Online dating is fun :P

I find my self single again and although certainly not ready for another relationship I need to put the past behind me and move forwards in life and not dwell on the past.

I met the MrsNonspecfic on an online dating site a little over five years ago and now that we have gone our seperate ways I decided to cheer myself up by rejoining for a bit of fun.

I found that not many ladies will look for men and that it is down to us males to do the hard graft whilst they sit around awaiting to be woo'd as it where.

From what I gather most men on online dating sites fall into two catagories whilst sending opening messages to prospective partners.

The first group basically says "Do you want to have sex with me?" I think that they must send the message to every single member in a 30 mile radius and hope one says yes but most ladies are annoyed by this.

The second group are generally good guys, a bit lonely and maybe a tad shy, they see someone they might like but lack the courage to go for it so simply send a message that says "Hi!" this I understand is also annoying to the fairer sex as it says nothing about the person and they have to then click on their profile and figuire this out for themselves.

Then there is me.

I treat online dating like I treat Ats, I speak my mind but usually with respect but try to throw in as much humour as possible as I know that laughter is a great way of removing anxiety and breaks the ice as it were. The other thing that I find helps is that I do not really care and just like having a laugh even if I go down like a lead balloon

A lady said very little about herself but did say ask me anything.

I asked her what her favorite power ranger was and that I liked the red one best, she could not help but respond to that.

Another asked if I could make them laugh and I asked if I had any chance with the profile pic I had chosen to offer myself up with, the one I put as my avatar but was deemed innapropriate and it did indeed make her laugh and we are now getting on quite well.

As I said in the OP online dating can be quite fun if you make it that way

lulz

I did it when I was living with friends in London.

Most nights were spent watching football or playing Fifa, so a night out with a girl was a nice break. I always drank enough to make my date look attractive. I had a good score rate. A snog was considered success. It was all fun, practice for better things, but you need to get back in the game at some point

originally posted by: woodwardjnr
I did it when I was living with friends in London.

Most nights were spent watching football or playing Fifa, so a night out with a girl was a nice break. I always drank enough to make my date look attractive. I had a good score rate. A snog was considered success. It was all fun, practice for better things, but you need to get back in the game at some point

Right now it is more about having a laugh with new people and seeing if you can make a stranger smile, I culled a lot of so called freinds when we split and although we are amicable I have rather a small social circal right now and a damaged ego so it is good to know you can still make a lady smile.

a reply to: nonspecific

Now I've moved back to the arse end of nowhere and can't drive. I haven't had a look living in London the pool of talent was much better and bigger. I know so many couples who have met through tinder. I'm not quite the catch I was once either

Good on you! My track record with online dating has been pathetic. So much so that I'm now gun shy. Seriously, I met nothing but psychos! And, if there's a universal law of attraction then I don't know what I'm putting out there.

Keep us posted. Maybe I'll get the courage to follow your lead.

It can be fun there's a danger to it too. Don't get me wrong, I personally find it easier to establish a real connection with someone over the internet, except-- I don't meet them off of dating websites. It's more so people I just cross by while being in my own realm of gaming. I was in a relationship for a year and a half with someone on the internet. It can be good fun at the same time, with the various types of beings you come across.

My aunt met someone online that she did end up marrying. They're still married, but now he is in prison for sexual assaulting his biological daughter, he did the same to me for many years--However, I didn't press charges as the daughter did.

Online dating can still be very rewarding as long as you're careful with who you meet on there. I've met some pretty manipulative human beings, the real nasty twisted kind that mask themselves extremely well.

Happy dating!

It's definitely fun!

Not sure where you're from nonspecific, but in NY, the guys that cut and paste the ”wanna have sex? ” proposal get shut down 99‰ of the time. That other 1‰ is a raging whore and usually very unattractive.

I've been on a few sites for about a year now and I started mainly because I'm really never in situations to meet new women. I hate clubs, rarely hit a bar with my friends and i work quite a bit. It's a matter of convenience for me.

