Are you a loner ?

I am.

Let me tell you how I got to be a loner.

I had a horrible first marriage.

Basically, I had to stop hanging out with my friends because the wife always thought I was banging chicks when I really wasn't.

I had lots of friends.

I had friends at work. But I got in trouble for having a surprise birthday party there and I had to get rid of all my gifts from my co workers.

I couldn't hang out with them either.


I finally got a divorce.

I did finally get to hang out with my co workers and it was fun.

My real friends had already had been long gone.

So when I left my job, I kept in touch for a while.

But people move on to other things.

I met my new wife when I had one good friend left from my old job.

I was madly in love with her. I wanted to be with her all the time.

I still do.

But I lost contact with that last friend.


Outside of my brother and his friend and my wife. I have no friends.

But I like it.

Don't get me wrong. I have some of my old coworkers as Facebook friends. But other than liking their posts, I have no real conversations​ with them.


Over the years, as I get older, I realized, I don't need friends. I like it quiet, not obligated to be at a certain place at a certain time.

I like being alone.


It's not that I don't like people.

In my past, I even became Myspace famous and I did a few interviews and crap.

I liked the attention. But I just didn't feel like adding new people to my life.


I don't know?


Who else is happy just hanging with the wife and kids and just chilling out?

Reading a book?

Starting a business?

Learning about new things?

Like, everything seems like noise and havoc .

I just like peace and quiet.

Who's with me?

Edit

Let me add, I do miss my old really good friends that I had. But I also sense that they are in the same place as me. Kinda finished with all the noise.


BTW, I'm 46. Anyone else my age and feels like this?

a reply to: galaga

I'm married. We are both happy. As far as friends go, I only have one. We've know each other since the ages of 3 and 4. All other friends in my life approached me to initiate the friendship, and never it lasted longer than the school year. I'm not the kind of person who likes to stay in contact with people. Family life, its just not important to me. I'm definitely not a family man. Does that make me a loner? I don't know.

a reply to: galaga

I'm with you brother. Watching good movies with wife, Saturdays grocery shopping, only drinking at home, not sharing my booze and enough time to go metal detecting and video games once a week. I love my dog, he doesn't talk.

a reply to: galaga

Who else is happy just hanging with the wife and kids and just chilling out? Reading a book? Starting a business? Learning about new things? Like, everything seems like noise and havoc . I just like peace and quiet. Who's with me?

Damn skippy . I been on that bus for a long time

originally posted by: Trueman
a reply to: galaga

I'm with you brother. Watching good movies with wife, Saturdays grocery shopping, only drinking at home, not sharing my booze and enough time to go metal detecting and video games once a week. I love my dog, he doesn't talk.

Sound like me.

We just hang out because to poor to go do anything, but we make the best of it .
I have a few friends from work , but rarely ever hang with them or anyone. Just me, my wife and the dog.

And our internet friends.

And we are completely content and happy.

absolutely.
i cant stand most people.
at work i can get along with people but outside of work i dont talk to those people.
im with my wife and daughter and thats it.

the #in wolf pack....

we do # together and thats just how it is.
i wouldnt have it any other way..

i have 1 person i consider a friend but he lives in south africa and we talk via whatsapp and email...
he has been to the states a couple times...first time to train me on some # cause our parent company is from durban and he is the metallurgist.

the second time he had to come again to go to our houston plant and he took a few extra days and hung out with us.

other than that i dont want to talk to anyone besides my wife and daughter.

my social interaction comes from this place. i dont do facebook or any of that other #.
people annoy me fast.
i have a pretty far out kind of warped sense of humor. most people just dont get me.
not that im smarter than them cause im not. im a #in idiot. people just dont get me and im fine with that because i dont even want to get them.

so yeah.

loner

Outlived all my friends . Outlived all my family . Useless bitch ex-wife ran off with her boyfriend taking my daughter with her .

Had enough of people and their bull# . Unless absolutely necessary dont want a damn thing to do with any of them .

a reply to: galaga

Quality over quantity.

Less is more.

The smaller my circle got, the more valuable the people became.

