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reply to post by Astrocyte
And btw, my comment was directed moreso to your patronizing attitude towards addicts i.e. "They are weak, and disgust me. " hence my comment that you have absolutely no emotional intelligence.
Do you not get that the context affects EVERYTHING? We live in a dysfunctional world - which you apparently adore for it's disorder. Given this is our environment, how can you expect everyone to have the awareness to push through the highly difficult and restrictive effects of heroin withdrawal? Seriously. It's hard. Not only is it hard: but ask Charlie Sheen - who had an arrogant attitude similar to your own - if he could have pushed through his malaise WITHOUT THE SUPPORT of his family.
It would have been IMPOSSIBLE. Absolutely impossible. Each of us has the power to regulate the internal system of the other. If you surround someone with doubt and depression about their situation, you will hurt them. Conversely, if you comfort and support them, you will provide them the ENERGY which they themselves lack.
It's all about rapport - something you dont seem to understand. You have to be receptive to another persons state - understand with compassion and mindfulness their difficulties, and provide them the support they need to match - mirror - your level fo resilience.
The ones who don't are weak. It's the objective truth
reply to post by webedoomed
Most psychologists who read what you write would be tempted to think you have some personality disorder.
One second, you complain about human negligence about the environment, the next second you say "you adore this dysfunctional world". Do you get that human dysfunction feeds into apathy about the environment? Which would you prefer? I guess you're username says it all.
Seriously. You are obviously dealing with very serious narcissistic tendencies - and this is textbook for someone who studies this - I've done a bit of research in this area myself. Talking with you is showing me just how apt psychological diagnostic categories for this disorder are. You hold contradictive views: one second you regard yourself as emotionally intelligent - even though you're ideas obviously don't resonate with other people, obviously do not serve to connect you with other people - so where exactly is the emotional intelligence? Can you acknowledge this? No. You debate it, and like typical narcissistic behaviour: you're right, everyone else is wrong!
And in defending yourself, you cite social darwinism, of all things. Seriously man - you think this is how you make friends? Do you get that very few people in the social sciences, anthropology, psychology, etc, hold to that obnoxious, counter-productive view? Whats proving more valuable - particularly to the ordering of human society - since humans are far more complex than your "survival of the fittest" theories suggest, is survival of the MOST COOPERATIVE. This is the area of Darwins theory - which he emphasized more in his later life, which he thought deserved more investigation. And indeed, social scientists understand that if human beings are to thrive, grow, and mature as a species, we need to develop better relationships with one another: i.e. kindness, love, sympathy, empathy.
I don't know what happened in your life to predispose your attention so far away from these experiences - or why you have this disturbed attraction to disorder, but emotions like love, empathy, kindness, arent "icky" - they are the transcendent source of what makes us different from other species: other species can't reflect on their experiences, can't become aware of their awareness: they cant CHOOSE HOW TO EVOLVE! Whereas we, my friend, can.