Why I hate valentines day

DeadSeraph
reply to post by StarlightNine

 

I'm glad you were able to relate to the real message I was trying to convey. Cheers!

Indeed. Well, I was just ranting about this very thing on one of the threads over at Relationships Forum last week. I feel the pain.

Cheers!

reply to post by DeadSeraph

YOU are on the hook, and it's YOUR balls if you don't one up your lady's best friends boyfriend. You'll be hearing about it for MONTHS if not YEARS if Joe Schmuck bought your lady's girlfriend a yacht for valentines day. But what do you get? Physical gratification if you're lucky.

Funny you mention this, my husband and I noticed on these annoying Valentines commercials this year they kept saying 'Oh, you're gonna make them jealous' talking about the co-workers/friends

There's a commercial advertising rings from $2999-$9999 from a jewelry store, like your average Joe Blow could run out there and drop that kind of money *sigh*

We are anxious for this weekend to be over
But we don't discriminate, we don't really do any holiday. LOL
It's just another day for us and a $$money$$ day for the retailers

unb3k44n7
What is this Valentines Day people speak of and what day is it on

edit on 2/13/2014 by unb3k44n7 because: (no reason given)

Grrrr you beat me to it , what is this sorcery!!!!

reply to post by TheGreazel


Its a rare occurrence when the moon is pink and heartshaped. Wallets start too bleed and you can hear women howl. If another victim fails to comply to that days demands be aware of flying roses.

Meh.

Count me as a female who could care less for this Valentine's Day thing.

Hubby and I do special lovey things for each other throughout the year, we certainly don't need a specific day designated by the consumer market to tell us that we need to do so.

Pfft.
Bah humbug.




... and besides, being the Irish lassy that I am, St. Paddy's Day is more my kind of "holiday" celibration

DeadSeraph
reply to post by unb3k44n7

 

I think poetry is generally better left to poets. I'm also unsure why so many people are under the impression that poetry has to rhyme. That's all I'll say about it.

I know they're not supposed to rhyme... Us poets do know the rules.

www.abovetopsecret.com...

I hate it as well.
No doubt some insensitive asshole will text me a pic of " look what he got me" and piss me off or cause me to break down crying. I signed my final divorce papers this week. It sucks. I hate those every kiss begins with k commercials.

reply to post by snarky412


Thsts the commercial I'm talking about the k jewellers. That $9000 ring got texted to me last week. Look what he got me!!

reply to post by DeadSeraph


Being single myself, I can only guess about this so called holiday. I think,that it for those that don't normally think of doing those little things for their significant other that this holiday was made for. Kinda like a 'hey you! Yes you. Get up off the couch and go get the little lady some flowers and candy to show her you think about her!

Could be wrong, I don't get flowers or candy or anything since I'm single. And I'm okay with that. This was my choice in life. Instead of romance I have peace. I'll take that any day. Also I think that it should not be about what a man can give his lady. i think it should cut both ways. Why can't the guy have a prepaid massage at a pros place? Why can't the woman take say him to the movies and he takes her to dinner? Why can't she give him, oh I don't know, some small gift he has been wanting?In this day and age would it be so unusual?

As far as the commercialism of it,well don't they do the same thing with EVERY holiday? If they can make money off of it they will. I just say, do what your comfortable with and let the rest go. Any time you feel you MUST do this or that,it really loses its meaning doesn't it? Thats my 2 cents anyway.

I agree that this day is a bit of a nightmare if you are in a relationship, but, being single, it passes me by.

Completely indifferent.

I hate valentines day because it reminds me that millions of roses are killed each year for our own pleasure.

Not to mention all the cows that have been molested to provide the milk for the chocolates, like the ones that come in those sickening heart shaped boxes.

And then there's the alarmingly sharp decline in grammar. "I wuv U?" why does everybody turn into a corny teenager on February 14th?

reply to post by DeadSeraph

When you are single (or even worse, single and getting over someone or recently broken up with someone you cared about) it is a terrible holiday. Every commercial makes you cringe. Every little pink heart shaped piece of merchandise makes you want to puke. It's horrendous, it's exclusionary, and it's insensitive.

I agree; when being single is fresh it can seem like a raw wound has been opened, in seeing love expressed all around you, special "couples only" events and the emphasis not only on Valentine's Day but the store displays in weeks preceding. Much like for the couple who has just lost a child or baby feels when seeing happy families everywhere and all the pampers and toy commercials on TV, events that are for families only etc.

I don't hate Valentine's Day. But I appreciate every point of your very well-written rant. We believe the same around here, it's about expressing love EVERY day and not being dutiful for one. I hear you on clerks assuming someone "did something wrong" because they buy flowers any OTHER day of the year! lol

Never will be on board with commercialism; you should see the looks we get when replying to what we gave each other for Christmas. *grin* We don't do presents then either, except for the less fortunate. And I wouldn't have it any other way.

