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This might not be the best place to put this, as it's not about anything romantic, but, since it is about platonic relationships and this is the relationship board, I guess I'll put this here. If it's in the wrong place, Mod's move it, please.
I recently was watching you-tube, and found a video blog about letting go of relationships that are not meant to be forever relationships and are only meant as season's of life relationships, and I found it spoke to me. I hold on to friends, ex's and y's (you know the ex's you look at and go "Why did I spend time with you?"), and even family with this white knuckled determination that would make Olympians shake their head. I need advice on how to let go.
There are people in my life, some toxic and some that I'm the toxic one, who would be better to let go, but I can't. I want to know how they are, if they are happy, and what's going on in their lives. I pray for them, worry about them, and do my best to not seek those who let me go, out.
Is there something wrong with me, that I can't just put them from my mind and move on? Why do they have to be in my daily thoughts?
I'm sorry it's been so long since I've posted, life keeps me to busy to post here often.
Thank you all for your kind words. I have done some more thinking about this, and found very little comfort in the idea of letting go, as Mysterious Stranger suggested. I know things end. Everything ends eventually. I've recently let go of a longtime friendship, and though I don't speak to this person anymore (or have any interaction whatsoever), I find myself wondering all the time. I need to let go certain family, but, I guess I feel a sense of duty to hold on to them. After all, family is family. Occasionally, ex's and y's look me up and contact me, which always sends me into a tale spin. Not so much because I want them back, as I want to turn whatever romantic we had into a lasting friendship and that NEVER works (I end up getting used in some way or another).
It's just hard to walk away from someone you invested so much of your time and yourself into, and treat them like they died. I don't think I can ever get used to it.