a reply to: SearchLightsInc
I'm sorry you had a tough time. There is a problem though (not you specifically), if the woman thinks the guy is 'cute' then what he's doing is
confident, forward, engaging and perhaps enticing. But if the woman thinks the guys is ugly, he's instantly a creep, perv, pig etc etc.
As cut and dry as you wish the world could be that a guy 'never looks there', sadly you can't control the eye's of other people. They do what they
do. Trust me, I know. Everywhere I go I get stared at, no matter the sex or the age. I always hear things like 'whats wrong with that guy in a
wheelchair daddy?' and 'why does his legs not work mommy?'. It makes me very uncomfortable, but I just have to accept that humans are just made that
way. As a species we look around and think or comment on what we see. I always get asked by adults 'why are you in a wheelchair?' as if they have
known me all my life. I put up with it though and tell them. Your lucky people don't ask you 'tell me more about your boobs?' because that would not
go down well.
We also have lots of little thoughts that come sometimes be disturbing, we think things that often make us all hypocrites no matter how hard we try
and deny it.
"Wow, her smile, her lips are amazing, I wan't to kiss them"
"Urgh, she's so ugly but she'll do in a pinch"
"This guy looks like he's a druggie, please don't talk to me"
"OMG, I have to hold my breath passing this fattie"
"Please don't blow me up"
"What is that thing growing on his neck, it's disgusting"
But, out loud - in the active world we project a different reality that belies our deepest thoughts. While publicly, I try and treat everybody fairly
and wan't a world of peace and love. I can't deny sometimes having these thoughts, for brief seconds, I scold myself for doing it, and know it was a
bad thought. But we still have them, deep seated mannerisms that make us all quite similar, no matter how evolved we think we are there is still much
more to go.
edit on 24-11-2014 by Qumulys because: (no reason given)