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Except for those cocooned in denial, most people would agree that everyone lies. But while each culture has its own codes about how and to whom to do it, there is a notion that Japanese people are more insincere than others, that their concept of tatemae — which means that the true, honest self should be hidden behind public pretense — not only mandates but values deception.
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Meyer cites research that on any given day, Americans are lied to between 10 and 200 times (depending, perhaps, on TV exposure). Besides interactions with parents and spouses, the truth is most absent during introductions, with an average of three lies served up in the first 10 minutes. Whatever happened to the home of the straightforward?
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Honne and tatemae are Japanese words that describe the contrast between a person's true feelings and desires (本音 hon'ne ?, "true sound") and the behavior and opinions one displays in public (建前 tatemae ?, "built in front", "façade").
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originally posted by: Profusion
In a world of pretense, are Japanese just more honest about lying?
originally posted by: TrueBrit
a reply to: namelesss
The suicide rate is not great though, is it?
They have a whole forest which us unofficially dedicated to the practice.
That is what comes about when the reality you construct for yourself, is based on the lies you told, not the way you truly feel. Sublimation of ones true self, only ever causes crushing and insurmountable trouble later on.
Being honest with others assists one in being honest with oneself.
originally posted by: TrueBrit
a reply to: namelesss
The suicide rate is not great though, is it?
They have a whole forest which us unofficially dedicated to the practice. That is what comes about when the reality you construct for yourself, is based on the lies you told, not the way you truly feel. Sublimation of ones true self, only ever causes crushing and insurmountable trouble later on.
Being honest with others assists one in being honest with oneself.
originally posted by: TrueBrit
a reply to: MoreInterior
But it does not actually absolve anyone of anything, does it?
I mean, all it does is remove an individual from the consequences of their actions, they are no longer around to suffer any dishonour that they should, in fairness, live to feel, if they deserve it. It is foolhardy to believe otherwise, regardless of culture.