Ive got my boyfriend a starwars dressing gown and ive got moroccan pork stew in the slow cooker. Some girlfriends make an effort.

Its nice to have a special day to make time for your partner especially if you've got children like me as you don't always make time.

And people whos parents have died dont moan about mothers day and fathers day and its the same thing.

I watch other couples over the years And watch how pissed their girlfriends get when they didn't get anything on the day they are entitled to something , rather sad actually .

The day was great I guess when in early schools days trying to muster enough balls to ask a girl to the dance or sneak a little card to your lil crush to be your valentine .

Seriously I have stopped buying stuff for valentines day long time ago , I try to do all kinds of nice things for my wife all times of the year , I don't need feb 14 and the advertisements that spending money is how we show affection to people we love .

Thankfully my wife share alot of the same views as I do on everything and is not materialistic ( as those seems to be the girls that get bent outta shape over what they think is entitled to this day ). Say howmuch you love her with this new diamond pendent .

I hate any holiday where the retailers prey upon consumers with the stigma of you don't buy anything your a piece of ..

DeadSeraph
reply to post by unb3k44n7

 

I think poetry is generally better left to poets. I'm also unsure why so many people are under the impression that poetry has to rhyme. That's all I'll say about it.

ETA: Your sarcasm was noticed. I just felt like taking a jab at all the horrible valentines day poetry that has surfaced lately.

edit on 14-2-2014 by DeadSeraph because: (no reason given)

Sorry, I'm a realist seraph. The sig is for people like us. I haven't met a lady yet that I'd share a foxhole with, but maybe that's just because of my circle of friends being too tight. Also troubling would be a date with somebody who could outshoot me (NOT).

22 years ago I got the old girl a little heart with 13 diamonds in it. She maybe didn't get the message because she didn't count them. My problems stemmed from trying to put something on the menu that will never be there. Never forgive, never forget:
especially for trying to fool yourself-- you will succeed.
Just more Bernasian irresistable marketing for financially enhanced nookie probability..
it was the last jewelry I ever bought-- and I should have just got her 13 drinks + cab.

reply to post by DeadSeraph


Apologies for my sentimental rhyming drivel. Please, be a star and show us how it's done. I see no rules that say the poetry can't be anti-Valentines.

DeadSeraph

unb3k44n7
What is this Valentines Day people speak of and what day is it on

Go check out the short stories forum. It's recently been flooded with terrible poetry and should offer you a few leads as to where you should look next in your research.

Yeah...bad, isn't it ?

Funny, I was alone for the longest time (not this year though) and even though I'm not much of a poet, I did write a fluffy poem, printed it out and left it on the fridge for my girlfriend to see when she'd wake up. Now I feel like I should apologize because she loved it !! Hmmm....no. But I then put it in the Short Stories Poetry Contest for this month and even though it's terrible, you know what? It felt good.

Oh...and c'mon...even being alone on Valentine's Day has its positive sides..

reply to post by calstorm


well thats no fun.

DeadSeraph
reply to post by unb3k44n7

 

I think poetry is generally better left to poets. I'm also unsure why so many people are under the impression that poetry has to rhyme. That's all I'll say about it.

ETA: Your sarcasm was noticed. I just felt like taking a jab at all the horrible valentines day poetry that has surfaced lately.

edit on 14-2-2014 by DeadSeraph because: (no reason given)

Wish they still had the "rolling eyes" smiley on here - you know how many time's I've heard that (oh, he shouldn't be a musician, that should be left to those with a degree in music...art should be left to an artist). Poetry doesn't have guidelines - if someone only learned how to rhyme, then that's how they are going to write their poetry. Plus, I did it because making something rhyme is a lot harder than the typical poetry I'm used to writing Poetry's like music: You don't need a degree in it to make it, and it's fun. And I'm not trying to instigate a fight; just being the Devil's Advocate.

Now, to avoid a tangent on my own accord - I'm not really a fan of Valentine's Day either, for the same reasons. When I did have a partner, she would make me cards; know what I had to buy her, or others previous to her? Dinner, movie, jewelery; all those things that wore out my wallet. For me, it just wasn't personal enough - if I do something for a lady, of my own will, she seems to appreciate it even more than doing something just because it's a "romantic holiday". Hate to say it, but these holidays are more there for people spending than reminding us to treasure our loved ones (or our freedom).

-fossilera

reply to post by DeadSeraph


Damn right bro.

I just started a new relationship, and for me this holiday is a pain in the butt because of that expectations that you have to be, do or act according to some false ideals, preached by television and enforced by society.

If you love your girlfriend and show her it the rest of the days, it matters not who you are on that day. Just like the rest of the holidays, like shopping like maniacs after being thankful for what you already have, the hypocrisy of the holidays makes me twisted.