Your Feelings, and Why They do not Matter.

Yes, I see, your feelings don't matter if you want them to not matter.

a reply to: TzarChasm

And you believe your emotions should answer to your will as your body does?

Is this an interview? I thought we were not making each other the topic of conversation.

a reply to: InTheLight

Yes, I see, your feelings don't matter if you want them to not matter.

You see what you want to see, not much else.

originally posted by: LesMisanthrope
a reply to: TzarChasm

And you believe your emotions should answer to your will as your body does?

Is this an interview? I thought we were not making each other the topic of conversation.

Yes, as the author of this thread, we must draw you out. You are the creator of this thread, so we must explore further. Apprehensive? (Is that a feeling? Never mind it does not matter).

a reply to: InTheLight

Yes, as the author of this thread, we must draw you out. You are the creator of this thread, so we must explore further. Apprehensive? (Is that a feeling? Never mind it does not matter).

It would take much more than that to make me anxious, friend. Now a better question might be to see if I feel you are annoying, or if you are objectively being annoying. We can gather the evidence and decide by those means.

originally posted by: LesMisanthrope
a reply to: InTheLight

Yes, as the author of this thread, we must draw you out. You are the creator of this thread, so we must explore further. Apprehensive? (Is that a feeling? Never mind it does not matter).

It would take much more than that to make me anxious, friend. Now a better question might be to see if I feel you are annoying, or if you are objectively being annoying. We can gather the evidence and decide by those means.

Are you feeling?

a reply to: InTheLight

Are you feeling?

I expressed that I do feel, yes. Never said the opposite. The question is does what I feel matter? To you my feelings don't seem to matter at all, given your hostility. I expected as much. But do my feelings matter to me? It doesn't matter, for they've already passed.

originally posted by: LesMisanthrope
a reply to: InTheLight

Are you feeling?

I expressed that I do feel, yes. Never said the opposite. The question is does what I feel matter? To you my feelings don't seem to matter at all, given your hostility. I expected as much. But do my feelings matter to me? It doesn't matter, for they've already passed.

Yes, your feelings matter to us all here, why do you think we are bothering to post and connect with you?

I FEEL tired
Good night folks

originally posted by: artistpoet
I FEEL tired
Good night folks

Me too, goodnight gracey.

a reply to: InTheLight

Yes, your feelings matter to us all here, why do you think we are bothering to post and connect with you?

And why is that?

originally posted by: LesMisanthrope
a reply to: InTheLight

Yes, your feelings matter to us all here, why do you think we are bothering to post and connect with you?

And why is that?

Why do we feel for you? Is that what you are asking?

a reply to: InTheLight

Why do my feelings matter to you?

My Father died this year
My Mother FEELS a great loss and is sad
Does that matter to me
Of course it does
Why because she loved him and I love them both
So I FEEL the need to comfort her

I FELT like writing this to try open up your eyes
How we FEEL about the world and people matter as it initiates our actions
IE What we do with our feelings

originally posted by: LesMisanthrope
a reply to: InTheLight

Why do my feelings matter to you?

Why do your or others' feelings not matter to you or to them? Is the question, is it not?

originally posted by: LesMisanthrope
a reply to: InTheLight

Why do my feelings matter to you?

We would have to be pretty terrible people if we didn't care simply because you're not us. Empathy and compassion can be pretty rewarding if you put forth the effort to act on them. I should probably clarify that the reward is more worthwhile if everyone benefits from it, hence "community spirit". Feeling good by yourself is nice, but feeling good with other people who feel good is better.

a reply to: TzarChasm

Because it feels good, correct? Your reward is more good feelings?

Then with whoms feelings are you really concerned with?

a reply to: artistpoet

I'm sorry for your family's loss, friend.

a reply to: InTheLight

Why do your or others' feelings not matter to you or to them? Is the question, is it not?

I wrote a thread about it. If you need help finding it, let me know.

So I can give an example that kinda proves, but ultimately disproves OPs point.

In death, we mourn for OUR loss. We often project our feelings onto the deceased, and forget that he no longer suffers, they are own concerns being dealt with.

This is a very clear case where the feelings we express for another are entirely our own, and not truly concerned for the well-being of the individual. He or she is gone, there is no coming back, no pain for this individual, the pain is for the surviving.

I don't take this to be the same when we express feelings for those still around. It depends. There can certainly be a disconnect between how we perceive another individual, and feel about their situation, and how the individual feels about their own situation. When this discrepancy is large enough, it becomes obvious to outside parties that the person expressing feelings is ultimately dealing with their own issues, projected onto the other individual.

When there is a connection between the person expressing feelings, and the person receiving them, I don't think this is about the person expressing feelings. That seems to be a short-sighted view. It's about helping in some form. There's still this need to have your feelings validated, but that's still besides the point.