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Regrets are an ugly aspect of life. While most people acknowledge they have at least a handful of regrets, some people make the hard-to-believe claim that they have none.
originally posted by: superman2012
In my opinion, people that say they have regrets, don't embrace the person they have become because of mistakes. I fully embrace everything that I have ever done as it has directly led me to the path that I am on right now. If even one event had changed, even one that I could call a regret, then I wouldn't be where I am today. Do I have regrets? No. Not in the literal meaning of it as a verb not relating to myself or my actions. As a noun? Yes, I regret people close to me dying.
originally posted by: intrptr
a reply to: Dark Ghost
Regrets are an ugly aspect of life. While most people acknowledge they have at least a handful of regrets, some people make the hard-to-believe claim that they have none.
Some are in denial, some claim they 'can't remember' (others take the 5th). Healthy minds want to review where they went wrong and try to understand it, maybe to make to right, maybe to not do it anymore.
Everyone is right where they are supposed to be, making mistakes is part of learning, unless they are a narcissistic control freak and really don't care about anyone but themselves.
I like to think the mnd is a CCD camera in everyones head-- recording everything that happens for later review. Even if we can't or won't remember it, its still in there.
I'm saying you've already done plenty of things to regret, you just don't know what they are. It's when you discover them, when you see the folly in something you've done, and you wish that you had it do over, but you know you can't, because it's too late. So you pick that thing up, and carry it with you to remind you that life goes on, the world will spin without you, you really don't matter in the end. Then you will gain character, because honesty will reach out from inside and tattoo itself across your face.
originally posted by: Dark Ghost
originally posted by: superman2012
In my opinion, people that say they have regrets, don't embrace the person they have become because of mistakes. I fully embrace everything that I have ever done as it has directly led me to the path that I am on right now. If even one event had changed, even one that I could call a regret, then I wouldn't be where I am today. Do I have regrets? No. Not in the literal meaning of it as a verb not relating to myself or my actions. As a noun? Yes, I regret people close to me dying.
I disagree.
Unless of course you feel everything in your life is perfect and there is no room for improvement whatsoever? (If that's the case, then I congratulate you on achieving what the vast majority of other people cannot.)
Going thru a mirror experience seeing how everything you did propagated thru space and time and effected everyone else?
There is no way to get rid of self-pity for good; it has a definite place and character in our lives, a definite facade which is recognizable. Thus, every time the occasion arises, the facade of self-pity becomes active. It has a history. But if one changes the facade, one shifts its place of prominence. One changes facades by shifting the component elements of the facade itself. Self-pity is useful to the user because he feels important and deserving of better conditions, better treatment, or because he is unwilling to assume responsibility for the acts that brought him to the state that elicited self-pity.
“Shamans have unmasked self-importance and found that it is self-pity masquerading as something else.”
If you don't have self-importance, you have only feelings. Do the following simple and direct exercise that could mean the world to you: Remove from your memory of a past interaction with someone any statements that you make to yourself such as 'He said this or that to me, and he yelled at me!' and remain at the level of your feelings. If you hadn't been so self-important, what would you have had as the irreducible residue at that level of your feelings; and is that feeling any less today than it was? Now, embrace them from your silence. Don't be meager, embrace them totally for the last time. But intend that this is the last time on Earth. Intend it from your darkness. If you are worth your salt, when you make your gift to them, you'll sum up your entire life. Acts of this nature make warriors airborne, almost vaporous. What we usually feel is merely the result of indulging and self-pity. In order to say good-bye and thank you, and really mean it and sustain it, sorcerers have to remake themselves. Vanquish your self-pity right now. Vanquish the idea that you are hurt; and what you have as the irreducible residue is your feelings. Not in the spirit of renewing anything, or harming anyone, including yourself, but in the spirit of a warrior-traveler whose only virtue is to keep alive the memory of whatever has affected him, whose only way to say thank you and good-bye is by this act of magic: of storing in his silence whatever he has loved.
Don Juan Matus