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It is a big problem for adult men, but adult men have to keep up the manly thing and not talk about their feelings until they do something stupid.
originally posted by: Itisnowagain
It is a big problem for adult men, but adult men have to keep up the manly thing and not talk about their feelings until they do something stupid.
So who is to blame for the suicide? The bully or the one who is too manly to speak out?
originally posted by: Revolution9
They guys would not tell anyone what they were going through. I'm not like that. I am open all the time and blab my mouth off and expose myself. I don't really worry too much what anyone thinks about me these days. It is their problem, not mine, lol.
originally posted by: Itisnowagain
originally posted by: Revolution9
They guys would not tell anyone what they were going through. I'm not like that. I am open all the time and blab my mouth off and expose myself. I don't really worry too much what anyone thinks about me these days. It is their problem, not mine, lol.
It is not your problem - it sounds like not working for you is what you want! Result!
But if you want to work then it is your problem.
Did you ever write a letter to the person who could help you? Maybe HR? Or did you just blab your mouth off with no real direction? Who did you expose yourself to?
Speaking to the right people can get results but speaking to the wrong people will just make more mess.
originally posted by: Shiloh7
a reply to: Revolution9
" and your judgment already is starting to do my brain in, lol. Hence why it is best that you do not spend 8 hours a day locked in a room with me.
it was not my doing nor my will.
After too much of that # I quit for good. Their behaviour has cost the tax payer rather a lot of cash these last 11 years! It is my revenge. I always have the last laugh, I insist upon it.
They starved me at one time for it until they saw how DEADLY serious I was".
As you can see I have read through your posts and just picked out examples of why I thoroughly disagree with your attitude. I don't think you are the average victim of bullying. Many of them sadly commit suicide or have no fight left in them and need years of therapy to rebuild their confidence - but you are proud you have survived and taken revenge.
From the above I see you accept no responsibility for your own actions and infer you could be violent to others yourself.
You have terrific determination to make your point - even to the boast of nearly starving yourself. Your no weakling, just determined to get your own way. In fact you show an ability to survive and revel sneering at people who work through difficult circumstances because they can't afford not to. (which I am not saying is right, their manager should deal with this sort of problem). From what you have written you appear passively aggressive towards others and perhaps its that which is at the root of your experiences.
I agree with you on the principle of bullying completely and appreciate fully the sentiments you express but as a therapist perhaps you haven't finished processing your experiences. No offence intended towards you just replying back to you. You will also notice I haven't criticised or judged you on being unable to work etc.
originally posted by: Itisnowagain
a reply to: Revolution9
When you were at work before you quit, did you ever write a letter to the person who could help you? Maybe HR? Or did you just blab your mouth off with no real direction? Who did you expose yourself to?
Gotta agree with this. If you get on with your co workers, it becomes less like work more like hanging out with friends, my favourite job was badly paid, but I got on with my work mates so well, it just became fun not work
originally posted by: alienjuggalo
a reply to: Look2theSacredHeart
Find a new job.
originally posted by: berenike
a reply to: Revolution9
Thanks
I'm fine - out of it all now after a stroke of good fortune.
I could get some fun out of my last job. The boss and I shared a similar sense of humour. One day, though, I'd been very badly upset and was sitting at my desk absolutely seething. Then I heard a shriek from outside.
The boss had fallen into the pond Not as far as I would have liked, but it cheered me up and got me through the rest of the day.
Some times you just have to make the most of the good stuff.
originally posted by: woodwardjnr
Gotta agree with this. If you get on with your co workers, it becomes less like work more like hanging out with friends, my favourite job was badly paid, but I got on with my work mates so well, it just became fun not work
originally posted by: alienjuggalo
a reply to: Look2theSacredHeart
Find a new job.
HR is human resource department - did you go and speak to your employer? Your boss? Did you speak to anyone at your work place (not co-workers) in authority?
originally posted by: Revolution9
I don't even know what HR is?
originally posted by: woodwardjnr
a reply to: Revolution9 recurrent illness has kept me from working recently, but I'm sure there is bullying in the workforce. Actually after I left the job where I enjoyed working with my colleagues I went to a place that made me feel like an outsider. It was almost the perfect job, but I was kind of ostracised from my first day. I didn't want to get involved in their antics, I didn't want to drink in the pub for my lunch every day like they all did. So I pretty much kept to myself. I did complain to the hr department, but only on the day before I left after finding a new job.