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Rule #1 - The girl is always right, even when she isn't.
There are no other rules.
When people show you who they are, BELIEVE THEM.
reply to post by ProfessorChaos
and my reply:
What's this other guy got to offer the one at home doesn't?
Maybe that's important? Hmmm.
Further, is it more important to live without the girl, or with?
What happens if you get a job in another state and want her to move with you?
(might be a ploy to get distance between her and this other fellow)
What would brings more happiness? Life with her, or the thought of life without her?
Further, last I checked, slavery was abolished, the girl is committing no crimes, so that comparison is bunk, and if I'm not mistaken, no one has taken any legal VOWS of fidelity.
But Savage says a more flexible attitude within marriage may be just what the straight community needs. Treating monogamy, rather than honesty or joy or humor, as the main indicator of a successful marriage gives people unrealistic expectations of themselves and their partners. And that, Savage says, destroys more families than it saves
Straight couples don't have to be monogamous to be married or married to be monogamous. Monogamy no more defines marriage than the presence of children does. Monogamy isn't compulsory and its absence doesn't invalidate a marriage.
he says that a more realistic sexual ethic would prize honesty, a little flexibility and, when necessary, forgiveness over absolute monogamy.