In my experience, there are some really women on the sites and some are quite gorgeous. I still haven't gotten into a relationship with anyone from the site but I've definitely hung out with some awesome girls and had fun

To be honest, I would be afraid my wife would find out!

I jest of course. However, I know someone (a woman) who met her (now) husband online. She also was able to recite experiences of lying males who were just after a quick lay. She met a married man who did not try to hide it.

You two broke up...

ATS LADS NIGHT OUT!!!!!

originally posted by: OtherSideOfTheCoin
You two broke up...

ATS LADS NIGHT OUT!!!!!

You would be better off asking her if she fancies going out dancing mate, I am old and broken and bored

She has a bit more life to live than I do and I cannot be bothered to lie.

She drinks white wine spritzers or vodka and tonic and likes dancing to ABBA.

It is for the best as I like a nice real ale and not dancing to ABBA.

I met a pshcho and got stalked. She actually payed my account so I could read her letters. She was cute and had a great nurse job, but wanted to come over every night. I work 12 hour shifts, and sometimes just want to unwind at home alone with my dogs. She went ballistic one night, and said " I know there is a woman over there, Im coming over now" I said no and Im leaving. I pulled the truck into the garage and turned off the lights. Next day the gold dipped rose I gave her was on my front step with a nasty little note. I used that as my out.
I hate going clubbing, but I have met some nice girlfriends there. 3 of them were 20 years younger then me and never asked my age. That can be alot of fun for awhile but you are at a different maturity level with different interests.
Good luck on your dating adventure!

a reply to: nonspecific

Good luck, be safe. I met a girl on MySpace a while back. Long story short I flew to Vegas. Went to the Hardrock Hotel, checked in and went to the bar to meet the girl I met on MySpace. Well now I can tell you this was not a girl.

After being like WTF. I remained calm as I could. I told him this is wrong what you did. I was not angry anymore and told him see you later and I went on and had a great time in Vegas.

That was my lesson learned. Lol

Was a disaster when I attempted it but the bizarre experiences definitely made for some interesting stories.

a reply to: nonspecific

You might have better luck meeting someone online in a different way. I met my current love (we've been living together for 2 years ) on a forum website that was of mutual interest to both of us. We started out as just acquaintances on the boards which eventually became a meaningful friendship and later led to meeting in person and to romance.

The way I see it online dating sites are basically "meat markets" where prospective lovers pretend to be someone they are not to garner attention from the opposite sex. That's okay if you are looking for something temporary and shallow but if you are looking for something more meaningful why not get to know some of the folks a little better on sites that you already frequent and with whom you already have common interests?

Just a thought... Good luck!

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Please don't ask me how I know this.

Oh, it's fun for awhile after being newly single. Got laid many times.

Then, it hit's you.
I need something more meaningful.

That, my friend, is the hard one to get. Finding that one person that you feel comfortable enough with to share your life.

a reply to: nonspecific

I found that not many ladies will look for men and that it is down to us males to do the hard graft whilst they sit around awaiting to be woo'd as it where.

That is what I have heard. Unless you've been hitting the gym everyday and/or make it clear that you make $$$$$$$$ on your profile, you're probably going to have to spend a lot of energy persuing a woman.

It's something that is so annoying about women. Women will play games, until you have "woo'd" them and won them over. And then when you finally get out on a date, women expect for men to pay for most it!

a reply to: nonspecific

Dude?

What? Oh man...sorry to hear that bud...

You do what you have to though.

a reply to: RomaSempre

I think it's worth remembering that if two people are hooking up online for a date both are probably looking for a bit of action.

I remember most girls I met would get a phone call about 15 mins into a date. Almost like a safety valve that would get them out of the date if they thought it wasn't going well. To make sure I wasn't some nutter. You can pretty much judge how things are going after the first 10 minutes. I ended up seeing one girl for a few months, but I didn't like any of her friends so it didn't last very long, although I kept bumping into her when I was out. It's harder now I can't drive and live in my parents spare room. The terminal illness is hardly a turn on either. I would dodge anyone in my situation, so I don't expect too much these days, I'm lucky I still have female friends who like to watch films with me in bed.