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originally posted by: Bovah2
a reply to: saiyankev
I'd hit it and quit it.
Are y'all on the same maturity level?
originally posted by: luciddream
Just casual relationship? I think thats ok. If its too deep i think some factors may come about.
People have different fetish i guess.. i cant date anyone older than me.. even by a year... tried it, no "excitement".
Its psychological, thats how we are wired.
originally posted by: diggindirt
a reply to: saiyankev
My Beloved is 16 years my senior. We've been together for over 30 years, married for nearly 25 of those years. We've never had age-difference problems. Oh, sure, we endured the "trophy wife" and "mid-life crisis" jabs but we always just chuckled at them. Just be honest and open with each other and enjoy the journey.
originally posted by: wshadow1
It depends on what you are looking for. It also depends on what she is looking for.
I was in a relationship with a woman 18 years older than me for almost 10 years. The one thing that we battled with was her fear that I would find someone younger. It was bad enough that she completely isolated me from my friends and tried to isolate me from my family.
There were other issues that I won't go into here, but suffice it to say that there were mental and medical issues that ended in her death.
I loved her, but I feel like I wasted those 10 years. However, without that experience I wouldn't be the man that I am today.
I would say have fun. Just remember that she is always going to be 14 years older than you.
of course, the best looking and be the worse person and vice versa, which is 1 reason I like to get to know someone before dating
originally posted by: Spider879
Emotional maturity is most important than actual age, I have dated younger and older than me some older women are just cray cray while some younger ones are on the ball, also drop dead gorgeous can be ugly on the inside not saying looks aren't important but I can handle a few flaws.
being that old doesn't seem as bad as 25/39 but 26/40... maybe weird, numbers are weird but hey.. if she's as awesome as this age and older... I'll be totally fine
originally posted by: Bluntone22
Long term? Run like the wind.
Short term? Have some fun.
Just imagine in 30 years you'll be 55 and she will be 64.