Sugar Daddies

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ARI was a 20-year-old student struggling to help her single mother pay the bills.
She had her heart set on a dance degree at Texas State University, but knew she could not afford the thousands of dollars in tuition fees.
"My parents had split, and my mum was having trouble with child support with my siblings and stuff, so I was working, like, five jobs to help," Ari told KENS5 .
Then she heard about SeekingArrangement.com, a sugar daddy dating website specialising in "mutually beneficial arrangements between wealthy benefactors and attractive people".
Ari signed up to be a "sugar baby", with a few caveats.
"I'm a virgin. We're not doing it. We're not doing anything sexual," she said.

Things like this really get my goat up. Women, what the hell are you doing publicly shaming your own kin for?

Seriously.. your an attractive 20yr women.
You've signed up on a website to find a 35yr old rich sugar daddy.
He gives you money.

"As long as you're not compromising your morals, and you're OK with what you do, I think it's a good idea," Ari said.

A SeekingArrangement.com spokesperson said the arrangements are not considered prostitution because sexual contact is not mandatory.

Yeah, ok...

try this!
next time he gives you a few thousand dollars.. refuse sex, sexual acts, foreplay and see how much longer this '' non prostitution way of earning money'' goes on.


.. and women wonder why men have no respect for them!

Agit8dChop

.. and women wonder why men have no respect for them!

How is it that you lump all women together regardless of actions? I don't know any woman who would do this. Why would one deserve less respect because the other one "serviced" her way through college?

I don't wonder why, when a man disrespects me whenever it has happened. I assume it's because he had no respect for his mother and/or his father neglected to teach him to have respect for all individuals until they show they "deserve" otherwise.

As far as this arrangement goes? I don't like it. I don't think anyone should sell themselves, but it isn't my body nor my tuition. Others can do as they wish as long as they are two consenting adults.

If we really want to get down to brass tacks we can say that everyone sells themselves to a certain extent. Even married people. Want a new car that hubby isn't quite ready to buy??? Be super nice, cook every night, do "extra" things you don't do every other night.... it happens. Men want the new 4 wheeler to play around on? Flowers everyday, a little extra money to go shopping. The only difference is that it occurs in a relationship that wasn't started (at least vocally) with the "sugar daddy" agreement.

And women wonder why a good portion of men think a hamburger and a movie on a first date, or a drink in a lounge, should be reciprocated with sex.

reply to post by Agit8dChop


I always find it interesting when people become outraged at what others do when it has no impact on them whatsoever. Not making fun of your stance here at all but truly do not understand. What possible reason could you have for this reaction?

The girl said "no sex" so what's the issue she's not prostituting herself. Even if she was it's between her and the guy she hooked up with. The universe can be a difficult place to survive and being angry that others don't live up to your standards or morals is illogical IMO.

It's actually not very public. Most of the "sugar daddy" arrangements that are serious, the women have boyfriends on the side clueless to the situation. The girls have a businessman, lawyer or doctor or whatever that bankrolls an apartment, their school, spending money, car, etc.

While searching out the arrangements might get caught by someone in their social circle, most people are completely oblivious to the partnerships once they are established.

A good way to spot them is girls travelling all the time but it's only selfies or pictures of them at landmarks, on yachts, etc.

reply to post by Bassago

The girl said "no sex" so what's the issue she's not prostituting herself.

Yes, yes. And I'm a virgin who's never cheated or slept with hookers or both multiple times while intoxicated. Oh and I never ever…

Wait, are we playing a drinking game?

This agreement only sounds beneficial to the sugar baby... so, what does the guy get from her? where is the "mutual" benefit ?

Whatever. It's mutual. They are both getting something they want out of it. It's weird but I am not really bothered by it either. To each their own, nobody is getting hurt (unless that's part of their kinky deal).

That said calling it sugar daddy arrangement is amusing to me. Come now. Let's call it what it is. The Girl Friend Experience.

We're not doing anything sexual," she said.

Riiight.

reply to post by Agit8dChop


I am a man. I respect women. I respect anyone who does not prove themselves unworthy of that respect. I have to admit that I find the idea of people living lives as described in this article to be a little disconcerting, but I can hardly judge these people, as I am sure that my life would seem deeply strange to some people on this planet.

What I would say, is that life presents very few real opportunities to advance oneself, and I can well understand someone taking hold of any that present themselves.

