I never had a girlfriend ..

a reply to: Iamtherealgod

I was thinking the same thing. OP isn't missing much. I wasted a bunch of time seeking a girl I could connect with it. It literally took me 30 years to find one. I don't think it was worth all that time and effort. Happiness comes from within.

a reply to: TechniXcality

this is the type of post i'd screenshot, show to my female friends who play video games, and laugh and cringe in blissful agony.

as someone with an anxiety disorder and clinical depression, STOP using your anxiety as an excuse.

I moved from the country to NYC without ever being to NYC and without knowing a single soul. Why? Because I thrive to be successful and independent. Is it hard? Yes. Extremely. But I'm successful and have a great support system of friends and am thriving in work I'm passionate about, getting closer to my absolute dream job every day.

And as a girl who's passionate about video games, I dont play 8hrs of video games a day. Not anymore, because of responsibilities. Also, I would never date a gamer boy, honestly. Most girls outside of high school who play video games regularly, will run as fast as possible in the other direction when a boy capitalizes on their gaming. Most of us have been treated worst by the male gaming community than by arrogant, douchebag player/frat boys, and this reputation is the community's own fault. Find a different hobby to capitalize on ASAP. If I wanted to talk about video games, I would go to my friends. Or a forum. Not my boyfriend.

Personally, respect for women and people is the #1 most important thing to me. If you're clean and aren't a gross pig (mentally and physically), this is usually enough. Everyone loves humor, so find your comedy style. Dress according to your frame, or work out if your weight severely jeopardizes your health. Be passionate about something (other than gaming), kudos if it's your job. Be kind and considerate. Dont treat women like props. Etc.

If you want to stay alone forever, buy a fedora, rant about "SJW pandering", and/or grow a neckbeard.

a reply to: dude200181

If you wan't my opinion on the matter...I don't date...AT ALL. A Woman will drive you nuts man, make you so miserable you will want to kill yourself. Since you never had one I'm sure you wan't to know what it will be like and feel like. It will be good for the first few months, then after that it's all down hill. The way I see it, it's a blessing you haven't had one.

Most of the females in this country are brainwashed with POP Culture and HIP-HOP Culture. They think reality is just like TV. They wan't all the one's who fit a certain sterotype...those are their play things where they like to have fun. Then you got the guys with MONEY, and that is what they truly want. Women in America don't care about love, all they care about is financial support.

a reply to: Metallicus

Any normal girl isn't gonna date an unemployed dude.

Any normal man isn't going to give girls like your daughter a chance at all. If I was your daughter's ex boyfriend I would of told her to get off her ass and get her own job. Why does she need him to work? Was she planning on marrying him or something? I MEAN JESUS 17 YEARS OLD. I bet you brainwashed her into only wanting males with money and jobs. Not that it's a bad thing, I would expect that from a mother to a daughter. Just saying..

originally posted by: climberxterra
Not to be condescending, because I was once in the same situation. But the first step,as a 24 year old, would be to get a real job. Not Starbucks, I do love their coffee, or McDonalds. Second, simply be confident in yourself and your decisions. If you want some more advise, because I have some real experience and insight, reply. Otherwise I'm not going to waste my time.

There is no job that is not a good job especially for a beginning. BTW Starbucks pays more in our town then anyone else with benefits very rare here.

Ok, look at it this way. You are one in 400 trillion. One in 400 trillion really puts things in perspective. This stat means that someone did the calculation and you being born or exist at all is 400 trillion to one.
www.theepochtimes.com...

As far as being a social misfit, buy a kindle, download some self help books and hit the gym. There are too many things to do to feel the way you feel. You are a young single dude.. Just being born is a miracle. Being able to change who you are, your identity and self worth is something you can do and that is another miracle.

Amazon:
Quck Search

On women and having a girlfriend, there are a ton of chicks out there. Hot chicks that have been stepped on and abused that are sick of the B.S. Do your homework and find one of those. Or not but whomever you find, treat her like a lady.

Here is the rub.. Making a decision to change is simple. Actually changing is the hard part.

Oh, and one more thing.. Get a damn job!

It is going to be a lot harder for the this gen compare to the past. Them fans girls ruin everything. Esp, Bieber fans.

originally posted by: TechniXcality
a reply to: MystikMushroom

Your crown thread and now this, damn brother you really are proud of that crown lol

What for? It's beyond comical that some people have to resort to funny hats to believe they're something.

a reply to: dude200181
C-mon your 24 years old, don't downgrade yourself , start saying every morning in the mirror I'm worth living and to liked by others ..

I give you two months and you will slowly believe what you're saying to yourself .. After that go do karate it will boost your inner spirit and self respect , then in about a year find a job , you will kick ass..

Now every day is a day to turn the wheel in a different direction remember that !

originally posted by: dude200181
I think that women must hate me anyway for them to reject me like in the past.

If you don't look like brad pitt then you're going to have to learn to enjoy being rejected, because it will happen ALOT. At least, until you get better at your game. Just view it as a game. If you're rejected, move on and try again. Over and Over.

That's not to say that you should just sleep or be in a relationship with anyone. Just play the game and keep trying. Eventualy you'll get good, as long as you learn from your mistakes and keep bettering yourself.

