posted on Apr, 1 2014 @ 07:38 PM
i just hope no kids at his school learn of this or he will have serious problems being teased about it. i remember being like him, socially lost,
having no friends, behavior issues, etc and i still have similar issues just not quite as bad as in the past when i was a kid but i can say this. at
first such surprises make you feel nice but afterwards you start doubting your happiness and feeling pathetic about yourself that someone had to
resort to asking for sympathy for your sake, i can tell you that trying too hard in your attempts of kindness will embarrass and hurt people like
that, make them feel like less than others, as if not a person and more like a dog or something below them that begs for attention without shame.
it makes you think friends are even further away than ever, that they could care less about you and are only being nice because they feel bad about
you or are told to be nice, it destroys your self-confidence and all you can do is pretend to be happy and give a fake smile and thank them because
you fear no one really understands and will hate you and scold you for not feeling what they expect you to. things like this make you feel pressured
being nice doesn't do anything for kids like this, sometimes you gotta yell at them and make them feel regret for not trying and force them to do
stuff to make friends and interact. people who are pushy and mean have the best influence on kids like that, shoot i still remember every person like
that but none of the kind ones left any impact on me, some of my few only friends were people i got beaten up by or scolded by or who treated me how i
deserved instead of pitying me, hell, even with the mean uncompromising teachers classes i got the best grades and worked the hardest.
this kid isn't trying on purpose and is running away because of fear, his "consideration" for others in eating alone and not bothering anyone
isn't thoughtfulness but a selfish act that lets him keep hiding, running and making excuses for his problems at interacting.
i don't feel sympathy for him because i know his problem is in his head and is likely his own doing, by his own inaction and a punch in the face is a
better solution to his problem than sympathy. people are too soft and nice(females mostly) when you have a disability and forget you're a normal
person so it's up to you, not them to find friends if you want them.
in fact i remember hitting and insulting other disabled kids for that attitude of "i can act out because everyone is supposed to be nice to me" and
"no one likes me, i'm so pitiful, feel bad for me". not even i went quite so far in my behavior and it angered me when i saw it, it still does in
if a disabled person is given excuses they will take advantage of it and make you feel bad for them so they can get something from you, don't fall
for it so easily just because you feel bad for their plight. this probably is all contrary to what i was saying earlier but trust me, it's how it is
for socially inept disabled kids and it shows how confused we are, why we're so awkward, because we don't know what we want or what we feel yet or
what to do about it.
just putting in my 2 cents from my own past experiences is all.