Agit8dChop

.. and women wonder why men have no respect for them!

edit on 15-1-2014 by Agit8dChop because: (no reason given)

Men have been taught to think women as the "weaker sex", this case proves the opposite in my opinion.

It seems as though you feel this way...you must be one of the old fashioned type that still wants the upper hand over the female.

I need a sugar daddy.

I am exhausted.



Like someone said... Who cares, it's not your life and she's not bothering you. So, forget about it.

isnt this what dating and marriage is anyway?

i mean you dont need to marry or live with someone just because you 2 are in "love". that seems irrelevant.
you do it because you each have something to gain.

For heavens sake!

All relationships are based on the very same give and take arrangement.

When you go looking for a partner what do you look for. Here is a list both old fashioned and new. Hey, add to it if I have missed anything.

I want a good provider for our kids when we get them

Someone with good career prospects.

Someone my friends will swoon over

someone that impresses my friends / parents / whomever

someone with big / small / long / shapely (insert body part here)

Someone with money

Has to have a (insert brand name) (insert a thing)

Has to love me.

Has to do what they are told / has to take care of me.

Has to like cats / dogs / budgies / other animal

Has to be good at sex / ping pong / tennis / other

Etc


These arrangements are no different. The sugar daddy wants a lovely partner to show off / have sex with / whatever.

It is all the same thing. We all want our needs serviced by a partner, whatever those needs are. These people are just staing their needs, wants and aspirations in a rather forthright, very direct manner.

Get over it. Live and let live. Should be more of this direct communication.

No one batts an eyelid when an old first rate actor has a twenty something hanging of his / her arm.

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reply to post by pheonix358


Your post brings to light an angle of approach to this subject which I thought it ill advised to address, but now that you have begun to do so, I would like to chip in if I may.

In my opinion, there is only one reason, not several, to become involved in a proper, serious relationship. If being apart from the person for whom you feel affection, is physically painful, and you would fight, kill, and die for them without a moments thought or hesitation, then it might be worth the drama. Nothing else is. Not money, not security, not the continuance of the species, not ego stroking, nor the need to show someone off as if they were a bauble to add to your own prestige.

But that is just the way I look at the subject, and as I previously stated, I am sure that there are people out there in the world who would think me a very strange person indeed (in fact, I know there are. Most of them are my friends ) for thinking the way I do, about lots of things. Largely speaking, I can only look to my own conduct, and ensure it measures up to my standards. My standards, and thinking on these things however, should not be important to anyone else but me, because if we were all alike in every way, the human race would be a tedious thing to behold, let alone be a member of.

all good points of view, maybe i am a bit harsh.

A wealthy man doesn't pay a young attractive girl for her company, he pays her because she's young and sexy and wants money.
I don't care if they call it a business relationship. Its sex and foreplay for cash!

a rose by any other name..

How many of these sugar daddies would continue paying miss education-tart if she stopped the hanky panky and little g's!

Lying materialistic whores is a better business title for this profession.... at-least prostitution has a reputable name!
Don't get me wrong, I'm sure there would be instances where they go to a fair or a carnival like friends or what not.. but its not what he's paying for!

and by all means this is a very tiny slice of the beautiful female species.. you girls are what make the world go round!

pheonix358
No one batts an eyelid when an old first rate actor has a twenty something hanging of his / her arm.

true.. but we all know the truth about the matter, no mater what the legally subject E-News team says.
Marriage is quite a bit different, your with that person through thick and thin, rich or poor no matter what. You depend on each other.

In this situation, she depends on him to keep paying her to stay around, pretending she likes him!
I'd be confident in saying 98% of these ''arrangements'' have sexual contact clauses. If she turns off the sex, he turns of the cash!

Like the old saying goes..."You only live once..."

So you might as well, make the best of it while you can, and it' s not like your going to be able to your money to the grave.

And if your getting this upset over this girl wanting a sugar daddy, then something says your guilty. Or, were used in that way.

If they had a Cougar Mommy site I'd sign the hell up....

So, this girl seems to be saying she wants some rich dudes money, but she is up front about not being willing to contribute anything to this arrangement. Maybe she is so hot looking she feels her looks alone will provide "sustenance" for any guy.

Just reading this makes me laugh pretty hard..

"you just gotta love it"

Diabolical
And if your getting this upset over this girl wanting a sugar daddy, then something says your guilty. Or, were used in that way.

neither, but you can spot a lying & immoral woman just by looking in her eyes..
when she opens her mouth and says she's being paid for friendship, well that just sealed it!