduced herself to everyone and anyone as being disabled while holding out her blue badge.
On the flight back, she argued the whole journey over who was more disabled.
Finally, every Christmas and birthday they have bought gifts that were not age appropriate for our kids. We said nothing, just disposing of them,
until they gave us gifts for our 6 month old that were plain dangerous/chocking hazards. Clearly labelled for 3 years +.
When we told them it was unacceptable, they played the victim and accused us of being jealous of them. We were defriended on facebook and contact was
So there you have it, that's my family. Our kids are the ones that are missing out. My 4 year old regularly asks when Grandad is coming.
I don't have an answer.