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originally posted by: ketsuko
The thing about anger is to understand what it is that makes you angry and why. If you go through life without that knowledge than you are a mass of switches just waiting to be flipped by anyone and everyone.
Not to mention anyone in sports can tell you that you actually do worse when you are angry. You need a high degree of focused concentration in order to excel at any sport. Using a sport in order to take out your anger and aggression doesn't make you a good competitor because you are not in control, your emotions are.
originally posted by: The Vagabond
There is nothing inherently feminine about communication. In fact wouldn't it be unmanly if someone couldn't look you in the eye and say excuse me please step aside, and instead felt they had to squeeze or push past you? Insecure people take a purely physical option that shortens their interaction with others- they'd rather have you pissed off while they're walking away and gamble that you won't chase them, instead of have you size them up and decide whether or not to cooperate.
And there is nothing inherently masculine about violence. Men tend to shoot each other. They like reducing violence to a click of their finger. When a woman does get violent, she's more likely than a man to use something cruel and personal like a knife.
originally posted by: The Vagabond
a reply to: Bluesma
There is no obligation to be a sedentary button pusher in our culture. That's a choice people make,
and there are plenty of outs from that without obsessing over one's readiness for yesterday's challenges. One could be insecure about his inability to joust on horseback just as easily- but if he wastes his life covering that base he's gonna come out with much greater insecurities when he realizes just how small and unimportant the hill he chose to become king of really is.
I get that the world dwarfs us all and makes us entertain ideas about what it might take to give us ultimate security but there is no such thing. Our lives are not what they are because of some cultural wrong turn- that is just a matter of flavor. Suppose we had a culture that embraces violent affirmations of our abilities- it wouldn't level the playing field.
We talked about cops earlier- Cops are some of the most prepared for violence people on our streets. It doesn't give them cool confidence- it makes them panic fire until they are out of ammo at unarmed men. They might be tough but they've entered a melee that's much bigger than any one man and it leaves them scared and insecure and vicious.