How do you rate sex?

originally posted by: TrueBrit
a reply to: droid56

Jesus...

Look, it's been a hell of a long time for me, but I can still, if I shut my eyes, think really hard, not to mention ignore the emotional agony involved, feel every hair on my body quiver, the sound of gasping, screaming, the feeling of being as close to a human being as it is possible to get without some sort of matter teleportation accident, nails down my back and bruising on my flesh, and the giddy sensation of realisation that comes when one notices that one has been involved in a variation on the same theme of activity, from sundown to sun up, without ever feeling like stopping. I could go other places with that, but for gods sake, think of the children!

Wait, children? Hell, think of us dear old ladies reading. Do go on.



sorry.

a reply to: Freija

Ahem...

Pardon me ma'm. Upon reflection, I realise that I probably should have been a little more restrained there, but as a fellow who has been out of the game for some time for reasons largely beyond my control, I find it irksome that anyone is getting it, but not DOING it. I mean, for crying out loud!

*sigh*

I will attempt to restrain myself in future

a reply to: TrueBrit That was funny though

I have slept with a lot of women in my time.. 90% of which were one night stands.
Most of those meaningless encounters, the sex was just sex, being a bit like 'wham bam thank you mam'
Occasionally it would be really good.

But the difference to making love with someone you care about and love, can be a whole other experience, and thats the sex that mind blowing.
This for me came with age and also being in a relationship where we truly love each other.

OP.. I think your talking about the former type of sex, where it is still meaningless..

originally posted by: TrueBrit
a reply to: Freija

Ahem...

Pardon me ma'm. Upon reflection, I realise that I probably should have been a little more restrained there, but as a fellow who has been out of the game for some time for reasons largely beyond my control, I find it irksome that anyone is getting it, but not DOING it. I mean, for crying out loud!

*sigh*

I will attempt to restrain myself in future

Really? I'm in control. I just don't care. Miss the ex? It's been a LONG time. Low testosterone? Could be but that works too. I'm much less of an A-hole.

originally posted by: TrueBrit
a reply to: droid56

Jesus...

Look, it's been a hell of a long time for me, but I can still, if I shut my eyes, think really hard, not to mention ignore the emotional agony involved, feel every hair on my body quiver, the sound of gasping, screaming, the feeling of being as close to a human being as it is possible to get without some sort of matter teleportation accident, nails down my back and bruising on my flesh, and the giddy sensation of realisation that comes when one notices that one has been involved in a variation on the same theme of activity, from sundown to sun up, without ever feeling like stopping. I could go other places with that, but for gods sake, think of the children!

My point is, that if neither of you are slacking, there is no way that all you should be getting out of it is a three dimensional movie you can playback whenever you fancy to without reference to external memory storage devices. When both parties are into it, want it, and need one another, when there is even the tiniest sliver of heart and soul in it, the process itself takes on a totally unreal aspect, all the pain in the body (and unless someone is being lazy, there will be pain in muscles that one rarely knows one has, unless about the business itself) evaporates until all there is left, is the desire to continue, for more, to never stop, to have that moment stretch until the fabric of space time collapses all the previous moments into one moment, and the pair of you collapse, wrapped around one another, still not wanting to let go, but physically incapable of doing anything other than shaking, giggling, and being still inseparable, falling asleep in one another's safety.

DAMNIT....NOW I REALLY MISS THAT!

Anyway, it's not meant to be a single point in time with no meaning outside itself. It is supposed to be something that unites two people who care deeply for one another. If all you get is mindless rutting, then sure, that sucks, but there is more to it than that.

My gosh friend!!

How is it again that you're single?!

Sorry, just a 'quickie' comment!


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a reply to: intrepid

No man...

I have this issue. Basically, I am not able to even kiss a woman I am not already in love with, leave alone make love to them. Building the kind of trust that I would have to have to even start down that path takes more time than most people have to spend.

a reply to: TrueBrit

OK. You've got it imo. We ain't teenagers anymore. IMO sex without intimacy is just a different version of masturbation.

a reply to: intrepid

It's not age man...

I was always this way!

a reply to: TNMockingbird

This period in history does not allow for a pair of people to fall in love the right way, and that's assuming they have the good fortune to meet at all, rather than miss one another in the bustle of it all. Things are expected these days, to be immediate, to be without meaning.

I cannot reciprocate shallowness, because I have none. This is not the century I belong in, put it that way.

I rate it on a scale of one to ten depending what mood she is in. Sometimes we are crazy and sometimes we are lazy. Though interestingly enough those two are exclusive ratings.

Also if it's not long enough exercise your kegel muscles. It helps

originally posted by: intrepid
a reply to: TrueBrit

OK. You've got it imo. We ain't teenagers anymore. IMO sex without intimacy is just a different version of masturbation.

It's actually usually almost worse.

Maybe I just find good porn, though.

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