The key is to work on yourself. Exercise, eat right and start getting more confidence. If you're just enjoying yourself and feeling confident, women will flock to you. Just look at all the pussy cult leaders get!

a reply to: dude200181

You are pretty young. Just because it has never happened doesn't mean it will never happen. There really is someone for everyone. Its not that she does not exist for you, its that you haven't found her yet. Stay positive.

a reply to: dude200181

Dude if you play video games 8 hours a day as you say

That my friend ain't no ladies man

Be less of a geek

originally posted by: openminded2011
a reply to: dude200181

You are pretty young. Just because it has never happened doesn't mean it will never happen. There really is someone for everyone. Its not that she does not exist for you, its that you haven't found her yet. Stay positive.

This is true as well

There is a geeky introverted lady somewhere for him

Take it from me. There's someone for everybody in this world. If it happened to me, it can happen to anybody. I was a shy virgin until I was almost 20, then I met my (now) wife and my whole life changed almost overnight. I often wish for everybody to have what my wife and I have... I still don't have many friends, but at least I've got my soulmate.

Also...you won't find anybody if you don't put yourself out there one way or another. Take a chance, do something new, step outside of your comfort zone. Take baby steps if you have to.

I suspect this is a fictional post. If you look like Napoleon Dynamite, there could be a problem............... at least in theory. Working on the suspicion that this is all a ....uh....joke, well then....

If that is the case, the first thing you should do is go to 'Go Fund Me' and ask for funds to 'get a life'. Perhaps $2-3,000 would do. Then go to Dillard's and get a new wardrobe....... and by the way, let the salesman choose your attire, their usually quite keen on making you look good. And if this is not fictional.....

Museums, car shows, perhaps a 'Save the something something' group of environmentalists cleaning up the beach, mountain trail, nature preserve... type thing might afford you opportunity to meet other like minded people.

Beyond that...... 'I got nuttin'. Go fly a kite............. at the beach. An unusual kite, a huge dragon or something unique. Your bound to attract attention with that. Or build sand sculptures on the beach...... again, that should draw people.

Good luck ....

a reply to: Sublimecraft

I am sure it's a joke and I don't want to be a wet blanket, but even if my wife and son weren't Thai people I would say that's kind of rude. You think they don't have prostitutes where dude lives? Prostitution is all the country is good for? I understand better now why those jokes are offensive. Just wish you will be more considerate in future. This comes from my wife getting upset at these jokes in past and me not really understanding why they were offensive.

sounds to me like your dad didn't kick your ass enough

This dude OP, sounds like an epic troll to me but there are 10's of millions of young men who are just like this...in Japan alone it's such a cultural shift that the government has gotten worried over the low birth rate..in the west it's been branded MGTOW (men going their own way) although MGTOW is supposed to be a voluntary abstention from serious relationships with women.

If you made a list of what you want in a woman and then made a list of what that type of woman might want in a man..you might figure out that most men want a woman of at least average looks..men don't care much about how much she earns or how smart she is. Yet an average looking woman, increasingly has a laundry list of unrealistic crap she expects from a man.

You may as well stick to the video games dude because trying to secure and maintain an average woman's interest is a demanding full time job..and as you have never have a job i don't think it wise to start your working life at the deep end.

I am new here but joined to make sure I gave you some great advice. If you just want to bust your cherry and know what it feels like, hire a pro., but be careful, always have someone that has experience with these women. NEVER, EVER fall in love with a stripper of hooker. It goes no where. No matter if you are rich or poor, women are the same downstairs. The port to pleasure is the same. The important thing to remember is that what it is attached to is all the difference. I am speaking to you real world. If you are after just no strings attached sex, that is easy. Go to bars around 1230 to 1 in morning, be confident, wear bright colored odd clothes and act as if you have been sleighing women for 10 years and they are doing you as favor to get it from you, go for the older women, they have been through it all and will like you for your youth and longevity in bed. They are awesome for sex and they dont care about your car, money or anything as they usually have it themselves.

If you are in a rare minority and what to find a good woman who will help you in life, that takes time. Just screwing and getting drunk gets old, it did for me. Spend time knowing who you really are. This important. If you like winey woman who complains all the time, then go for that. Do you like a strong confidant woman who takes control. These are the things to know. Determine what you want from life and who will help you achieve it. Sex and love is all in the mind, for you and her. She needs to balance you. If you think you are going to change her, you will waste your time.

For longterm relationship, find some by doing what you like. Are you in to computers, find a nerd girl. Are you into stocks and wealth.. you get the idea. Life goes by quick. Go with your gut. If she is pretty and you get jealous and cant trust her, dont even do it. Be patient. Dont rush things, they happen when it is right. You need to remember this. You need to like her family or at least tolerate them if they are close. Holiday are horrible if they dont like you or you dont like them. Remember that unless you and she are virgins at the same time, every girl has been touched and played with. You need to let that go. If she cheats, cut her loose and dump her hard. You wont respect yourself if you let anyone mess with you. If she is more experienced than you, accept it for what it is. Hope this gives you good guidlines. Forget the myths.. good girls are found everywhere, not just church, library, ect.