posted on Sep, 5 2015 @ 12:09 PM
I only have two pieces of advice, as someone who has never enjoyed arguments on the internet.
1) If this issue is predicated on the notion that your account carries with it some sort of reputation, and you feel it difficult to have views which
conflict with it taken at face value, then while it might be difficult initially, I guess my humble suggestion would be to take pains to clarify
yourself and explain why people's misconceptions about you are erroneous. Over time, said reputation will change to become more consistent with your
current and evolving opinions.
If said reputation was artificially constructed intentionally and now you wish to be rid of it... perhaps that's another story. But still I would
simply suggest telling people the truth about it. "I presented myself as something I wasn't necessarily. I regret it now and it has had repercussions.
I am no longer doing so however, and hence forth will simply be myself." Now maybe I just don't understand why anyone would create a digital persona
not consistent with their actual personage to begin with, and that's why this seems so simple to me. If so, please accept my apologies and sympathies,
because I'm probably just not quite capable of relating fully.
2) Never engage in protracted internet debates. If on the rare occasion you find someone fully transparent, direct, emotionally and intellectually
honest, and uniformly good intentioned to debate with, maybe then. But otherwise, generally speaking, no one ever has their mind changed about
anything online in my experience. Not through arguments, at least. Through learning, the sharing of information, and the answering of questions, yes.
But online arguments simply seem to trigger this strange intractability and intransigence that makes changing one's mind seemingly impossible. I have
sworn off ever doing so for more than a handful of posts anymore, and believe me... it lowers the stress considerably.
Simply let yourself say, "I don't care if they believe me/agree with me/understand where I'm coming from." Once you've made a clear, well intentioned
effort to express yourself, simply say you respect their differing opinion and move on. It also helps to cultivate a constant internal reminder that,
"I can be wrong." Tame the ego. Humble the certitude.
That's all I've got. I hope it helps for what it's worth. Just my two cents, and as always, feel free to disagree.