Questions for the Empaths

originally posted by: quercusrex
a reply to: Snarl

That he shared that is a sign of great love and a feeling of safety with you. I am sure that he has fed off of you, but not in a bad way, or he would not have shared that.

You seem to be looking for or wanting a negative. Why?

Empathic is an energy connection. You can connect to anyone who has this "ability". It's potluck. Those who know what they're doing, create a protective energy shield around themselves. Who you let in is your personal responsibility.

a reply to: quercusrex


You can't block the input, but you can change the channel when it hurts.
Most importantly, you don't suffer fools.

originally posted by: NateTheAnimator
a reply to: quercusrex

I don't know if I would call myself an empath...Although I've had many experiences where I truly am feeling another's emotions and it can be mentally exhausting. Social interactions can be the worst,especially around those who are quite negative and toxic.

Which is normal for most people I suppose,with me though I feel their toxic energy and it almost quite literally consumes me as their emotions resonate so deep with in me it's hard to ignore. Sometimes to the point where I become a different person,this is the same sometimes with being around positive people.

When I was younger it used to be really hard to differentiate between my own emotions and others,eventually like with auditory perception I learned to tune out people's emotions. It was tough at first,but I found that being around animals was the best way to learn to do this.

Glad to know I'm not the only one... Some people see intense empathy as a gift. I see it as more of a curse, as the world is full of people suffering on a daily basis and to feel that suffering from people hurts more as there's nothing I can do to stop it.

Some do see it as a curse but it is also a blessing in disguise. You learn from the bad to make the world a better place if you can just learn how to turn it around from your sphere of influence.

There were times that I would just willingly let myself go down a dark path because of all that I was taking in from the people around me but you can start to realize and understand that is only their experience that has speckled their, for now, limited insight into crossing into your field and manipulating your own subtleties into believing it is a brick wall of bad. Best to learn from mistakes and hopefully if they are able to be healed they will be.

Delving into psychological methodologies and how to balance them have really helped me but there are pitfalls with any method. Such is life.

originally posted by: Aliensun
a reply to: quercusrex


You can't block the input, but you can change the channel when it hurts.
Most importantly, you don't suffer fools.

it is possible to block the input but most of the time is it wholly not worth it. Especially if you are just coming to terms with what's going on within. It really can backfire, in some weird ways at that.

a reply to: Inarismessenger

There were times that I would just willingly let myself go down a dark path because of all that I was taking in from the people around me but you can start to realize and understand that is only their experience that has speckled their

This right here sums it up for me. It's like being an emotional sponge and it becomes tough to drop that emotional baggage that gets absorbed into you after being exposed to people and their problems.

And yeah I realize many will see it as a gift as opposed to a curse,the environment in which I grew up around has tainted my perspective on it though sadly.

originally posted by: NateTheAnimator
a reply to: Inarismessenger

There were times that I would just willingly let myself go down a dark path because of all that I was taking in from the people around me but you can start to realize and understand that is only their experience that has speckled their

And yeah I realize many will see it as a gift as opposed to a curse, . . .

Peace from the "chatter" came when I moved to 2 acres in the middle of the Sonora Desert.

I felt like the "Tin Man pilot" TNG

a reply to: the general thread.

Mine is similar to the posts above. Crowds are overwhelming and emotional crowds such as events cause headaches. I live in a small Oz country town where the human mental/emotional "polution" is minimal.

I hold the opinion that vampirism is a different thing entirely. There are some spirits who can feed of the vital life force. You can share excess vital life force with them which overflows from the thumb, index and middle fingers. They are all females by the way, no males required. When their life reaches a certain point where they feel "old" or "overwhelmed by time" they divide themselves into a small number of individual 'children' who have the exact same memories and who then grow up to be individuals. Their memories go back a VERY long time.

These Beings are not generally allowed (by the unseen powers that be) to have friendships with humans. I think it is because they have such ancient memories. A shame really, they can be very loving. Sadly, so much has been daemonised.

But this is not to say they are treasure troves. One does not exploit friends like that.

I have come across another type of energy drain, but that is to do with sick locations that can reach out through certain people.

Just for the record, I am not advocating making friends with "things that go bump in the night". Simply saying not everything is evil or what it seems.

I'm one.

I didn't really realize there was a term for this until recently.

Other peoples feelings just make me feel awkward and uncomfortable.

It's kind of annoying because this causes me to be pretty anti social.

I can feed off of positive energy, especially a positive crowd. The rest is unwelcome and makes things difficult at times, causing anxiety.

a reply to: NateTheAnimator
It can be tough and I believe that is why some decide to live a life of solitude because they cannot bear or grip what they are feeling for fear of retribution and so become hermits in the process. After living in the country somewhat away from close proximity of other people it has shown me how to control, a little bit, the "aura" or field.

As for proximity, it really does not matter unless you can really navigate your own thoughts and place them as being your own authorship. All it takes is to think of someone else or open your mind and "bodies" to another to have that pull. Not sure if that makes sense, id rather not get down to the nitty gritty that most would consider bs lol.

