a reply to: YayMayorBee
Sounds like a good start!
Warning: Antibuse will only work if the person really wants to quit drinking.
I can't tell you how many alcoholics I've talked to who "got smart" and would time their medications to enable them to sneak drinks. They learned how
long the drug stayed in their system and adjusted their dosages to allow for windows of drinking.
Now, even if you watch the person take the medication they may still go make themselves throw it back up when you're not watching.
Until the alcoholic has made a firm commitment to live the rest of their life alcohol-free, they will continue to bargain with themselves and weasel
their way into finding opportunities to drink.
The alcoholic's mind has to be completely re-wired. Alcohol has to no longer be seen as something desirable or offering any kind of positive benefit.
The alcoholic has to learn how to battle their "addictive voice".
This website is usefull
It's a mini-crash course on AVRT (addictive voice recognition therapy). It
can be used in combination with any other recovery efforts. If you aren't sure a few sniper bullets will kill addiction, why not break out the 12g
shotgun and throw everything you have at it? Something will eventually hit its mark this way.
Out of the 30-40 or so people I knew when I entered recovery, I'd sadly say maybe 4-5 of them are still sober 2 years later.
The alcoholic's motivation has to come from within them. The alcoholic has to see and percieve a benefit from being sober and want so badly to be
sober that they're willing to drastically rearrange and change their entire life and live that way for the rest of their life. It's not unlike
deciding to cut off one hand and learning to cope without that hand for the rest of your life.
Far to often alcoholics won't cut off that metaphorical hand, and just "promise" to themselves and other that they'll "just not use that hand" and
fail over and over...relapse after relapse. Each time that happens, it's usually worse in terms of psychological trauma and physical trauma.
is Terry Gorski's AWARE questionaire for relapse risk. It's something I take every few months.
It's not perfect, but it does give some idea if you are making progress. Recovery isn't just about not drinking -- it's also about changing yourself
internally. One's outlook on life has to change, their diet has to change, hobbies change -- hell, even someone's personality can change once they
Another thing you might want to keep in your toolbox is SMART Recovery
. It is compatible with 12-step AA
stuff, but also can be used as an alternative. If there aren't SMART meetings in your area, they have a chatroom and conduct online voice/text
meetings. I've attended some and found them useful. SMART uses CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) that is grounded and based in SCIENCE, after many
years and studies of addiction. It is secular and non-religious, if AA seems to turn you off. It can also be used WITH AA as another weapon though.
It's good you also decided to quit drinking ... you also might want to look into ALANON meetings to be put in touch with people like yourself that
have had to live with and deal with an alcoholic in their lives. There's a lot of crazy and intense emotions around dealing with an alcoholic. There's
anger, resentment, enabling, self-esteem issues...and you can't just bottle that stuff up and focus on the alcoholic in your life getting better. As
they work on themselves, you also need to work on yourself.
Hope that helps...PM me anytime.