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originally posted by: plainsailing
Only good looking people find real love
That doesn't explain why men are often attracted to some of the things they are.
There is an entire industry out there to make women look different than what they do.
The end result is something their ancestors wouldn't recognize as attractive if the attraction is based on reproductive success.
Likewise, abs and a clean shave look nice but I don't see how that guy would improve my life over a bearded heavy programmer who likely has more to offer.
If this evolutionary attraction is being updated, wouldn't that mean that women would be sexually attracted to men who show paternal traits and men be attracted to maternally-aligned women?
I don't know. When I see my friends act "boy crazy" over an actor or drool over some supermodel, I just don't get it.
I'm over here thinking Bill Nye and Mariska Hagartey are like the hottest things around. Or Patrick Stewart. Or Cillian Murphy.
Only good looking people find real love
originally posted by: AbyshaIt almost sounds like you are complaining because you feel that attractive people haven't been compromising for you therefore you will now have to compromise for a less attractive person. It is like you are angry at others for not doing something that you haven't been willing to do, either.
I would go with the person I fell in love with.
I lucked out with a super attractive spouse but I have dated physically unattractive people before because it is not something I value very highly in others.
I'm sorry but I just do not get the preoccupation with conventional physical attractiveness. At first glance, it would be the thing that grabs my attention but it is just one feature among many.
originally posted by: plainsailing
a reply to: Lysergic
Only time I've seen an Ugly Boy/Hot girl (or visa versa) scenario is when the ugly one was effing loaded. Even when I was in school, that's the way it was. If their parents were loaded then suddenly they'd look right past it!
originally posted by: plainsailing
originally posted by: AbyshaIt almost sounds like you are complaining because you feel that attractive people haven't been compromising for you therefore you will now have to compromise for a less attractive person. It is like you are angry at others for not doing something that you haven't been willing to do, either.
I've been rejected by many attractive people but to be honest, it hasn't made me angry. And I'm certainly not complaining. I'm simply pointing out what too me appears to be an obvious characteristic of human attraction, that many people subconsciously choose to live in denial over; because the reality appears bleak. If I was angry I'd be on here blaming people.
I would go with the person I fell in love with.
Aww, bless your little cotton socks! Conveniently skirting around the fact that if you met an ugly person with a great personality, and a good looking person with THE SAME personality (I shouldn't have to tell you this is a hypothetical scenario), the former wouldn't even get a look in.
You can pretend you're a 'superior being' immune too their evolutionary instincts all you like but the fact is, everyone feels a little disappointed when their date isn't attractive. And frankly anyone who says they don't notice such things is a twee person, lying too themselves.
I lucked out with a super attractive spouse but I have dated physically unattractive people before because it is not something I value very highly in others.
Sure, you keep telling yourself that!
I'm sorry but I just do not get the preoccupation with conventional physical attractiveness. At first glance, it would be the thing that grabs my attention but it is just one feature among many.
Well I know looks are only a small part but in your anger at me revealing an inconvenient truth about the nature of attraction, which you would rather deny, you have completely missed that.
originally posted by: Bennyzilla
a reply to: Abysha
Yeah but you said it yourself...you still married an attractive man. You didn't "luck out", you chose that.
At the end of the day all the traditional biologically attractive traits still won you over in at least some way.