posted on Jan, 22 2014 @ 09:12 PM
My thoughts, and just my thoughts for what they're worth, is to be the adult in this situation. Clearly your other half is not acting mature here.
There's a little one whose life will be impacted if you break up over this. Not to say you should stay in an unhealthy relationship for the child, but
be wise and mature yourself when making decisions - as this poor little pays the price of the adults' lack of adult behaviors.
Perhaps schedule a dinner, just the two of you, or a walk (if it's warm where you are), or something. No alcohol. No driving (could get into an
argument or something). Away from the child. Away from the "normal" setting.
And then talk. Tell her that you love her (do you?). Tell her what you love about her. Tell her what you need. Tell her your concerns about their
future, and that you need to know where her head and heart are at.
Don't argue, accuse, threaten. Just share your true feelings and ask for her truth. See what happens. You should know her well enough by now to know
if she's lying or such.
Another option is - can you approach the idea of gaining some type of "custody" of the child? Can you become a guardian or adoptive father? If she's
bipolar (???) is she the best "adult" in the child's life right now? Not to say bipolar individuals can't be good parents - but in her case, are her
symptoms and behaviors not in the best interest of the child?
I don't personally believe that we have one "soul mate" -- although the love of my life sure felt like one. Even so, I feel that with 7 billion (is
that how many there are?) people in the world, there must be many individuals we could be in a loving relationship with - if we were to meet them.
(The odds seem to indicate so.) While I've not had the odds in my favor
, I'm still hopeful that I'll meet a great man and have another deep loving
relationship (eternally optimistic I am!).
I hope things work out well for you. Tough spot to be in. Be the adult. Somebody has to.
edit on 22-1-2014 by Galadriel because: (no reason