a reply to: seasonal
Seasonal, have an old fashion sit down heart to heart with him. Find out what his fears are. Find out how he sees his decline playing out. Have him
talk you through a few, what ifs. Have a lawyer or an accountant go over the best way to handle his estate. There are some legal creative ways to
stretch his retirement dollars, in conjunction with state and local resources. Like you said, there is a whole industry out there that addresses these
issues. You just want to make sure they are working for you, not hustling you.
I usually see two types of people. The slow decline, that starts off with something small, that progresses toward a total decline over months, or even
years. The other is very problematic, the one that crashes and burns. They are perfectly fine one minute, and the next minute their whole world is
turned upside down. I wish I had ten bucks for every time I sat holding the hand of a tearful, perplexed spouse, asking "What happened"? "Yesterday
everything was fine, we even went out to dinner." "I went to bed with my spouse of fifty years and woke up in bed with a stranger."
That is just how fast a total decline can take place. No one is prepared. No one saw it coming, and the blame game starts, because most people need an
explanation that makes sense to them, so someone has to be at fault.
That is why I stress so strongly, slaying the issue, that shall not been named. Get it done and over with, well in advance of the storm. Like I said
before, if we live long enough, we will all be a position were someone will have to wash our bottoms, and change our diapers, again.
Being prideful only hurts everyone, especially the ones that love you and want to help. Ego and being prideful, regarding something that is as natural
as breathing, can destroy a family, at a time when it is important for a family to be together and strong.
No one wants to deal with death and dying, but it is a place we all have to visit. It is never easy, but you can make it easier.
edit on 29-6-2016 by NightSkyeB4Dawn because: I really do hate posting from a mobile.