Kick me

Have you ever spoken positively of someone, only to have them turn around and stab you in the butt?

This has been happening to me a lot lately: try to talk someone up, or paint them in a good way to a third party; genuinely feeling this way.

Then said person does something to sink it.

It's like me "Hey, you know this other person is really awesome!"--And then I get screwed over by them almost instantly.

I am the worst because I always try to see the best in people, even if I don't particularly like them.

I just feel so betrayed and crushed right now.

Always the NB get kicked while down.

So go ahead. Plant a boot right in the cheeks...first one, then the other if you please.

originally posted by: NarcolepticBuddha
Have you ever spoken positively of someone, only to have them turn around and stab you in the butt?

This has been happening to me a lot lately: try to talk someone up, or paint them in a good way to a third party; genuinely feeling this way.

Then said person does something to sink it.

It's like me "Hey, you know this other person is really awesome!"--And then I get screwed over by them almost instantly.

I am the worst because I always try to see the best in people, even if I don't particularly like them.

I just feel so betrayed and crushed right now.

Always the NB get kicked while down.

So go ahead. Plant a boot right in the cheeks...first one, then the other if you please.

But the problem is with them not you?

Also still you probably should not do that anyway because in the end everyone will end up thinking you are not reliable for those things?

Maybe it should be better to just say well I know someone who may be a fit for this, but you need to check them first to be sure as I can't 100% recommend. Or something like that?

a reply to: NarcolepticBuddha

Have you ever spoken positively of someone, only to have them turn around and stab you in the butt?

🤔.. in the butt ? .. no.. but in the back ( to the extent that it hits your heart ) .. very much so.
Has happened all my life, and I still don’t give up totally on people, though I must say I’m much more of a recluse because of the judgemental way people can be.

originally posted by: Sheye
a reply to: NarcolepticBuddha

Have you ever spoken positively of someone, only to have them turn around and stab you in the butt?

🤔.. in the butt ?

Yeah! Totally blindsided.

I wasn't exactly referring to matters of the heart. I just feel defeated and stupid for believing in the goodness of people who unexpectedly serve me up a plate of rotten clams!

a reply to: NarcolepticBuddha

lol I get what you mean but it is just better not to be around or talk or make friends.
I feel bad for toby thought... geez

Treat them even more with compassion and love. Because, one day they will look back over their life and witness, from the perspective of others, how they have been and without the filters of their own dishonest self-view; they will see what it is to have been seen by everyone around them, and that truth will ruin them...

and you can skip down the street, whistling nonsensical tunes and smiling at strangers

a reply to: NarcolepticBuddha

BOOSH



Now, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, get yourself a spoonful of concrete and...... always remember EVERYONE's a # until proven otherwise, so don't give it away easy.

a reply to: NarcolepticBuddha

You masochist!

No.

there arent many types of replies you can get when you ask such a question. they will say
-go berserk
-go back to your own live and try to ignore them, learn to trust none
-dont mind what they do or say and still insist to act like you did before.
-try to talk to your friends about it or your god or your angel whatever.



I am more of an avenger type.

a reply to: NarcolepticBuddha

DO NOT TRUST PEOPLE. Plain and simple.

originally posted by: Damla
I am more of an avenger type.

Ohh, but don't you stand out in your Bowler hat?

For a few hundred bucks, I know a girl who will kick you wherever you want.

Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me. Live by it.

Please pardon if I don't intend to plant a boot in your rear, would rather offer you some important, honest advice. I beg you, if you're of goodwill and can stand yourself, in good conscience, do not pay a scintilla mind to gratuitous haters. They are out there, in droves, everything from trolls to bigger psychos, their goal to get to you, as it gives them a bent sense of power, as they are, in fact, people of very low self esteem, lowlifes, some so low that a victory in their life is having power over somebody in a comments forum, as they're lower than most others, themselves, in their real lives. Your serial killer is generally somebody of such hopeless self worth, fear and lack of control in their own lives, they resort to terror and killing as a means to have some power or control.

Never forget. Anybody that can control your emotions has power of you: you have surrendered your power to somebody generally unworthy, at least if you're not truly to blame, in some way, as we sometimes are. Repeat these words, a thousand times, if you must, "Consider the source... Consider the source... Consider the source...". Are you going to be beside yourself, if you see a bear poop in the woods? It's what they do. If somebody is a nasty lowlife, is traitorous, the world is full of them. Expect this.

Speaking of which, generally speaking, don't give people the total benefit of the doubt you don't know. Sure, don't presume them evil, but neither presume them good, and respect is earned. You really shouldn't need everybody to like you, or you are in for one miserable, narcissistic ride of a life! Otherwise, instead of getting upset, at somebody who so offends you, just ask them when they stopped taking their meds, learn to have fun with it. I don't know, reply to them something like, "How long have you been constipated? LOL!" And, yes, laugh, being happy you're not them, putting them on ignore, best thing. Or learn how to box, if you insist on getting into scrapes with borderline lowlifes, that are sitting in their underwear, in their mothers' basements, preying on everybody in sight.

Okay? Hope this helps. You must not let this world jerk you around by a string, and you do have power over simply allowing them to piss you off. Just forget about them straightaway, be happy, be glad they don't live next door, and move on to using your time for something useful and somebody worthy.

originally posted by: Justso
Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me. Live by it.

Doesn't that go, "Fool me once, shame on — shame on you. Fool me — you can't get fooled again."? Not sure. Maybe I'm not the decider of that one.

a reply to: Scrutinizing

That's not the way I've heard it-but, whatever works for you.

a reply to: NarcolepticBuddha


Yes. It is shocking when it happens.

I started a job at an elementary school 5 years ago, and there was another new woman who started with me. We were instant friends. We had meals together, including with my child.

She was a well to do retiree who was bored with being retired and decided to work. I was a struggling single mom (still am) who needed to work as much as I could around my sons schedule.

Anyways 4 years pass, we are good friends and coworkers; I thought she was the greatest woman. We both work a couple of extra positions, but at different schools, and I substitute sometimes. I get another position for after school counselor; and her stance was, “Oh I would never want to work with the 3rd to 5th graders, she preferred kindergarten. No worries, I loved the 3rd-5th graders and was absolutely loving working with them.

One day, she decides she wants to work at my school instead (no idea why). I am excited to have her with me. Yet we don’t talk much because we alternate groups. I always had the boys football, dodgeball, and computer time. Not sure what her groups were, as she only covered when people were out.

To my horror, while sitting at a table with a student, I overheard her talking smack about me. I couldn’t believe she didn’t see me sitting at the table next to her.

Turns out she just wanted my position; I couldn’t believe she would resort to such means. So, I wasn’t letting her get away with it; I told her best kissa$$ buddy what happened knowing full well it would get back to her.

The very next day, I walked by her and said Good Morning in the cheeriest voice I could; and she literally said “ Oh, you’re still talking to me”. I replied, why wouldn’t I be”?

Her guilt ate away at her until she got fired for saying inappropriate things to a student.

I don’t hate her, or wish her ill will. Her life is apparently sad enough!


Moral of the story: Hold your head high, Karma will do the rest!

a reply to: KTemplar

This is exactly the kind of stuff I'm talking about. Cannot believe people pull that crap.