From one sensitive to another all I can say is don't fear or fret over what you can't control. It takes practice as with any discipline. Just don't let it control the main aspects of your life and what you hope to achieve in our short but seemingly long time here. Have fun with it. Seems to be the best way for me but unfortunately not everyone can see humor in some of the spookiness.

Anxiety has ruled my past but getting out of my comfort zone has taught me so much so that being in crowds can be euphoric and somewhat obscene at the same time.

Just a few days ago all I had to do was mention someone that had such an emotional pull on me and boom there they were. All I can do now is smile and be thankful that there are deeper connections with someone who means so much to me.

a reply to: quercusrex

No, its more like "normal" folks are constantly projecting their emotions at everyone else, and have no idea how to keep it to themselves. Its overwhelming, particularly in large groups of people. Its like swimming in everyone elses floodwaters that they spill everywhere.

originally posted by: pirhanna
a reply to: quercusrex

No, its more like "normal" folks are constantly projecting their emotions at everyone else, and have no idea how to keep it to themselves. Its overwhelming, particularly in large groups of people. Its like swimming in everyone elses floodwaters that they spill everywhere.

Well, now I know I've met a real empath

What do you think empathy is? Very curious? You seem to have a very dark understanding.

Empathy means you feel like or akin to another and understand them, you seek to understand and care/compassionate them. You feel their pain, with your Spirit and Soul. It is what it takes to grow your consciousness.

We walk each other home!

Also, it is the beginning of what is needed for telepathy and repairing your DNA. The stuff that has been nerfed.

Anyone who harms another, is the opposite of an empath.

originally posted by: quercusrex
Do you feed off of them. Their passion, their anguish, their suffering, and their joy? I don't post on this side of the boards, but I have questions that need answering. Do you taste their ecstasy? Do you eat their pain? Are you an emotional vampire?

Do you know what emotions are yours and which are theirs?

I do not like being around human beings ........for years I use to hate humans and I also use to get panic attacks when in public. I find it hard to use public transportation. I have been places where I could not breathe.... like someone turned off the air but for the most part I feel pressure pushing me down........not pulling me down. I can see and feel every atmosphere wherever people are. Sometimes the tension in the air is so thick I get a dry throat.

I believe all empaths have the ability to "power up" and become very good at "Discernment of Spirits" where one can see and with training hear what these spirits speak. The reason why so many are not is due to fear. Fear of the unknown, I can understand but not for an entire lifetime....at least not for an empath AND if an empath is filled with fear that is because he/she has not been taught/shown how to deal with this. Positive attitude mixed with confidence is strength to an empath and to be nonjudgemental. Now when I say nonjudgemental I am talking about when first meeting/feeling something turn off all emotions. Emotions can and do give off various motions or sounds depending on who you are dealing with. An example ....fear give off this smell that can make a spiritual being "HIGH" and is considered very addictive. So understanding fear, you can control it, it actually tells you what you must do: (1) Get/be prepared, meaning concentration levels at HIGH, being very serious, no joking around and be quite.... listen and look (2) Kick up senses, (3) Stay calm and think before moving or speaking. (4) Empty your mind..... meaning try not to think..... it can read your thoughts and will eventually see a pattern to how you think and speak.

An empty mind and a concentrated stare at a energy vampire will cause them confusion and they will feel uncomfortable around you.

originally posted by: NateTheAnimator
a reply to: Inarismessenger

There were times that I would just willingly let myself go down a dark path because of all that I was taking in from the people around me but you can start to realize and understand that is only their experience that has speckled their

This right here sums it up for me. It's like being an emotional sponge and it becomes tough to drop that emotional baggage that gets absorbed into you after being exposed to people and their problems.

And yeah I realize many will see it as a gift as opposed to a curse,the environment in which I grew up around has tainted my perspective on it though sadly.

One thing I have found that really helps with this is to ask yourself "Who does this belong to?" This is what I do when I start getting bombarded with emotions or feelings that seem incongruent with what I think I SHOULD be feeling at that moment. Usually, I will feel lighter upon just asking myself that question if anything I am picking up "belongs" to someone else and not me.

I heard this idea in an audio by Dain Heer and it's really made a huge difference. Has almost dissipated the anxiety I used to feel in large crowds or when I was in a place where ppl were feeling / exhibiting strong energy and emotion (even if positive).

originally posted by: quercusrex
Do you feed off of them. Their passion, their anguish, their suffering, and their joy? I don't post on this side of the boards, but I have questions that need answering. Do you taste their ecstasy? Do you eat their pain? Are you an emotional vampire?

Do you know what emotions are yours and which are theirs?

