It is my experience that when humans pay attention to one another's feelings - and properly recognize and understand why a person feels the way
- that true resolutions to problems can be found.
But what are the little things? Are you aware, for instance, that your feelings states always communicate - or judge - so that other people come to
experience with reference to the implicit meaning of your expressed action?
What do you think about that?
I could write an entire book on how everything we do has consequences like this. When I am "embodied" and "being me", I can sometimes let my affect go
without recognizing that the narrative (i.e. language) which emerges from that affective arousal will modify the truthfulness of the representation.
Think about this: whenever you are feeling irritable, there is a tacit quality of you being unjust to the others around you. Your feelings and the
preoccupation of your attention leads to values and judgements that cause other mind-brains to perk up to the significance of your body language. We
absorb when we focus, and i'm pretty sure that most people reading this thread have had the experience of speaking in a conversation with an
interlocutor who is constantly making you uncomfortable and insecure by their body-language. They do not take account of the other in their acting,
and so, more or less forgo concern for the facts of interpersonal provocation.
Abraham Maslow famously wrote that the human being can function in two essential ways: deficiency cognition, and being cognition, with the former
being motivated by feelings of deficiency, whereas the latter focused on feelings of being i.e. the now. The person who doesn't take account of the
other more or less doesn't take account of the presencing of the other
. A being cognition is fundamentally one that is cognizant and interested
in context and ecology. Getting angry doesn't make sense for the simple reason that people aren't completely at fault for their problems.
development is an hierachical process which conditions the meanings of our body before we orient linguistically to construct a world-view, a trauamtic
early-life experience as well as a context that stokes rewards necessarily will act to scaffold ways-of-being that that we consider wrong. Even if the
conspirators "know this", as they most certainly do, there is still a lacadaisical craziness as to the consequences they will face. It is confusion
that underlies evil; it is the enigma of shadowy apparitions which needs to be guarded against and recognized for the illusion that it is.
Bad thinking begins from a mind that essentializes its feelings so that a picture of reality emerges from the uncriticized feelings. The harm done to
the self does'nt harken back to an awareness that acknowledges why its wrong to do this to others
. It is so logical and obvious, yet a religion
has emerged from thinking the exact opposite: instead of the obvious systematic facts of experience and reality being recognized, it is looked up with
disdain and hatred and contempt that cannot be properly registered in words: see the holocaust for an example of how much people who engage in
bad-things will do to people they exaggerate as the incarnation of an "evil God". Without ritual abuse - as some families are said to engage in -
reality and the beings and being we have within it wouldn't be felt as rottenly as it can apparently feel to some people.
The themes of my threads are typically about this - but only because political reality has turned a direction which forces any thinking person to ask
- how can this be happening?
It's happening because Satanism and the practices, behaviors and ways-of-being it implies is real; and yet, the Universe created this spirit by
inducing situations which made these actions desirable. People like this could - and perhaps, should, feel a hatred, given what unethical actions does
to the mind-brains sense of connection with reality - it can seem completely unfair to be brought into such a relation - into a hatred of reality -
because as a baby and onwards you ritually abused, and so, made structurally unable, to care in a way that society requires.
Would you seek to demonize the virus or bacteria which negatively affect our bodies? We understand these diseases for what they are: opportunistic
parasites that seek to live at the expense of evolved organisms. So, similarly, you do not hate the person but the action, we say; but how bout, hate
the spirit which compels the action and the social situation which compels the emergence of the spirit; but the person, the human being on the inside,
is sick, and is being parasitized in ways that, if you could see their soul, would provoke real empathy and compassion for what they are dealing
Love Needs Comprehension
In order to feel a sense of care, you have to understand; this means that in order to care about others, you must care to understand others; and so,
in order to understand others, you need to care to learn about how humans work.
Comprehension is a "taking in" of a coherent set and series of facts so that a situation can be resolved by virtue of your acceptance of your limits
and the realities limits. Unethical action degenerates our functioning, and in so doing, impresses upon the mind the unity of reality: in order for an
individual self to feel enlivened, it needs to care for the other. This means inhibiting yourself when something you feel represents a
state-of-affairs that will negatively provoke others; this is what the "little stuff".
When the Dalai Lama enters a room, he takes special notice of those who seem uncomfortable or excluded. Why do this unless you have a radical sense of
the equality of human beings? How many of you would do that? Evidently, it requires a degree of awareness that requires much - and for the Dalai Lama,
lovable man that he is, he readily admits to the role of 8 hours of sleep, eating 3 meals a day, and daily meditation, to his being able to be as
loving as he wants to be.
Its' the little things that bug us and build up over time into agitated interactions. Its the "hardly noticing' the significance of something; and
then again 'hardly noticing' the fact that communicating your feelings might prove helpful to resolving and transforming your feelings and your
relations with others.
Never feel shame for communicating the truth of a feeling; but at the same time, the truth of the feeling describes a state of affairs which the self
should realize its power to influence, so long as it knows what it is good for its life and happiness, and what is bad for it.
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