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originally posted by: SpeakerofTruth
What if you don't get lonely? I have been alone throughout the majority of my life. Loneliness is somewhat of a foreign concept to me.
I vant to be alone.
originally posted by: eletheia
a reply to: gmoneystunt
Loneliness by choice is one thing....
When you are healthy you can seek out company and friends when and if you
want.
But as you get older people you know and friends are dying so you are losing
contacts that you would in the past been able to call on.
You get less mobile, younger family members are too busy and then you really
know the meaning of loneliness.
My daughter has recently taken on the care of one such lady she has an older
sister in the same position as herself and a son with two daughters who live
three or so hours away. She was lonely, depressed and on the verge of dementia.
Her son has his head burried in the sand and cant or wont see it.
My daughter has given her tasks, such as changing the calender daily (seems
simple but it has made a difference, she now knows what day it is, as prior to
this one day ran into the other, as did the time of day.)
Her son used to have her groceries delivered, most of that was thrown out....
too much and no variety. Now my daughter takes her to a small supermarket
a couple of times a week and lets her choose treats and what ever else she
wants to try out. She was paying bills twice and loosing keys, so my daughter
has made her a filing system, made all the keys with different coloured tags.
These small things and the 'human contact' she now looks out for .... and
needless to say there is a vast improvement in her demeanor.
The moral of the issue is *choice* Is the aloneness being
chosen? or being thrust upon one
originally posted by: SpeakerofTruth
What if you don't get lonely? I have been alone throughout the majority of my life. Loneliness is somewhat of a foreign concept to me.
originally posted by: Justso
a reply to: eletheia
This is so true for the elderly and so-called shut-ins. Loneliness can kill. Disagree all you want but feeling unnecessary or unloved or unwanted takes away the will to live-there is no purpose.
My 83 year old mother lives on her ipad-she can't drive and uses a walker and what a difference the internet makes in her life.
Shuffling away the elderly to nursing homes is so heartless-most could live with their families but not in these selfish modern times.
I have personally never felt much loneliness in my life and I have lived alone for at least a third of it but do have friends divorced, kids gone, friends left who experience it very deeply and I try to understand. To me, it's just freedom but I know it truly exists.
I do suggest joining churches (if that's their thing) or book clubs or whatever but motivation seems to be missing for many.
originally posted by: SR1TX
I hate being alone. I think it is unnatural and I dread it to the core. There is nothing healthy about being alone or the concept of dying with no one knowing or caring.