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originally posted by: Yeahkeepwatchingme
I'm 25 and I thought the same thing for years. I couldn't find a woman who I connected with. Most people our age laugh through life and have no concept that the world around them is screwed. I believe in being a gentleman too and that's often caused people to accuse me of having an ulterior motive when please and thankyou among other forms of real life etiquette are second nature to me (I was raised in a very old school family, attended etiquette lessons, private tudors and the like for years).
It's very difficult and one day you will meet someone who you'll click with. It took me 24 years and I had given up at that point. Life has ways of surprising people and my advice is to broaden your horizons, maybe go to places you've never been to. Join a dating site or a club.
Never give up because there's a match for everybody
originally posted by: U4ea82
a reply to: threeeyesopen
Have you tried an online dating site that matches by compatibility? Or speed dating? I know those probably don't sound like particularly fun activities but it would help get you in touch with like-minded people without wasting your time on those you feel you wouldn't have a connection with.
originally posted by: Jomina
They're out there. I am married to one.
She's 25 and is better than any of the three previous wives I have had combined. She's wonderful.
Don't give up. Give up looking. The right one will come along when it's time for you to have her. Always does.
Most of us just don't have that patience, and get together with who we THINK is right, but deep down we know is wrong.
originally posted by: skunkape23
If you are looking for another person to make you feel fulfilled you are likely doomed to fail. Take care of your own business. Become self reliant. The koochie-koo will follow.
originally posted by: U4ea82
a reply to: threeeyesopen
Lol. I get what you're saying, I really do.
I thought I'd heard of a site that doesn't even show you profile pictures until you've filled out the compatibility profile and it makes matches for you. I just can't remember the name of it. I see the dilemma though. I can't say I've been in your shoes...I've been with my husband since I was 16. Obviously we didn't marry that early but, you get what I mean. I've never really been out there in the dating pool as an adult, so I guess I'm lucky in that respect.
Have you tried having friends set you up with people they think you'd mesh well with?
originally posted by: threeeyesopen
originally posted by: U4ea82
a reply to: threeeyesopen
Lol. I get what you're saying, I really do.
I thought I'd heard of a site that doesn't even show you profile pictures until you've filled out the compatibility profile and it makes matches for you. I just can't remember the name of it. I see the dilemma though. I can't say I've been in your shoes...I've been with my husband since I was 16. Obviously we didn't marry that early but, you get what I mean. I've never really been out there in the dating pool as an adult, so I guess I'm lucky in that respect.
Have you tried having friends set you up with people they think you'd mesh well with?
I believe I've heard of that site as well, it was a passing fad..honestly I only have one person I would consider a friend because I've known him for years (since my childhood) and we live far apart. That's not to say I haven't had more friends but they were more like "friends" when the money was flowing and quickly scampered off when it was gone, women also, leaving me to not exactly have much interest in having "friends" because I know my only value to the majority of others is what they can get from me