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originally posted by: CharlieSpeirs
& anyone who claims they can control their emotions at all times must be Buddha reaching Nirvana.
originally posted by: ScientificRailgun
We all live in our own brains. Words carry meaning, but not emotion. The emotion is a result of your own brain chemistry. No word, or combination of words can forcibly illicit an emotional response in a person. It's all subjective. That said, there are societal pressures that constantly remind people they SHOULD be offended if someone makes a rape joke, or jew joke, or any other number of crude things. But the joke itself carries no emotion. You determine the feeling you get from someone's word, either consciously or subconsciously.
originally posted by: ausername
Depends entirely on the individual, and their programming. For some people being offended is not a personal choice, it is a mandatory collective (group) response.
The only choice is for people who have been personally offended. In that case, you can choose to be, or not.
When your collective group, culture, religion, etc has been offended whether you are or not, is not a matter of choice.
How people react to being offended is also similarly dynamic.
originally posted by: ScepticScot
a reply to: Jamie1
People have every right to be offended by cartoons, emails or comments by politicians. They can also want people to change their behaviour as much as they want.
However that does not mean anyone else has agree with them or even be concerned that they are offended.
originally posted by: xavi1000
Members of the NYPD did not kill anyone.
Students at Smith College did not kill anyone.
Islamic radicals______________________.
It's partly that, I believe. There's a deeper level still, however, and that is the intent of the speaker. I'm a firm believer that empathy is a real thing. It's a combination of our subconscious ability to determine the emotional state of another person based on their facial expressions, body language, speech patterns, and so forth. Therefore, it's possible to SURMISE, but not know exactly, what emotion a speaker INTENDS to illicit in you which their words. I can speak to you, for instance, in way that would tell you that I 95% intend to offend you. Some people react to that by actually becoming offended, but it is their own internal process that caused the offense. It's a quick succession of "The person wants to offend me, I don't like that. I'll be offended." thoughts, whether conscious or not.
originally posted by: Jamie1
originally posted by: ScientificRailgun
We all live in our own brains. Words carry meaning, but not emotion. The emotion is a result of your own brain chemistry. No word, or combination of words can forcibly illicit an emotional response in a person. It's all subjective. That said, there are societal pressures that constantly remind people they SHOULD be offended if someone makes a rape joke, or jew joke, or any other number of crude things. But the joke itself carries no emotion. You determine the feeling you get from someone's word, either consciously or subconsciously.
Interesting. I agree.
Now dig deeper. What are "societal pressures?" Are they beliefs you have about how other people will judge you, or how you'll be valued, based on how you think you're *expected* to respond?
originally posted by: TheArrow
Being offended is not a choice, it is a passive response to stimuli.
Taking offense is a choice, it is an active response to stimuli.
originally posted by: Jamie1
originally posted by: ausername
Depends entirely on the individual, and their programming. For some people being offended is not a personal choice, it is a mandatory collective (group) response.
The only choice is for people who have been personally offended. In that case, you can choose to be, or not.
When your collective group, culture, religion, etc has been offended whether you are or not, is not a matter of choice.
How people react to being offended is also similarly dynamic.
How does the group determine whether they're supposed to be offended or not? Isn't that a collective group choice based on what the group chooses to believe?
Do you believe being offended is a personal choice based on what you choose to believe?
So here's the question:
Do you believe being offended is a personal choice based on what you choose to believe?
And if so, what justification is there for wanting people change their behaviors so that you don't upset yourself with your own beliefs?