a reply to: Fools
I did most of the things on OP's list.
My kids were born in Big City. They've been raised on a steady diet of stories about small town life in the 80s, and wanted out of urban hell. At
the same time, I had gotten an empty suburban lot and permission (over massive objection from the city) to garden the whole lot, and put bees in. And
as many chickens as the law would allow (which is 2 hens. they have to be pets, not livestock producing food. Cause apparently it is a huge moral
failing to grow your own food...).
I managed to hone my fishing and hunting skills to where almost all of our food came from the garden, the lake, or the woods. And then I started
buying raw milk on the "green market" for my kids, and they quit getting sick.
Then about 3 years ago, we got a job opportunity and pie-eyed it for the countryside.
There are is a much higher limit to what animals I can keep. And the cost of running my own well is probably $30 a month. And my kids play in the
woods behind our house. They go hunting and play 'survival' and 'alone.' Nobody telling me I have to have a water intensive yard full of Kentucky
bluegrass in the desert west of the US of A. (seriously, how is xeriscaping illegal anywhere in Texas that has water issues?!?!?!)
I am as free as I've ever been. Because I'm as far away from the courthouse as possible.
The dissolution of the family isn 't due to rock music or pornography or drugs. It is due to the fact that the family in the urban US has ceased to
be the unit of production. For your grandparents, if they were going to get rich it was because the whole family worked on their farm; or the whole
family helped run the family store. If you got rich it would be working with your family, not working for a major corporation. (which did exist, but
mainly employed urban immigrants).
Today's modern family doesn't even eat a meal together in a given week. The only time the family "gets together" is for Christmas break or on
vacation, when they will join together and spend mass amounts of money, which they will spend the rest of the year trying to pay back. Spending
money together is no basis for a family relationship. Back in the day, marriages lasted, and families cohered, because they were producing wealth
For that reason, we produce as much of our own stuff as possible. My kids are learning how to work (at food production) and learning to work with
others, toward a group goal. It is a hell of a lot cheaper to grow your own tomatoes, instead of paying a dollar apiece at the grocery, for tomotoes
from Argentina. My kids are learning hands on how to work. They have built our chicken coop out of found materials. The teenagers have become
skilled carpenters. Now, the ones who are old enough are planning to go to college and have urban careers. But, if anything, they are more
advanced than their peers because they have problem-solving skills and interpersonal skills that the kids playing video games never master.