Empaths don't feed. They unwillingly absorb the negatives from other people like a sponge by people who can't contain their pain to themselves resulting in overflow. The empath absorbs the negayive over flow naturally. A person with an over flow of pain doesn't have to release any verbal energy or have a set mind toward intention to release the overflow. Negative overflow just leeches out to the nearest empath who absorbs the excess like a sponge. Like an overflowing bucket of water and a near by mop. The 2 work hand in hand. Empaths process the negative overflow from them inside themselves and break the energy down fully, and can usually handle it fine. Empaths make great care givers. People in pain are drawn to them. It takes a long time to break negative overflow down if the empath has an immune deficiency disorder or is sick with a cold or flu. Being in close contact to Radio waves and microwaves and electrical power lines can make it difficult to process internally. Actually, anything that is artificially in the atmosphere at high levels like wifi and cell phones tamper with the natural processing. Personal depression stemming from themselves effects the processing as well. If something isn't adapted by empaths soon, they will die being drowned in negative overflow. People with pain overflow will be stuck with nonempathetic people. Prescribed drugs being a chemical fail in addressing their negative over flow. They are stuck with it. It is wise to treat empaths with kindness and make sure their health needs are met. To lose them would be a tragedy.

Energy vampires purposefully feed on the positive emotions of other people who willingly give it or unknowingly give it by having no wall up. It's an assault. They are hoarders of positive energy. If the person they are sucking positive energy from doesn't have a wall up, it's considered free energy to them. Free for the taking. There are many people skilled in giving people positive energy, it is a gift when given, not taken. Polite people ask permission first and then the person sends it to them. Most human beings enjoy the exchange. It is not in the least an assault.

Demons purposefully feed off negative energy. In fact, they hoard it to grow bigger. They are not like energy vampires looking for positive people to suck on. Demons also feed off the negative overflow that empaths are supposed to absorb. Many empaths are isolating themselves leaving an increased amount of people dealing with pain over flow. They feed off of it. Unfortunately, demons don't process the negativity until it disolves into nothing like human empaths, they grow bigger. Making the entity expand.

One way to combat the expansion of negative energy coming your way is by using sound energy. Vibrational hums, Omms are good if you can get them low pitched and loud enough and constant. Females find that extremely difficult. Another way is to yell, not scream, yell a set of morally good demands, but it has to be done in lower more masculine tones. Females find that difficult having a higher pitch but it can be done. This produces an artificial negative and the negative expansion is fooled into thinking it has already expanded there and heads in another direction looking to consume else where.

Edit:
What I mean by empaths unwillingly absorb it is most don't choose to absorb. They are designed to do it. Healthy empaths in natural atmospheric conditions wouldn't even notice the feeling of absorbing and processing negative energy. They would feel more compassion compared to the average person, that's it. Those empaths aware of what they are who cut themselves off from people are usually frightened and ill and are so downloaded with negative energy they can barely get around even with a protected wall/bubble built/visualized around them. They're just a walking bubble of it presenting no harm to others but themselves AND not giving demons the opportunity to feed off it. Which is a good thing. They feed, they expand. Empaths need to release it using spiritually ritualistic methods if they can't internally process it naturally as designed.

It comes in varying degrees. Sometimes I can feed off of someone's fear or drain them off their energy.

My wife notices that I'm doing it more than me. I only do it on purpose to a22hat2. I have been known to use it for what I consider good but mostly I do confess that I don't realize I'm draining people around me until she tells me. I can make her pass out nearly at will by focusing which she hates. I only do it to her when I'm being playful or if I'm really upset. She doesn't need to be in the room with me either.

She is the first woman that I've met who seems to understand that I don't mean to do it most of the time.

I have also met tons of people completely immune to me.

I've not done much to develope it for lack of what good it will do me besides the fact that it seems to have slowed my aging. I'm mid 40 but get mistaken for nearly 30 or younger.

I don't think staying young at the expense of the lives of others is in line with my " do no harm" approach to life. Not always possible to follow that rule.

Great explanation, Whitewingedmonolith. Thanks

a reply to: WhiteWingedMonolith

You said it extremely well.The bucket and mop and the sponge analogies are spot on btw.

Not all empaths who avoid other people or crowds are necessarily frightened or sick though.In my case,and i suspect in many others too,its from just having enough of wading through toxic sludge;you know?

Also i am an abductee who has had a very brutal life, so there comes a time when one has to start doing damage control and for me a major part of that is carefully managing my interaction with society among other things.

a reply to: Raxoxane

My wife is empathic, she is heavy emphatic. But somehow she manage not to get energy drained when energy vampires come along.

We have a huge energy vampire visiting, I lose all my energy when she cones to feed, but my wife don't lose a single and she is trying to feed from her.

I lose so much energy that I need to go and be alobe for several hours sometimes days. I m introvert, but my wife us extreme extrovert. Maybe that are reasons why I lose energy and she don't. Or she is just older soul than me.

originally posted by: quercusrex
a reply to: DarkStarRising

I think that there are those who absorb and are overwhelmed by others emotions and they develop defenses and then there are others that feed off of them whether they be positive or negative. The latter not only take on the projector's joy or pain but feel the need to satisfy it. This becomes not only a pleasure but a way of life. A feeding, if you will.

That sound to me more like introvert vs. extrovert, than empath, though I believe the empaths fall more into the introvert category.

Interesting thread.