posted on Nov, 10 2016 @ 09:45 AM
a reply to: March of the Fire Ants
Thank you -- that helps! So maybe we can liken the situation to a smoker who knows their habit affects others, knows the health implications for
herself and others, and perhaps she has helped others to cut down on smoking or substitute vaping, etc., but still insists on the "right" to smoke
when and where she wants without regards to others?
If she is rational and mentally competent, then I would suggest the appropriate course of action is to let her do as she will -- but only where and
when it does not affect others without their consent, such as at home or a designated smoking area which others are likewise free to avoid. But in
such a case, I would not recommend violating her free will; rather make it clear that she can only exercise her free will in such ways that do not
violate the free will of others.
If she is not rational and mentally competent, then we're treading different waters altogether. In that case, should we be sneaking her Chantix to
force her to quit smoking? Or just hiding her cigarettes? Or??? In that case, I suppose one would have to weigh the negative consequences of each.
Is it more harmful to treat her without her knowledge and consent than to let her continue in her present condition? Is it possible to put a big fat
"Q" for quarantine outside to warn others?
Hmmmm... What about a food addict? If Gramma weighs 600 pounds and cannot even function on her own, but depends on me to provide her food, is it okay
to sneak speed into her food to decrease her appetite and stimulate weight loss? I don't think I could do that. I'd probably be more inclined to buy
low calorie/low glycemic foods for her I think, because at that point it is my conscience at stake as well. I could not in good conscience contribute
to her dis-ease. So I guess I would be honest about that with her and simply say, "I'm happy to get you food since you are no longer in a position to
provide for yourself, but it will be my choice of what food I provide to you." She can accept or reject my offer.
And does our relationship have any bearing? Is it okay for me as a granddaughter/family member to do it because of course
I have her best
interests at heart... but not the faceless bureaucratic machine?
I'm just kind of thinking out loud here...
I tend to think truth and transparency are the best course of action, but I can see exceptions.