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originally posted by: xsocomx
Thanks everyone. I slept on this entire situation and I would be an idiot to pursue this other relationship.
I'm confident now this is just wedding jitters.
I will not be calling off the wedding. And I will continue to love and cherish my partner of 8 years.
It's natural to have these thoughts of the grass is greener.
I will distance myself from this person and reinforce the fact that I do not want anything other than a friendship from her. I will not have any part of breaking up her family.
ATS you have talked a lot of sense into me.
originally posted by: xsocomx
OK so here goes nothing...
I want to start by saying that I have been with my current girlfriend for about 8 years and have never cheated on her. We got engaged 2 years ago and are getting married next month. We have always been relatively happy together.
Going back about 3 weeks ago I met this girl. A friend of a friend. We have a lot in common and we get on very well together. It's almost like we are the same person. We seem to have a strong relationship seen as we have only know each other for a short time.
Here's where it gets complicated... She is Married and has a son. She isn't happy in her relationship. Her husband is a deadbeat.
We have both met each others spouses and have had a few film nights as the 4 of us.
All night we are pretty much looking into each others eyes from across the room.
We are going on a night out together this weekend with a bunch of people. And I'm worried I'm going to say something when we are drunk and ruin everything.
At night times I find myself longing for her. (not a sex thing). During the days I am counting down our next meeting.
I don't know for sure how she feels about me but if I don't say anything I may regret it for the rest of my life.
Do I:
A) Tell her how I feel and risk ruining our friendship.
B) Not say anything and risk regretting it forever. Remaining friends.
It could be wedding jitters but I have never felt this way in my life for someone before.
Please help me.. I'm going crazy!!!
Remember, we promised to “forsake all others and keep myself only unto you.” If we fail at “forsaking” we'll necessarily fail at “keeping.”.
originally posted by: Justso
a reply to: randomtangentsrme
NO! That would be a disaster and ruin any trust levels between the two forever. This something this guy has got to figure out-alone/without hurting his fiance. Some things you definitely don't share.