Why do so many couple chose to have babies?

droid56
Having babies results in some things.

More money spent on children.
Conversation going way lower because of children talk.
Children born with disabilities that cause great stress.

So why do so many couples have children?

Maternal and paternal instinct.
Societal and family pressure.
Many people are stupid.

So why do so many couples chose to have babies.

DId you not take biology in school?

The entire purpose of any living organism is to live long enough to create off spring. As a human, you are only successful once your off spring procreate, since having offspring as a human is such a long, drawn out endeavor.

This thread has given me some insight into our membership in particular, and humanity on the whole.

The #1 reason given to not have children is money. LOL....from a forum that complains about the shackles of their corporate overlords. I guess the thought of not having enough shackle is all it takes to keep folks from reproducing.

THere was a study posted yesterday discussing how you will be happier if you spend on experience instead of material. Having a child is an experience. Choosing not to because of money is materialistic.

lotusfoot
They think they are going to have a clone of themselves that grows up perfect but it never happens like that. People are psycopaths, they don't realize the consequences. Id never be selfish enough to bring a child into this world. Im sure it would have a blast working all of the time to pay rent, sounds like fun. no thanks

Then you absolutely positively should not have even one child.

I taught child development for many years in colleges. Parents who really don't want to parent screw up kids so bad they would have been better off not to be born.


Who should have children then? People who want them and are willing to do their best. ALL parents screw up at one time or another. The ones who turn out great kids realize when they screw up and try hard not to repeat mistakes, and most importantly ask forgiveness of the child immediately.

I teach parenting classes and people can grow healthy kids who are a joy to have around. For me, as a "young old" I couldn't imagine life having the meaning it does for me now without my children and grandchildren. I am currently, old, overweight, and have lost my good looks but my children love me deeply and my grandchildren squeal with delight when I see them (which is often 2 or more times a week). I am loved and I love.
I am loved for who I am inside because the outer shell has become not fun to look at (although I try with makeup and dress well) but my children and grandchildren love me deeply regardless.
I have people to love and having people to love keeps me "chipper" (as some of my friends say), keeps my uber old Mom an "energizer bunny" because we love.

If you don't have it in you to love the unlovely, to wipe poop off a loved one even though it is gross, to clean up vomit and not complain to the person who did it because you love them and know they couldn't help it - (be they infant or sick spouse/significant other or parent) - if you don't have it in you to share your money, possessions, and space -
then for your sake and the sake of humanity
please don't have children, you will be happier and so will the rest of the world.

reply to post by Pajamathief


Overpopulation is a myth.

I have posted all the stats in other threads and have no inclination to repeat them here, look them up yourselves if you want to challenge me, that is better anyway because it will stick with you and you'll know and believe the sources.

The truth is all first world countries have a negative birth rate, more people dying than being born

Countries like Mexico that are not quite as underdeveloped as say Uganda are barely, .05% above replacement rate, with the replacement rate close to falling below the line.

Countries with high replacement rates (2.5 children per fertile female), also have extremely high mortality (death) rates, bringing their actual rates closer to barely above replacement.

World population is on the brink of decline.

Japan has reached the death knell of the Japanese people, they will become extinct as an ethnic group. Japanese prefer to interact with "porn type" avatars for sexual release (masturbation) to the point where they either can't function with real people or have no desire to function with real people. Their society also is misogynistic, leaving women 2 choices, be free as a working woman, or be stuck in a house giving everything all the time to excess to your children (and ignore your husbands extramarital or "porn" activities). Men are so conditioned to work 12-14 hours a day that if they marry they never see their families or get to enjoy family life, so why do it and give up all your money.

But again.

Don't have children if you personally don't want them!!! You will do the world a favor. However, don't try to convince others not to have children or (see last post, page one).

because they think that having kids will reunite them more?

Hmm well I never chose to have kids nor my wife ( common law 8 years might as well be married ) it was more of an opps oh crap twice 7 years of fooling around with the same person something was bound to happen . Love my kids they are great don't know why I didn't want any before . No they are not that much expensive to have well maybe the first two years diapers and formula .

We have kids because it was the right thing for us to do not everything is planned who knows you might even have yourself an opps crap moment too .

whats the road you going to take in that situation happens a lot .
ETA
Seeing my daughters face for the first time put a different perspective on my life as she came out of my wife was a very powerful thing to me and to most people , but then some people are pieces of that bail out at any form of responsibility who cannot even love themselves let alone another person and some people do it for their gain .

In every generation, there are some individuals who simply shouldn't reproduce.

Not judging them, but they are a genetic cul-de-sac.

It's always been that way; in every age cohort, there's a certain number on the fringe who refuse to compete for mates, or who refuse to raise young. Some of them are beta males. Others may intuit that they are sterile or have other biological issues. And some people have a defective "meme," that makes them unfit parents, or otherwise unable to love.

I believe it is instinct, telling them they will be happier, "being the end of the line."

Trust your instinct. It is telling you something for a reason.