My Pet Peeves

Ive been married to my wife for 5 years & 7 days. I love her. She is the mother of my child. She is very caring, honest, reliable and confident, among many other awesome things....but dammit if she constantly does a few minor things that just peeve the hell outta me 😊

Let me list a few (not in any particular order):
1. When we go somewhere together, I drive 99% of the time. I believe Im a great driver! But I noticed early on in our relationship that when she drives she basically accelerates when approaching stop signs/lights. If I see that I need to stop in 150-200 ft, I coast into the stop. There is no point in keeping on the gas when you have to begin braking in about ... NOW!!! Im fairly certain she doesnt know shes doing it, but damn it peeves me 😒

2. Sometimes when I drive by myself I am freaking jamming...sometimes I have the radio off - just depends on my mood like everyone, Im sure. But when Im jamming and I arrive home, before shutting off the car, I turn the volume down so its not blasting when I get in the car next time. But my wife doesnt do this and it happened again today. She knows its bugs me because Ive told her. Again, shes probably just not thinking about the near future, like me (I consider myself a considerate person) 😉

3. We have an 8.5 month old boy and my wife has been a homemaker since his birth (although she is going back to work in a few weeks). I often work from home. She will leave the TV on, which amounts to hours during any given day, while not watching TV (nor our son). This amounts to hundreds of wasted hours each year!! A TV only has a limited numbers of hours to live - why is she so wasteful with my TV? 🤔

What peeves you about your significant other? If you dont have a partner, please dont reply. LOL - just kidding!

a reply to: six67seven

Congratulations for keeping this list so short! Sounds like you'll be alright.

a reply to: six67seven

Same problem with the poor car accelerating management. What gives? Got to get to the stop sign faster???? Bad on the brakes too.

Other than that, I think I picked the "partner" that I would be least likely to kill and I would be least likely to be killed by.

My girlfriend does this thing where she'll repeat the first 4 to 5 words of a sentence and on the last word of the sentence, hit something with her hand and draw out the inflection on the last word she says. So, for example:

Today, I don't want to go to the *hit hand on desk* stooooooorrrreeee.
I don't want to go to the *hit hand on desk* maaaaallllllll.
I don't want to go to the *hit hand on desk* gymmmmmmmmmm.
I don't want to go to the *hit hand on desk* doc..

Me (interrupting): STOP! (she knows it bothers me, but she does it almost unwillingly)

I've noticed a lot of talk radio hosts do this same type of thing for dramatic effect. I don't know what the word for it is, but it bugs the hell out of me. Some perverted form of misophonia, I guess.

I'm claustrophobic and I get the same reaction out of that. Like an instant rise in blood pressure going straight to my head.

a reply to: East1999

Is your girlfriend 8 years old? Lol

Sorry, just poking a bit of fun based on how she sounds in my mind and by your description 😂

originally posted by: NarcolepticBuddha
a reply to: six67seven

Congratulations for keeping this list so short! Sounds like you'll be alright.

Haha - I could've kept going but I have to get up early lol

But I think youre right, I should be alright 😏

a reply to: seasonal

Exactly. There first things on the car requiring replacement were the tires, the brakes and the pedals.

It seems to be a typical issue with female drivers.

a reply to: six67seven

In her 40's It's just some weird behavior she does when speaking from a list she has in her head.

a reply to: six67seven

Consider yourself blessed..

Seriously.

My life mate not only expects me to prepare every meal for her but also escort her to the bathroom..

Yeah she's a dog. And I know I could do better. But I love her..

Respectfully,
~meathead

a reply to: six67seven

Sounds like you hit the jack pot in the relationship lottery.

Seriously, each of my partners would make a longer list than that about me.

originally posted by: six67seven
a reply to: seasonal
Exactly. There first things on the car requiring replacement were the tires, the brakes and the pedals.
It seems to be a typical issue with female drivers.

Whoa! ATS has a lot of female members who wont agree with you there!

Insurance companies consider women as safer drivers, when meeting out

insurance quotes.

