Would you break up a relationship over this?

I have debated on whether to post about my situation for 2 days now. Normally speaking, I only disclose personal details to my brother or one close friend I have. But I am at my wits end again today and would be interested in some opinions from others that I respect here on ATS.

My problem is this: I have dating/living with someone for almost 5 years now. We live in a house that has been converted into an upstairs apartment, a downstairs apartment (where we live), and a room in the back. For the last year no one has lived here but us pretty much. However, about 6 weeks ago, a seemingly nice older man moved in upstairs. He seemed really friendly but quickly started making odd statements to me. For example he would say to me when I would get out of my car to carry in groceries "hey, looks like you have a great tan, you look good with a tan" and "did you go swimming? I saw you had your suit out drying on the chair"...stuff like that. So now I try to avoid him, but I have to speak to him every day as he is always coming or going.

Fast forward to about 2 weeks ago. Now there is a guy who moved into the room in back, which is located right behind my kitchen stove! This guys seemed really nice also, BUT, every time I go outside he comes around the corner to talk. every time, every day. And he also does this of an evening when my bf and I go out to have a cigarrette. He is always there.

The problem began Sunday, when someone from here that I know really well...informed me that "did I know that he was a child molester?" sure enough...we looked it up, and yes he is listed as a sexually violent predator!!! He had been in prison for counts of child molesting, and just got out in may! that is right when he moved in here! I freaked out! Then on Monday evening, my boyfriend was looking again to see if he could find out any more details...and lo and behold! he found the picture of the guy in the back as well!! He is also listed as a sexually violent predator and had 5 counts of child molesting! He was in prison the same time as the old man upstairs! And before I knew this...they had both claimed to know each other "yeah, I've know him for years...he's a good guy". So now I am so scared to even be here. My boyfriend isn't even talking about moving...he just went a bought a couple more locks, and is saying "just carry all the time and unload the clip if he comes in the house at you"!!!

To me, how many of you guys would say that to their woman? How many of you would say "let's get the HE%# out of here asap!"? I would be gone now if I could, but it's going to take a few weeks to get my stuff lined out and I am probably moving out. Is that bad of me? is that a normal repsonse? I would welcome any input, suggestions, similar situations/how you handled it.

And another question I have is this: exactly what are the odds that 2 guys, who both were child molestors, both in prison at the same time, and both moved into the same town, the same apartment place, almost a 3 weeks apart or so? Isn't that strange? does this mean something? or am I just so sick right now that my mind is playing tricks on me? Thanks in advance.

*edit: I forgot to mention, I had kind of been considering leaving anyway (in the back of my mind), because I don't feel that he really treats me with enough repsect. Money doesn't buy respect by the way, ladies!!

Dump the idiot and move . Relationship where he put you at risk like that not worth it .

a reply to: VengefulGhost My thoughts exactly? tbh. Thank you so much.

Have you thought of calling the police or having a word to the Sheriff?

Now I am only guessing, but assuming they are out on parole, is this a violation of their parole?

I do agree with your BF. Carry in the house if he is not there.

No, I wouldn't end a good relationship over this.

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Likely he hasnt worked out how badly its scaring you AS MEN ARE NOT MIND READERS! So Stop being a typical woman and #ING TALK TO YOUR BOYFRIEND ABOUT YOUR CONCERNS before dumping him a leaving him heart broken and clueless to why you ran.


Instead of taking drastic action first sit down and tell him you need to move ASAP or you walk.

a reply to: TruthJava

This isn't your BFs fault. He said shoot them if you have to. He's clearly on your side.

You totally don't understand, there are weirdos like this everywhere. I checked a database and saw they are spread out all over. It's unbelievable how many there are.

Plus I meet very weird pervs all the time and just ignore and avoid them.

Just ask your BF to move. Explain it's a big deal. Be assertive.

Do NOT leave him over this!!! It's not his fault your neighbors are scary freaks.

a reply to: pheonix358 No, I'm scared to tell anyone. Mainly because my boyfriend has said "we can't let them know that we know", "If we say anything and they find out, we could go to jail for harrassment". I have never lived around this and I am afraid to even tell the landlord, because surely he knew? An he didn't care about me being here all day with them around...just the rent money.

a reply to: TruthJava
You're gonna leave him because of other people's crimes? No, you've been with him for 5 years, for a reason. Talk it out with him. Convince him to find some minor issue so you can kick them out. Report them to all your neighbours. Make sure EVERYONE knows the danger. But don't punish your boyfriend for their crimes. Once all of your neighbours are aware I think they'll help you two out.

