You Don't Remember Me

Wow. You don't remember me, do you? I guess that's not too surprising. We only talked for very long those half dozen times or so. I really thought we were hitting it off with the deep conversations we were having. Just when I thought we were about to come together, that asshole guy stepped in and started continually talking over me, telling ridiculous stories about how he could ride a dirt bike up a hill for a half mile while doing a wheelie and such. And you bought it! I was so hurt.

I thought to myself, why is she leaving with that asshole? Can't she see that he's just telling her what she wants to hear? Why was my calm, quiet confidence not enough? My obvious, unshrouded empathy? I would've thought a nice girl like that would appreciate such a thing, so why is she leaving with that prick? Do I really have to be a total ass clown and step on other people just to leave here with a nice girl? No thanks! I can whoop a guy's ass too, I just don't think it's very gentlemanly to brag about such things. Kinda denotes an insecurity about oneself, if you ask me. Yet you left with this asshole egotistical guy, to my dismay.

I heard you later complaining that men lack any empathy, that you wish men could feel what you feel.

I feel these things, but don't express them often. If the person doesn't take you out of context and think you're an asshole for saying so, then they think you're weak for speaking out, and therefore not worth their time. They will run to the insecure fellow who overcompensates by projecting a false aura of confidence to cover for his insecurity as quickly as they can manage.

Actually I think that's what we were talking about right before the douche nozzle stepped in and you allowed yourself to be led away by him. It sure blew my mind, I can tell you that much. I thought, what was all this stuff we were talking about before, didn't that mean anything? Maybe he told you I blow goats, three other people backed him up on it, and you believed them. Not the old TheBadCabbie blows goats routine again! I swear, you blow one goat, they never let you hear the end of it!(I don't actually blow goats, I was just trying to be humorous here.)

I tried hardening myself as you have for a time, but that is not me. I've always been a romantic, expressive person, so if that means I wind up spending lots of time alone because no one wants to date a man who's so honest and expressive, then so be it. At least I'll have the satisfaction of knowing I am being true to myself, and acting the right way toward others. Apparently being an honest expressive man does mean that you will get to spend lots of time alone, if my relationship experience has been any indicator.

I now have developed defense mechanisms that tend to sabotage any promising relationship, probably at least partly a result of the fear of intimacy I have developed due to all the times I've been pooped on for daring to express myself. I'm working on it and aware of it, but I guess this might mean you now think I'm an asshole too, because I don't have perfect control and sometimes hurt women's feelings because I haven't yet conquered this mental challenge(and am foolish enough to admit it). I don't think that this makes me a victim, because I choose who I want to be and how I want to act. The one thing in this world I can control is myself and how I choose to react(or better yet, respond) to life's challenges. I don't consider myself a victim then, but it is a sad thing to see and experience.

I can't believe you don't remember me. Honestly, that hurts. What's that? You've got to go? Yes of course, I understand. See you around, I guess.

I don't actually know you as far as I know, of course, I'm just trying to make a point. Those of us men who are not afraid to express themselves, who express empathy for and expect empathy from their prospective lovers and other people, tend to lead extremely lonely lives. At least that's how it's gone down for me.

I think this whole thing is part of the reason why I don't really 'chase women' anymore, by which I mean to say that I generally don't actively seek romantic relationships. This dysfunction in our courtship rituals is pretty widespread, at least here in the US. Kinda makes a guy like me think that he shouldn't bother, because there's no point to actively seeking a relationship using my method of honest straightforward interaction. It never works. Believe me, it's not for lack of trying.

I am a romantic though, so I push myself at this point to try and relate, to be a lover of people and life despite a track record that would make a cynic of most men of my temperament. I'm very resilient though. I don't think most guys like me have that tolerance for punishment.

Most of them either become the asshole you despise, so that they don't spend the rest of their lives alone, or resign themselves to a cave of their choosing with their porn and video games or whatever. They refuse to be an asshole, but what they're doing isn't working, so they just give up completely.

It's sad and frustrating to see women trot off with men who will undoubtedly abuse them while their true heroes are left standing alone in the wings. Alone because they are genuine, because they care, because they are kind. Aren't these the things you women claim you want? Why do you mostly reject them then? Wake up! Stop being such a tool!

I reject the survival instinct argument. A loudmouthed braggart is not a superior combatant, he's just a loudmouthed braggart. Likewise, neither is a hothead. He's just a hothead. Most of those guys' combat tactics are actually pretty weak. I do not consider myself a victim. People can do what they want, if they choose to. I don't wish to blame others for my problems. I do think it's a sad way for us to carry on as a society, many good men and women doing themselves disservices in this regard.

Many women love assh#les. I have three daughters, all of them were mesmerized by what I call "Tall, dumb, and cocky". They have learned now, after years of tears and heartache, but sadly learned the hard way.

I'm not going to tell you it will all work out, or Theres lots of fish in the sea.

My only advice is do things you honestly enjoy doing. Walking, hiking, camping- whatever. You stand a better chance of meeting someone who shares your interests and might even be a decent gal that you can extoll the virtues and compassion you have.

Good luck, and keep your chin up.

Well Now I am MGTOW.

Didn't you post this the other day? Or am I time travelling without even knowing it?

a reply to: hombero

Nelson Mandela Affect

a reply to: Lysergic

MGTOW?

a reply to: hombero

That thread was closed, and needed to be re-written if I wanted to have this discussion, hence this thread.

Always ask yourself what would Fonzie do? And do that. Works for me.
All hail Fonzie.

originally posted by: hombero
Didn't you post this the other day? Or am I time travelling without even knowing it?

Yes already posted ... And I commented on it too ... Unless I time traveled with you ? ... Or or maybe this is karmasbitch in disguise doing another experiment for her college paper .... This last one was called. .. " you don't remember me,do you?".

a reply to: TheBadCabbie

It's sorta like the Heman Woman Haters club modernized.

a reply to: Hewhowaits

3 daughters!
I have one, shes 7 and Im scared to death

originally posted by: Lysergic
Well Now I am MGTOW.

Nope. You are way too witty to be an incel.

originally posted by: Hewhowaits
Many women love assh#les.

I'm thankful each and every day, that my wife had a thing for assh#le types.

Didn't we read this same exact word for word story last week?

www.abovetopsecret.com...
Why yes....yes we did.

originally posted by: Sillyolme
Didn't we read this same exact word for word story from someone else last week?

No, you must be mistaken. He clearly states that you don't remember him.

originally posted by: Sillyolme
Didn't we read this same exact word for word story from someone else last week?

Yes, but at least it isn't about politics, right?

originally posted by: Abysha

originally posted by: Sillyolme
Didn't we read this same exact word for word story from someone else last week?

No, you must be mistaken. He clearly states that you don't remember him.

I see what you did there..

Why are you posting this yet again?

a reply to: hombero

Wow we're all experiencing a time shift.
I knew if we stayed here long enough one of these theories would come true!
Wooh hoo!

a reply to: Jefferton

Actually, this is very much to do with politics.

If ever there was a time where the attractiveness to a wider cross section of society, of a male who happens to be a total piece of dirt was a political matter, its this time, right now.