reply to post by Hefficide
Klass took the words out of my mouth when he said..
1. I am genuinely glad to see you back at ATS.
2. Thank you for having the courage to share this.
3. Thank you for having the courage to be a real man, and a real human being. (thanks Klass)
Your journey you are going through is one of struggle, as we all do...some more than others. I do mean to sounds flipant, and if so, forgive me but, I
tend to say exactly how I sees it.
However, a caterpillar doesn't morph into a butterfly unless it does struggle within it's cocoon.
Things that help me in my struggles of life and the life of helping/struggling/battling my mother out of her manic depression, bi-polar illness for 10
years, yes, I lived with her for a short time during the hardest times.
1) Laugh...and have a good laugh till you cry. Why? Because, a joyful
heart (the place where the mind, will and emotions are all at one
with each other
) makes for a good medicine. For out of it, come the issues of life.
2) Do NOT, be responsible for carrying any more responsibility OTHER THAN, taking care of your mind and body right now. You don't need to work to make
a living,you're physical needs are being taking care. Don't need to council others with they issues, don't accept major tasks/responsibility that
lock you in a state of regiment besides picking up /cleaning after yourself.
focus on things that bring joy to your heart. You'll know this when you feel it and it's expressive on your face during the day.
Look in the
mirror, do you see a smile? If not, go back to step 1. Now, as weird as that sounds. Think about a child when all is right in their world.
the expression on their face?
3) When fighting boredom and looking to do something, pick 1 (one) thing you like to do that brings joy and happiness when you do it...just 1 thing
and nothing else. If you have to write 1000 threads on ATS and it brings you that joy and happiness, DO IT!!! But, TRY and not do any thing else until
you've mastered that one down. Like on-line gaming/computer gaming ..? GREAT, do it as long as it doesn't interfere with #1 above.
4) This can be a bit of a hard one. DO NOT by any means, associate, chat, hang around with or Eat with, ANYONE that does NOT have YOUR best interest
in their heart for you. PERIOD. Be it, 'friends', ....family, or even acquaintances . Why? Because, they will NOT give you their best advice for life.
Someone that truly has YOUR best interest in their heart is someone that truly cares for you as a human being and will try and always give you the
best advice they can and will treat you with respect.
: My best friend, is 100% disabled, has to live on SSI and has done so for 15 years and doesn't have the best of wheels to get around.
He didn't have a choice in the matter do to his illness. His immediate family were going to be on a family reunion in another state, they told
him...did not ask him, about it. He
asked them if they were going and his mother said yes.."but you'll have to come up with a way
there...and help out financially with the gas and food
Needless to say, it turned out to be a HUGE fiasco by the time he went up there. THAT is what I mean. No regard to his financial plight at all and
totally did not even really want him to go except for his donations and ridiculed him in front of the other extended family members.
Love you Heff. Be well my friend, you were missed. Message me should you need to chat.
edit on 13-1-2014 by Komodo because: (no reason
edit on 13-1-2014 by Komodo because: (no reason given)