posted on Jan, 30 2014 @ 11:25 AM
Good day all. My time here has taught me you can get a good review of any situation you may find yourself in. I tend to use ATS for more personal
insight from the members, as the members vary from nation to nation and state to state. I find it a good way to get a feel for the populace at large.
A member that has a different stance than I may have ,say on gun-controll may have the same stance on any other subject. I've found that no matter
where your from around the world, some things we all agree on. Some things we will never agree on.
I have a question for all. The question deals with adoption and legal matters & money, and personal responsability.
I have an ex-wife, she is the mother of my two blood children. She and I have been divorced since 1989. I was granted custody of our two children. I
raised them all by my self for about 17 years. In those years, my ex was no where to be found. In those years she accrued a debt of $63,788,50 in
child support payments NOT MADE. The kids are grown, but the debt is still there, it does not magicly vanish. In these years I speak of, she was
arrested for an e-class felony for CUSTODIAL INTERFERENCE ( she took the kids and ran to another state during one of her scheduled visitation times.
She has been arrested for herion use, she was arrested for crack coc aine use, she has been arrested for prostitution. She has been jailed 5
times for non-support and failure to abide by court order. In 2006 she came out of hiding and faced the music, she did this thinking the child support
order would be null and voided because the kids were aged out. She was wrong. The court at that time in 2006-2007 lowered the amount she paid to a
mere $50 per month down from the $ 533.00 per month originally. This was a temporary order. ( $50 per month is the indigent amount when one has no
income). I have let it slide on the $50 per month for over 7 years. As of todays date, she still owes arrears in the amount of $ 57.439,03 payable at
$50 per month.
Now to the crux of my question. I have learned that she is trying to adopt a child. A two year old toddler. I find this to be totally out of the
question. She did not raise her own children, nor has she ever wanted to support her own children. So how can she ask to be considered for this
adoption. She stilll owes $ 57 grand for the two she did'nt raise. I have been asked by the case worker for testimony in this case. The child is now
in foster care and is wanting to be adopted by the foster parents he has been with for allmost all his life. My ex also is trying to adopt. I cannot
agree to her being allowed to adopt a child. She did'nt raise the two she gave birth to and still owes tons of money for all those years of being a
crappy mother. I have learned she is lieing her asre off to the DSS folks. I can probally put a stop to all this with my testimony, question is should
I? Needless to say her own two kids are in a damn up-roar over all this. So should I give testimony and put an end to this or should I just stay in
the shadows and keep getting my $50 per month for the next 95 years. Another part of the question is, if she can afford to adopt a baby with all the
finacial resposability that goes with it, should she not pay more on her debt of not raiseing her own? It's obvious she can afford too. She should be
made to pay off the debt of her own two kids prior to even being considered for being an adoptive parent. Help me ATS family. I need your input.
Thanks in advance. OYM1262
Please don't get me wrong. If she owed nothing and did'nt have the past track record she does, I would'nt even be involved, as it would be none of
my business, but seeing the sheer amount she owes for her own birth children and knowing all she did to get out of paying it. I just can't allow this
to take place.