I got a weird sense of Déjà-vu. Didnt we already discussed this to death? If a certain someone shows up ignore the posts. Nothing good comes from engaging him.

I have my husband and our son. We have a few friends from college we keep in touch with. We enjoy our coworkers. We love our extended family, but mostly we enjoy hanging out as a small family, doing our own thing.

If having a wife and family makes you a loner. The hell does that make me.

Super alone...

Aloner.....

Alonega....

Could do mega alone but that would just be stupid.

I am married with two children. I live in a big city and a successful professional. I know how to mingle and socialize well, but I have always been a loner at heart. If I had not met my wife, I'd probably be living out in middle of nowhere. I am perfectly happy being by myself 80% of the time.

I'm the type of guy who loves to simply go out and eat by myself. All I need is a good meal and a book/newspaper.

Sing it, brother. I have one friend that I make the effort of maintaining a friendship with, and that's fine. IMO, it's not about the quantity of friends we introverts & loners have, but the quality of them. Having even just one quality friendship beats the f# out of having numerous empty, superficial ones.

I don't need the "girls' night out" garbage, I don't need to hit up parties, and public events are "eh, maybe, maybe not" to me. I mean, the world's not going to stop spinning if I don't go to some event or hang out with a group somewhere. Me "going out" is not critical to my happiness or sanity, nor is it critical to humanity surviving (if it is, somebody forgot to make sure I got the "Psst! You're God" memo...)

I do have to be honest in that my friend's not what I'd consider a "best friend". She's a close friend. I married my best friend. That's striking marital gold, IMO. I can't imagine any other lunatic I'd rather hang out with, even if it's just hours of silence between me & my husband. And lucky for me, the feeling is mutual

I used to be a very social creature myself. Owned a bar, created a lot of social functions, made lots of money for different benefits, etc.. I was in a marriage I thought was forever really. The wife had other ideas after 14 years.

Long story short, I moved back to Florida out in the country, bought a brand new shell of a shed and built my own little home into it. Now I live in my tiny house, have two cats and lots of wildlife around me. I have pretty much become a hermit, only to go out at night and work my job which is a delievery route in the middle of the night and by myself.

I grew up as an only child and was grounded a lot so I have had plenty of practice being alone. I really don't mind it at all. The internet keeps me and my mind engaged. If I wish to be social I can, I can travel the world, and learn anything I care too. I have no problem at all with my own company. The wildlife also keeps me quite entertained.

Cheers to all my fellow loners. I think we are the most at peace.

a reply to: galaga

I've been like that since my early twenties. I have hundreds of acquaintances because I'm a friendly guy but I don't hang out with them or anything. I have couple of friends who I hardly ever see. Apart from that It's just my Mrs and my family.

It's not that I don't like people, I just find socialising tiresome. I have to interact with people all day at work so once I get home, I've had enough.

a reply to: galaga

You're not a loner. You are someone with an acquired social neurosis.

Get back in touch with your real friends, the ones you dumped for your first wife.

If they don't want to know then you have more problems than just being a loner.

Yea! A feel-good thread for social outcasts!

Real loners don't have wives and children. Some of you ought to consider the possibility that people just don't like you -- and ask yourselves why.

a reply to: Astyanax

Exactly right. It takes an extreme feat of selfishness to not connect with someone nowadays.

originally posted by: Astyanax
Yea! A feel-good thread for social outcasts!

Real loners don't have wives and children. Some of you ought to consider the possibility that people just don't like you -- and ask yourselves why.

Except I pride myself on not giving a S*** either way because love me or hate me, brother we'll all be 6 feet under one day.

You're right on the no kids or wife, loner here for life.

Peace.

originally posted by: Astyanax
Yea! A feel-good thread for social outcasts!

Real loners don't have wives and children. Some of you ought to consider the possibility that people just don't like you -- and ask yourselves why.

But I'm not a social out cast. I communicate and get along very well with others. I just don't need alot of people in my life.

You, on the other hand, display anti social behavior by lashing out with your rudeness and assumptions about who I am.

So, I suggest you walk back into your house and sit alone and think about your bad behavior young man.