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Doesn't your statement that you often feel better than others imply that you are looking down on others?
originally posted by: bb23108
Doesn't your statement that you often feel better than others imply that you are looking down on others?
If someone feels superior to others it usually means they feel they are above them, so they must be also looking down on them.
Why do you feel better than others? There is inevitably skills that one can do better than some others, but there is almost certainly others that can do those same skills better. So why feel better (or worse) than others?
originally posted by: theMediator
Nah, I don't believe that feeling better automatically makes us look down on others. For example : A teacher to his pupil.
What I was actually getting at was that such feelings that I am better than others are simply ways of trying to feel good about myself in some separative way. Such feelings are very shallow and meaningless to me because they reinforce a deluded sense of being separate, or out of relationship with others - in other words, Narcissus at the pond.
if a teacher actually feels better than his pupil in some kind of superior, egoic, self-glorifying manner, then they are not the best of teachers, in my opinion.
At heart, everyone values relationship, because it is our native actual condition here.
The best way to teach someone is to not assume one is somehow a better person than another, but to always be in relationship with them.
Men are More Narcissistic than Women, Psychologists Say
originally posted by: Astyanax
No, they are not. If you genuinely feel you're better than someone at something, you're either right or delusive. If you tell others (and yourself) that you're better than others, then you probably aren't. There's a big difference.
originally posted by: Astyanax
People trying to feel good about themselves are to be encouraged and praised, because they are trying to maintain a positive outlook, sometimes under very trying conditions. Their feelings are the opposite of 'shallow and meaningless'; they are in fact very deep, and are strongly motivating.
originally posted by: Astyanax
And we all need to acknowledge our separateness from others at times. A good healthy ego is invaluable for a satisfactory and successful life.
originally posted by: Astyanax
Just as everyone values the self, because in the end that is all we have and are.
originally posted by: Astyanax
If a teacher does not believe he is better at his subject than his pupil, whence comes his authority to teach? Where does he obtain the necessary conviction to believe that he is teaching well? And why should the pupil listen to him?
originally posted by: Astyanax
Are you a teacher?
I am talking about the difference between feeling superior to others (and therefore separate) - not whether someone is actually better at doing something than me.
The ego is not an entity. It is an activity of contracting in order to feel a separate sense of self - it is out of relationship, divorced from the actual reality we all exist together in - just like Narcissus staring at the pond rather than loving Echo.
originally posted by: Astyanax
The ego is not an entity?
originally posted by: Astyanax
a reply to: bb23108
Thanks. I don't buy it. As for 'ego', it's just another word meaning 'I' or 'me'. If you wish to convince me that the self does not exist as a psychological entity, you'll be convincing a nonexistent entitiy. Why are you wasting your time?
originally posted by: Astyanax
a reply to: bb23108
As for 'ego', it's just another word meaning 'I' or 'me'. If you wish to convince me that the self does not exist as a psychological entity, you'll be convincing a nonexistent entity.