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No, that's not what I'm saying at all. Use your brain, and stop twisting things around.
originally posted by: geezlouise
a reply to: filthyphilanthropist
So you're saying you've seen rapists blame victims for wearing the wrong clothes, wow really? Ya don't say. Then it must be true...
Except not.
This is just a rapists attempt to pass on responsibility to the victim.
originally posted by: Anaana
I pointed out that some men are psychologically and mentally abnormal, and have problems of this sort.
That is just a fact.
Is it? Could you evidence that "fact" for me, because frankly I don't believe it? And to how many actual rapes does this "fact" apply? And in relation to men who have similar problems but choose not to isolate women and put themselves in a position where they may lose control and rape them?
That is a very, very, very rare proportion of the population that are physically incapable of preventing themselves from penetrating someone without their consent.
originally posted by: geezlouise
a reply to: Bluesma
I never asked about anything else. What happened was... you read my little speech about being a victim of a crime and you got triggered and needed to defend your position. The position that I had accidentally attacked by expressing my feelings.
That's what is happening here.
It just seems like your panties were all in a bunch (and still are). If that makes me a victim of your wedgie? Then so be it. Im a victim of your wedgie. It is what it is!
This is just a rapists attempt to pass on responsibility to the victim.
originally posted by: AtomicKangaroo
But god SJW's, PC and feminists are doing more harm to women than good imho.
originally posted by: Bluesma
The way you dress and make yourself appear speaks to others. It tells of what you feel like today, what you are looking for. Why dress extremely provocatively if you are NOT in the mood for sex?
This is a very simple question that men can't help asking. Why put out an image of your intents and emotions that is false?
When young men have dealt with girlfriends who have "tested" them in various ways "I tried to break up with you to see if you would react strongly against that idea", for example- they walk away with the idea that women sometimes say no when they mean yes; or that they do things specifically to provoke him to "be a man" and oppose her.
originally posted by: AtomicKangaroo
Yes it is wrong you cannot wear shorts so skimpy they show your vagina off if you choose to at 2am while drunk. But much better than the alternatives in the real world.
I was the wounded antelope of the herd, completely alone and vulnerable, physically unable to fend for myself, and he chose me. Sometimes I think, if I hadn’t gone, then this never would’ve happened. But then I realized, it would have happened, just to somebody else.
originally posted by: Bluesma
Yes, once again, I think it would be a good idea for young women to consider dressing in a way that expresses their current mood, feeling, desire and intent, in order to be less of an enigma.
originally posted by: geezlouise
I am just excersizing my voice and the more that you want to silence me? The more that I want to talk.
originally posted by: geezlouise
Just because you can't talk about what happened to you...? It doesn't mean we shouldn't get to talk about what happened to us. Just because you've learned to suffer in silence, it doesn't mean everybody else has to. Because despite all your disbelief, sharing a life experience isn't an invitation to be trolled. And we aren't victimizing ourselves every time we talk. And it's also not a malicious attempt to manipulate everyone around us.
originally posted by: Bluesma
Is it? Could you evidence that "fact" for me, because frankly I don't believe it? And to how many actual rapes does this "fact" apply? And in relation to men who have similar problems but choose not to isolate women and put themselves in a position where they may lose control and rape them?
originally posted by: geezlouise
a reply to: Anaana
I don't even know what "those" rapes even constitutes in Bluesma's labyrinth of a mind.
But if I were to venture a guess, she is saying that there are different kinds of sexual offenders. And it did seem like she was implying that just because clothes didn't have anything to do with my rape, it doesn't mean that clothes isn't a factor in other rapes. But when I asked her if she believed clothes could provoke or prevent rape? She said she doesn't believe that. So that's the labyrinth that Bluesma presents and I refuse to play that game.
There are a number of ideas on why rape culture exists, but there are four that should be mentioned. The sexual objectification of females is the first factor that plays a role in rape culture (Sexual Face of Violence: Rapists on Rape via National Criminal Justice Reference Service). When females are treated merely as objects for sexual pleasure instead of as human beings with personalities, feelings, and opinions they are transformed into any other type of object that can be used without thought. Therefore, people who see women as just objects to have sex with will normalize, excuse, tolerate, and condone rape because in their minds nothing is wrong with it. Misogyny, which is the dislike or hatred of women and girls, is the second contributing factor to rape culture (Huffington Post). This is because people who are misogynist’s will either not care about harm being done to women or will purposely cause harm to women because they dislike them and may choose to use rape as a way to hurt them.
originally posted by: geezlouise
I really am glad you are here Anaana, I love you.
For real.
originally posted by: geezlouise
I wrote this post to invite discussion and share information, knowledge, and a life experience.
Just because you can't talk about what happened to you...? It doesn't mean we shouldn't get to talk about what happened to us. Just because you've learned to suffer in silence, it doesn't mean everybody else has to.
I also noticed that you always, always talk about your life experiences at any chance you get.
Now, I demand that you apologize to me for being so ignorant. Thank you in advance.
You lack empathy.
you are un-sympathetic of people who are victims of crime. Un-sympathetic, and generally lacking a basic understanding of the underlying psychological impact that crime has.
You are jealous and angry that anyone else might gain pity or sympathy for being a victim of crime
I think that people who seek to retraumatize themselves are actually just trying to overcome that trauma and/or process it and understand it so that they can mentally overcome it... and so, people who are in that victim mode shouldn't be shamed for it as though it were a personal choice. It is not a personal choice. They were put there and now they're trapped and lost in the labyrinth and are just trying to find their way out again.
originally posted by: Bluesma
You might want to add to the info to remember that even rapists now how well the sympathy cookie works with victims, to get a hug and I love you and trust you. It is unfortunate, but you might want to keep it in mind.