posted on Jan, 18 2014 @ 02:04 PM
I wonder if the person reporting these things is the exaggerator here? Or is it you, yourself? As with many of these "This bad thing is happening to
me, ATS, won't you please agree with me that all these people I'm telling you about are schmucks" threads, you've told your story, and now you
have a bunch of reactions supporting you. That's kind of how this is set up.
So we have your side of the story and it is one of a near perfect person who does everything right and is the most helpful, reasonable (albeit
private) person in the entire world who has never done anything to anyone ever to justify this kind of treatment, this kind of undeserved reputation.
Somehow these rumors have started from nothing, kind of like the Big Bang.
That's kind of strange, frankly. I've been in a lot of work environments, like 30 or so, over my working career, and been subject to office politics
myself and seen a lot more. I've seen employees ostracized to the point that they quit. But I've never seen the extreme you have reported here, the
perfect person on the one hand and the truly scurrilous lies on the other hand, apparently from out of the blue. Usually this stuff starts somewhere.
Like a grain of sand that causes a pearl to form, there is an irritant somewhere. What could that possibly be?
Well, as we read through this story we discover that actually, you DO have a "special friend," a best friend, in fact (but only a best friend) who
is male, and people have noticed this "special" relationship. And we DO have this admission that management has put you on the fast track for
promotion, even though you've been there a short time, much shorter than the others. And, oh, yes, you DO have some familiarity with certain
controlled substances (though EVERYBODY does so what's the big deal!). And there's this tiny matter of you spending time in prison for kiting a bad
check (I'm sure you didn't know and all and were set-up.)
Now, the times I have seen employees ostracized the one thing they had in common was an inability to fit into the corporate culture COMBINED WITH a
haughty attitude, at least a PERCEIVED haughty attitude. In one case I'm thinking of it wasn't really fair, IMO, but this woman kind of brought it
on herself. She belonged to a very conservative religion that frowned on "normal" activities. She did think she was pretty special; in fact, she was
average, and her "punishment" took the form of never being able to get a ride with the others to lunch, never being invited to after-work parties,
the "silent treatment" and so forth. She finally quit and got a much better job elsewhere. In fact, she did great at her next job where she was much
Now, none of us knows who started these rumors, but I've got my eye on the person who told you about them. There are people in the workplace who
enjoy "stirring the hornet's nest" to see what happens. So the fact is you may not have been told reality in the first place.
The second person I suspect is you. By your own admission you have enough in your background and behavior to start these rumors. You've been very
open about discussing them on this open, public forum. If you were really a "very private person" you wouldn't be dumping this entire story here.
My guess is you've embellished it considerably.
So the bottom line is that you're not going to make it in this workplace environment. You may as well plan on a new job. The EEOC cannot help you
because you have not made the case as a "protected class." It's not as if you're a minority in an all-white workplace. Besides, EEOC issues take
eons to bring forward, and you don't have the time.
I know you won't like this, nor will others on this thread who are your co-dependents, people who support you implicitly having heard only your side
of events. The one thing that is certain is that there is another side. You've given us some hints of it, but there's no way we can know the full