Random acts of kindness are wonderful and most definitely restore faith.
What I find troublesome about acts of kindness are that we do not treat ourselves to those same gifts, but appear to wallow in a world of destructive
and chaotic thoughts, brought on by a seemingly uncontrollable mental loop, throughout the day.
There is a saying that, anger is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
What I’m about to share maybe be a simplistic approach to a happier state of being, but I know that it appears to be working for me.
How does one be kind to oneself? Buy a new car, hmmm new laptop, or maybe indulge in lots of food, or buy a new wardrobe, actually I was thinking of
something much different.
How can we extend any love or kindness into the world when we hate ourselves and have toxic thoughts, or rituals constantly streaming throughout the
You all know what exactly what I’m talking about, and here are some examples. No laughing either.
"God I'm an idiot"
"How stupid can I be?"
Guy’s: when a woman pisses you off “####”
Driving along and someone cuts you off – “That #$#ing #$##hole”
Boss walks by and says something negative – “I hope that he/she insert, insert”
Someone steps out in the street before the light changes – “OK dumbass one more step and your about to make the 6 O’clock news, and tomorrows
Women look at each other all the time in judgment and the negative judgmental storms emanate from their internal war chest “Bitch you didn’t just
do that, or say that” “she doesn’t know who she’s #$$$ing with”
Waiting in line at the store, bank, or for transportation and you are mentally destroying people that are around you.
I could go on, but I think you all get my point; this is not the foundation for a healthly constructive mindset, but rather one that will slowly
destroy itself, and everything in it’s path.
I discovered something simple, something that is an amazing transformation for the better, but it takes a bit of mental awareness and slight of
Start doing acts of kindness for yourself; replace destructive thoughts with constructive ones. Sound easy? Hmmm well if you actually take the time
to catch all of your destructive thoughts throughout the day, it most likely will be a challenge.
Start loving yourself again, start giving yourself caring thoughts.
When I get a sad thought, or a thought that I consider destructive, I immediately replace it with a constructive thought, or a positive one. It can
even be a saying like, "I am happy" over and over till the destructive thought subsides.
Remember when we were children and we heard things that bothered us? We shut them out, or replaced them with a fantasy world, or guess what? Yes,
positive constructive thoughts.
It's funny how we allow our minds to punish us and leaves us in a state of chaos and disarray, yet many times we will do random acts of kindness for
others. We need to love ourselves first, and then love, kindness and strength are easy to share with others all the time.
Your mind isn’t that smart, even though you think it is. Replacing your current destructive program with a more positive one doesn’t seem to make
a bit of difference to the mind, but the benefits are rewarding on many levels.
From my personal position this is a work in progress, not a silver bullet, but it works very well.
My states of sadness are less and less, anger is almost a faded memory, glimpses of happiness are popping up in many places during my day, I laugh at
myself again. The little chronic physical ailments that used to bother me are starting to go away and some have actually disappeared.
The little things that used to bother me just roll off of my back, but the most amazing thing is the ways that people are reacting when I enter a
It’s almost magnetic; people seem to be attracted to a person that loves themselves. Why? Because most people want to be around a person that has
a positive aura and are unconsciously feeding from that energy, what they don’t realize is that they have the power to make themselves happy.
My random act of kindness is giving you the wisdom that I have discovered, it costs nothing but your time and awareness.
So when you are at your wits end think about this little bit of wisdom, that may very well change your entire life.
Peace, good thoughts and love.
edit on 20-1-2014 by Realtruth because: (no reason given)