There is no way in hell they know each other by coincidence. Likely they acted together in a network. Notice how they overcompensate by being extra nice? Trying to appear like they are hitting on you to avoid suspicion.

Go with what your gut is saying,

on a personal note if my wife was saying she was feeling iffy about something like this we would be gone before the end of the conversation.. Putting up with this nagging doubt is very very unhealthy, and lets be honest your feelings are very much warranted knowing that these sick c#nts are living within breathing distance.


I would guess they must have been housed there by the authoritises as if they have just come out of prison then they must have some kind of sign on order, the state must know where they are, if they have been housed there by the state then questions need to be ask as to the safety of the local residence to have two sexual predators in the same building?..

If they know each other then that is even more iffy.

Start planning on moving, unless there is something important keeping you there why not get the hell out?????...

Sure the keyboard hero's will say "I would never move, stand your ground" etc etc that is all well and good but molesters are about as trustworthy as a chocolate fire guard. Next thing you wake up to a hidden camera in the toilet..

RA

Thank you for your quick reply. a reply to: muzzleflash

a reply to: TruthJava

dont take this the wrong way - but unless you are or appear to be 12 - then you are at very low risk from a pair of child molestors

a reply to: VengefulGhost

He didn't put anyone at risk. The world is risky. How's that his fault?

Unbelievable.

You cannot control who moves in around you unless you're the landlord.

originally posted by: slider1982
Go with what your gut is saying,


Start planning on moving, unless there is something important keeping you there why not get the hell out?????...


RA

I'm planning.

a reply to: slider1982

So you and your wife would be out before the conversation ended?

Have you ever moved before?

Do you know that is at least a 30 to 60 day process and very expensive? Especially if you break a lease or have a mortgage.

Well, I guess you can live in the car or a hotel till you find another place but cmon. This is absurd.

You gotta put in applications, get background checks, this can take a week or two.

originally posted by: muzzleflash
a reply to: VengefulGhost

He didn't put anyone at risk. The world is risky. How's that his fault?

Unbelievable.

You cannot control who moves in around you unless you're the landlord.

I understand. No, I dont' blame him for it, but it's unfortunate he isn't willing to move. And also, a couple weeks ago we went to an airshow, and I got overheated and had to walk 3 miles to our car. I thought I was going to pass out, but he kept telling me to walk then I could cool off in the car. He then walked off and left me under a shade tree. He ended up coming back, but it was awful. This behavior has just started recently, so this is what makes me think about moving now - maybe he doesn't care about my safety.

I don't believe in coincidences, be suspicious of everything and get out of there. Talk to your BF, and keep your guard up.

originally posted by: crazyewok
Likely he hasnt worked out how badly its scaring you AS MEN ARE NOT MIND READERS! So Stop being a typical woman and #ING TALK TO YOUR BOYFRIEND ABOUT YOUR CONCERNS before dumping him a leaving him heart broken and clueless to why you ran.


Instead of taking drastic action first sit down and tell him you need to move ASAP or you walk.

Thank you for your response! Yes, I did tell him that I don't think I can handle living with 2 sexual predators and if we can't do something, I might have to move out because I can't deal with them being there every time I walk out my door now. He just went and got a couple new locks.

a reply to: Nickn3 Thank you.

Let's do the math here;

1) You have 2 x monsters living in your building.

2) You hint you are not head over heels in love with your man.

I lived in a converted house myself where a biker gang moved into some of the other parts of the building. I got out of there not long after I heard one guy asking another who 'we' were and then suggested that to get rid of us they should turn the music up loud late at night (which they started doing)

Move away? 100% YES. Get as far away from those creeps as you can.

Break up with your man? That depends on you. Only do it if it is the right thing for you Try not to fuse the two issues into one.

a reply to: TruthJava

Oh ok.

Well once someone has been in a relationship a long time they take everything for granted. That's why everything has to be renewed often.

Explain to him you're ready to jump ship. Give him a chance to shape up though before you ship out.

If he doesn't get serious than do whatever.