posted on Sep, 6 2015 @ 03:58 PM
I do not believe in soliciting charity through guilt. Nor do I believe people should be shamed or attacked for not giving it. That doesn't mean I
don't give it personally. It simply means I don't feel those in need or anyone else is served by shaming or guilt. Encouraging the cultivation of
sensitivity and empathy perhaps, through exposure and awareness, yes. But not judgment, guilt, or shaming.
So I ask the following not to imply that you are or should feel guilty, but simply as a point of logic and curiosity.
If you truly believe you have no reason to feel guilty, then why do you feel they are placing guilt upon you, and attendant anger in response to
that? If you are secure in the knowledge that you have no reason to feel guilt, then you shouldn't feel guilty or angry about said guilt. No?
Are you angry at the lack of change in the situation? That I can understand. It angers (or at least saddens) me, too. Because I do believe as a
society we can do more collectively than we are. Besides, it sounds like you have taken some steps in the past to try and change the situation. Is it
then just the reality of the ineffectual impact of those steps that angers you? That I can also understand. It's a frustrating realization that
sometimes no matter how much you want to or try to help others, your efforts seem in vain. Or that the institutions which could help, don't.
As for what you should do or feel about it yourself... that isn't for me to judge or dictate to you, or anyone else.
I will say that personally, I help when I can. I feel sad when I can't. I feel sad when I do and it doesn't help much. I do feel bad if I acquire
something for myself that I don't need that could have helped someone else more, and resolve to do more in the future when I can. I would like to
believe I can do that. And I hope for things to improve. I don't judge those who don't give, or those who do by how much or how often, because
I'm not perfect either.
We're all human. We're not perfect, selfless beings, any of us. Just do whatever you need to in order to be at peace with yourself by your own
standards. Would I encourage a continual cultivation of greater empathy and selflessness too over time? Personally, I find it's a good thing, yes. But
I will not condemn or shame those who feel differently.
My two cents.