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A DATING website has been set up to help men find SECOND WIVES, and already has 35,000 members.
The man behind SecondWife.com, web boss Azad Chaiwala, insists that the service promotes fidelity, morality and old-fashioned family values.
The site has proved so successful..... – and is especially popular with women.
Users are greeted by a picture of a beaming, multi-cultural family and the proclamation: “We want bigger, stronger families.”
“People go to a nightclub and have a one-night stand and that’s the end of it. Men go with prostitutes; people look for swingers’ clubs.
“A man wants to get married to multiple partners in an honourable manner, he wants to share his love and resources – why do you have an issue with that?
“It is not for everyone – some men are not physically, or financially, capable of taking care of other women.”
originally posted by: Abysha
a reply to: EmmanuelGoldstein
This is strange. It seems less oppressive than traditional polygamy yet more strict than polyamory.
My partner and I are actually in a situation similar to this but we are the original couple who found the man. Our reasoning for finding a man has some similarities to the reasons on that site: more security, stronger family, more love, etc. What makes polygamy so unethical in my eyes, however, is that only one person has multiple partners while the wives are only with him and never with each other. Aint that a bunch of crap.
Yakov voice: "In capitalist America, harem finds you".
originally posted by: TNMockingbird
I guess I'm thinking in terms of 'sister wives' the TV show.
originally posted by: TNMockingbird
originally posted by: Abysha
a reply to: EmmanuelGoldstein
This is strange. It seems less oppressive than traditional polygamy yet more strict than polyamory.
My partner and I are actually in a situation similar to this but we are the original couple who found the man. Our reasoning for finding a man has some similarities to the reasons on that site: more security, stronger family, more love, etc. What makes polygamy so unethical in my eyes, however, is that only one person has multiple partners while the wives are only with him and never with each other. Aint that a bunch of crap.
Yakov voice: "In capitalist America, harem finds you".
I see what you are saying about the women who don't choose to have multiple male partners but
if they are of age and (assuming) in their right mind well, they chose that lifestyle. I guess I'm thinking in terms of 'sister wives' the TV show. I don't know if I would say it's unethical. As long as folks are grown and not hurting anyone else it is not traditional, perhaps, but there are all sorts of relationships in this big world IMO. I think it's interesting.
originally posted by: TNMockingbird
Good for you in finding a relationship that sounds as if it is mutually agreeable and satisfying!
originally posted by: DeadFoot
originally posted by: TNMockingbird
I guess I'm thinking in terms of 'sister wives' the TV show.
The problem I have with that show is that the women seem to have to constantly agree with everything the guy says.
I would assume it would be more of a competitive scene, and disagreeing with the guy would probably warrant some favoritism to one of his other wives who would just agree for the sake of being "the favorite".
I just personally don't like to see such unbalanced relationships but of course that happens in monogamy, as well.
originally posted by: TNMockingbird
a reply to: Abysha
I just personally don't like to see such unbalanced relationships but of course that happens in monogamy, as well.
Yes it does! OR, more often I think, when folks think the relationship is monogamous. If people could be a little more honest and stop trying to put their round selves into square holes. $.02
What makes polygamy so unethical in my eyes, however, is that only one person has multiple partners while the wives are only with him and never with each other. Aint that a bunch of crap.