posted on Jan, 30 2014 @ 08:25 PM
Thanks everyone. I knew my friends at ATS could give good sage advice on a very touchy subject. I have been asked and I will tell them all about what
I know about my ex. Understand this is a DSS case, child has been taken by DSS and is now in foster care. It's my understanding my ex knows the birth
mother..who happens to be a drug addict, just like my ex. I am going tomorrow morning to DSS in our county and give a deposition of statement.
Some have I beleive, misconstrued the money issue. The $50 a month I get now, hell I give it away. I spend it at the dollar store each month then give
the items I buy to a person in the store at the time I'm there, that i feel needs it. Normally it's folks with small kids and such. I aint hard
spotting folks who need some help. There all around us. The money is secondary, all ways has been. I included that in the op as so all would know she
owed a duty of support for her own kids and how could you ask to be a adoptive parent when, if she was allowed be an adoptive parent charged again
with a duty of supporting this new child. It just boggles my mind how she could even begin to think this was gonna go her way.
My daughter & son from her, are both in a damn tizzy that she could even be considered. They too have been asked to give a statement to DSS as well.
Now, I might have been born at night, but it was'nt last night. I know the possibility of me ever getting the complete amount owed to me $ 57,439.03
is a far stretch. But I will exhaust the system as best I can. I have allways stayed within the system ( child support system). This whole thing will
open up the avenue for me to ask for a upward modification of her support order..maybe get that $50 a month upped to the original amount or at least a
fair amount given her income. I promised my children long ago that I would fight to see she paid every dime she was ordered to pay. I can't for the
life of me break that promise to my kids nor myself.
It seem as if for the past few months the only things I've dealt with are subjects of the heart and emotion. From my Christmas adventure of a new
family member to this. I am not a hard asrse, if my ex owed me nothing & she would have came to terms with her own children and tried more so than
she has to re-connect and try to establish a realationship with her own, I would'nt care what she does. I would'nt agree with an adoption, but I would
feel it's none of my business. But I am involved, and I have been asked to give my account for the DSS & courts to come to a decision. As some has
said..it's my civic duty. This has driven a much larger wedge in between my ex and her own kids. You think I'm in a tizzy... nothing compared to their
I want to thank you all for the advice..... And yes it was a unanimous decision on all of our parts. I am looking forward to the summer , I hear
there's damn nice 5 star hotel resort in West Texas.... I think I & the wife are gonna try it out. PS. My ex is remarried and has a husband who
himself is under support order from our same county for his two kids aged 10 & 7, and pays arrears on his daughter that's 28. Peace OYM1262 PSSS.
When the system is exhausted trying ti get my arrears, ( it will expire 10 years after the kids aged out ) which in this case is when my son
reaches 31 years of age daughter as well. So I have 5 more years that child support enforement will work on my behalf. After that if any monies are
still owed , it's on me. At that time if any is still left oweing, I will consolidate it for a judgement in court and slap liens on anything she owns.
My biggest gripe for anyone and my biggest dis-taste for any people are for people who don't take care of their children.... They ( the children did
not asked to be born).
edit on 30-1-2014 by openyourmind1262 because: (no reason given)