This amounts to hundreds of wasted hours each year!! A TV only has
a limited number of hours to live - why is she so wasteful with my TV

That came out as a red flag.... surely as a couple it should have been our TY

a reply to: eletheia

when meeting out

meting

originally posted by: Domo1
a reply to: eletheia

when meeting out

meting

Thank You for keeping me straight.

a reply to: six67seven

Hubby & I will be married 39 years in a few months. We have five kids. (More peeves with kids than hubby! All five were teenagers at the same time! Youngest turned 13 & the oldest didn't turn 20 for 2 more months!) Hubby always worked full time plus a lot of overtime. I didn't work when the kids were little & after they were all in school, I only worked part time so I could run them to their practices & things.

So I picked my battles & cut him a lot of slack, since he did most of the heavy lifting! Plus he wasn't home for at least nine hours of the day,
so we weren't in each other's way.

But...since he retired two years ago...! 😉
He seems to have picked up some new habits!
First the good things. He does help with the dishes now. Has always done all the yard work. Only thing he really cooks are eggs, but he does reheat stuff. Sweeps & mops the floors.
Doesn't do laundry, but will fold it.

But lately I'll hear a noise & find water still running a little in the kitchen or bathroom sink.

He'll open the window, without turning the heat off.

Won't close the back door if he's coming back in in a few minutes. After reminding him many times & then getting p o'd & me slamming it, he now closes it most of the way, but still leaves it cracked a little & flies still get in! Passive/ aggressive?

Puts wooden handled utensils in the dishwater to soak with the other dishes.

Brushes his teeth while only slightly bending his head, instead of bending at the waist over the sink, so the mirror always has toothpaste dots on it. And he must splash like like a seal when he washes his face, because the counter is always soaking wet. If I forget to look & bump up against it, my shirt wicks it up in seconds & I have to change! And after he showers he leaves his wet towel spread out over the bath rug so that it gets damp too.

To be fair, here's what he says bugs him about me!

In the winter he likes it to be in the mid to high 70's to sleep, I like it 65!

I need the TV turned up a little louder lately, he says I'm deaf!

I like the lights on at night in the living room to watch TV so I don't fall asleep, or so I can read. He thinks there should be only one light on to save money. (But he'll sleep all night with a heating pad on to be warmer & that's 30 times the wattage of a light bulb!)

I like to have a certain place for things in the kitchen, so I can find them right away. He says that's OCD!

Since I was life-flighted I can't sleep without a small light on. He usually wants it dark.

He's a minimalist except for clothes & tools.
I like to decorate for the different seasons & holidays & to have things here for the grandkids to play with. And...I have books! 😲

My Uncle used to say, that people think marriage is 50/50. But that it really should be 100/100.
So all in all, ours are all little things, so I guess that's how we lasted this long! But personality wise, I'm the easy going one that's usually in a good mood. And he's the cranky, worrier. I just tell him, thanks for helping to make me into a saint! Bwahaha! True story!!!

WOQ

originally posted by: eletheia

This amounts to hundreds of wasted hours each year!! A TV only has
a limited number of hours to live - why is she so wasteful with my TV

That came out as a red flag.... surely as a couple it should have been our TY

Im so glad you called me out on that my vs our thing, because that's another thing she does, not me...

Like when she's yelling at the cat to get off MY couch, or quit climbing on MY chairs. And I've mentioned this to her. So what probably happened in the above case with the TV, is she simply rubbed off on me (not my fault - haha)

To all you people that cannot cope with your significant other, I have a shovel, lime and your alibi.

a reply to: eletheia

Now I just love you for not pretending you had a sticky e key!

a reply to: wasobservingquietly

Thanks for contributing - I appreciate it! It was fun to read since we in relationships all pretty much deal with the same little stuff. But it's still entertaining to get a shallow dive into someone else's tug of war.

originally posted by: eletheia

originally posted by: Domo1
a reply to: eletheia

when meeting out

meting

Thank You for keeping me straight.

originally posted by: Domo1
a reply to: eletheia

Now I just love you for not pretending you had a sticky e key!

Is there something you two want to share with the rest of us?

a reply to: six67seven

Been married almost 30 years.

My only pet peeve is that my wife has lousy taste in men.

It's made up for the fact that I have great taste in women.